So I feel like I can never find a guy...

  • 8Always_Hard8

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    Nov 04, 2009 2:57 AM GMT
    So I feel like I can never find a guy... ya it really sucks being 19 (no clubs or anything fun like that) So that basically sets me to online or the gym... and of course the random people that you see. I just never know where to look and who go look for.


    Any tips?
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    Nov 04, 2009 5:39 AM GMT
    Yea, don't totter off to NY for the weekend then blowoff vball on sunday! LOL icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 04, 2009 5:43 AM GMT
    Dont lose hope and stay positive im in the same perdicament despite the fact im older. Why? because i live in a small minded community and like you my choices are limited.

    You seem like a cool dude im pretty sure love is gonna find you.
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    Nov 04, 2009 5:48 AM GMT
    well honey, join the club!
  • SFGeoNinja

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    Nov 04, 2009 5:52 AM GMT
    livelovelearn saidwell...I haven't dated in years, and have only had one boyfriend, as I trust no one. yeah pretty pathetic, but I can't handle getting cheated on again, I was so in love, like something out of a fairy tale, and I just got stepped on and used and I really never got over it. Childish maybe, but Id rather concentrate on my career and traveling and being with friends and family, then to have to deal with the drama and chaos and heartache that is usually inevitable with a gay relationship. Don't mean to generalize, but all my gay friends relationships are filled with scorn, mockery, denial, lies and spitefulness. I loathe the gay scene and even in Provincetown where I spend most of my summer, I hardly go out, usually stay in after working and read lol...too much appearance, and the 'me me me me' complex club guys have and not enough love, depth, character, humility and heart...everything is surface...I'm so fuckin sick of it

    so......stay single until you find the right someone....hard if you aren't dating though. I have never used an online dating service and I certainly dont hook up with someone I don't even know.....there seems to be some pretty intelligent and unique guys on here...maybe you will just bump into the man of your dreams when you least expect it....at the most random of places...at the most random of times, and just maybe you will really find someone,eh, man love is great, God now I'm depressed LOL, fuck it.

    good luck I am sure you have a lot to offer someone...


    OP, you are 19 and you are hardly in the place to accept someone else's judgements about "all gay relationships". Maybe wait until you've had more than one before you begin to generalize yourself. Now is the time you are supposed to be experimenting and pushing the envelope of what you look for in a guy - heartbreak is to be expected along with the euphoria of it all. If you stay social, outgoing, open and inclusive of new people and leave your bitterness aside, attractive guys will find you - especially when you are least expecting it. Chin up
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    Nov 04, 2009 5:56 AM GMT
    8Always_Hard8 saidSo I feel like I can never find a guy... ya it really sucks being 19 (no clubs or anything fun like that) So that basically sets me to online or the gym... and of course the random people that you see. I just never know where to look and who go look for.


    Any tips?


    You say in your profile that you are a college guy, so why not try to join a gay student organization? You could meet some other young gay men and perhaps at the same time do some worthwhile volunteer work.
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    Nov 04, 2009 6:29 AM GMT
    girl, stop! you're next door to MPLS and you can't find a man??? i just did a very, very short perusal of the boiz in minneapolis on manhunt of all places, and there is hot madness all over that muthafucka. does you be needin' a new prescription in yo glasses?
  • 8Always_Hard8

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    Nov 04, 2009 6:35 AM GMT
    bostonvball- i hate you haha

    i think we should make a singles club... haha a lot of guys in common


    heartrobb- yes i am a college guy but i dont do those clubs and stuff... and I am kinda picky about guys (another problem haha)

    I love older muscle guys (like they are f-ing hot) but I want someone near my age... i am 19 soo... somewhere 23-35ish would make me happy


    and yes I have experimented more than enough with guys... lol i kinda call myself slutty, but whatcha going to do

    I really just wanna go... "Hey you... your now mine" and then I would be good
  • jrs1

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    Nov 04, 2009 7:55 AM GMT

    haha. I have to say it ... I wonder if it'll ever happen? [back to waiting]
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    Nov 04, 2009 1:59 PM GMT
    8Always_Hard8 saidSo I feel like I can never find a guy... ya it really sucks being 19 (no clubs or anything fun like that) So that basically sets me to online or the gym... and of course the random people that you see. I just never know where to look and who go look for.


    Any tips?


    A couple of great books.

    "My Guy: A Gay Man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship"

    "Finding the Boyfriend Within"
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    Nov 04, 2009 2:03 PM GMT
    I HEAR THIS DAILY FROM MY FRIENDS!!! YOU ARE YOUNG AND DAMN GOOD LOOKING! ENJOY YOU FREEDOM! TRUST ME! DONT LOOK FOR ANYTHING! IT WILL FIND YOU WHEN AND IF THE TIME IS RIGHT!
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    Nov 04, 2009 2:09 PM GMT
    You need to socialize more.

    Either join a club, sport, or some sort of organization. I row for my university and am in a fraternity, now I don't know if you categorize those as "those clubs and stuff"... but you've got to get out.

    Find a new clique to hang out with while maintaining your current ones. Only a few people in the rowing club know I'm out, while the majority of my fraternity knows.

    From this point, you'll find a guy. at a party, in your club, etc... or just through friends.

    If you like guys 23-25, then talk to a professor about joining his research team (if they do it depending on your major) and you'll find plenty of good looking guys. Some gay (in mine there's 2, but no...icon_confused.gif, I wouldn't go for them. Lol)

    You say you're 19, but that would never toss a club opportunity out of the window. It's true some are only 21+, but I heard of a gay club down here that's 18+. Then again, not really a gay club type of person.
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    Nov 04, 2009 2:22 PM GMT
    dancerjack saidgirl, stop! you're next door to MPLS and you can't find a man??? i just did a very, very short perusal of the boiz in minneapolis on manhunt of all places, and there is hot madness all over that muthafucka. does you be needin' a new prescription in yo glasses?


    ROTFLMAO!!!!
  • 8Always_Hard8

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    Nov 04, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
    qbanjock saidI HEAR THIS DAILY FROM MY FRIENDS!!! YOU ARE YOUNG AND DAMN GOOD LOOKING! ENJOY YOU FREEDOM! TRUST ME! DONT LOOK FOR ANYTHING! IT WILL FIND YOU WHEN AND IF THE TIME IS RIGHT!




    thanks icon_smile.gif

    lol i am weird... i like being tied down, but i dont know why
  • Webster666

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    Nov 04, 2009 11:00 PM GMT
    "Any tips?"
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    Get a dog.
    Seriously.
    Enjoy life, laugh with your friends, do what you like to do, until "Mr. Right" comes along.
    Or, you could go to a sex club...
  • 8Always_Hard8

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    Nov 04, 2009 11:48 PM GMT
    ooo i like this sex club idea

    haha
  • mcwclewis

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    Nov 04, 2009 11:54 PM GMT
    Trust me, it's better than having complete access to a bunch of guys who suck (not in the good way)
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    Nov 05, 2009 12:03 AM GMT
    mcwclewis saidTrust me, it's better than having complete access to a bunch of guys who suck (not in the good way)


    [Profound roar from the crowd!!]
    "True THAT!"
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    Nov 05, 2009 12:04 AM GMT
    dude just wait, your 19.. if theres no one around right now pretend like you dont want someone haha. you got a while
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    Nov 05, 2009 12:05 AM GMT
    8Always_Hard8 saidooo i like this sex club idea
    haha


    Careful junior... you can get a lot of things from a sex club, the most unlikely thing is a boyfriend. icon_wink.gif not a judgment, just a buy in on the topic
  • 8Always_Hard8

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    Nov 05, 2009 12:07 AM GMT
    EasilyDistracted said
    8Always_Hard8 saidooo i like this sex club idea
    haha


    Careful junior... you can get a lot of things from a sex club, the most unlikely thing is a boyfriend. icon_wink.gif not a judgment, just a buy in on the topic


    lol i no... i was just joking


    but still hate being lonely
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    Nov 05, 2009 12:10 AM GMT
    8Always_Hard8 said
    but still hate being lonely

    I understand.
    Make good choices and when you compromise (which we all fall into from time to time) don't dwell on it. It's all about the rebound! You'll find someone and all the waiting will have been worth it. ;)
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    Nov 05, 2009 12:17 AM GMT

    I'm gonna mirror what a gentleman said in another thread : be the man you want to attract.


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    Nov 06, 2009 12:30 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]8Always_Hard8 said[/cite]
    qbanjock saidI HEAR THIS DAILY FROM MY FRIENDS!!! YOU ARE YOUNG AND DAMN GOOD LOOKING! ENJOY YOU FREEDOM! TRUST ME! DONT LOOK FOR ANYTHING! IT WILL FIND YOU WHEN AND IF THE TIME IS RIGHT!




    thanks icon_smile.gif

    lol i am weird... i like being tied down, but i dont know why[/quote

    He likes being tied down? And he's near me!!!

    I won't say anything else right now.
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    Nov 06, 2009 12:32 AM GMT
    You're 19. Just concentrate on living your life and being the best person you can be.