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So I feel like I can never find a guy... ya it really sucks being 19 (no clubs or anything fun like that) So that basically sets me to online or the gym... and of course the random people that you see. I just never know where to look and who go look for.


Any tips?

Yea, don't totter off to NY for the weekend then blowoff vball on sunday! LOL

Dont lose hope and stay positive im in the same perdicament despite the fact im older. Why? because i live in a small minded community and like you my choices are limited.

You seem like a cool dude im pretty sure love is gonna find you.

well honey, join the club!

im in the same boat as 8always_hard and ANDCB...it's frustrating

livelovelearn saidwell...I haven't dated in years, and have only had one boyfriend, as I trust no one. yeah pretty pathetic, but I can't handle getting cheated on again, I was so in love, like something out of a fairy tale, and I just got stepped on and used and I really never got over it. Childish maybe, but Id rather concentrate on my career and traveling and being with friends and family, then to have to deal with the drama and chaos and heartache that is usually inevitable with a gay relationship. Don't mean to generalize, but all my gay friends relationships are filled with scorn, mockery, denial, lies and spitefulness. I loathe the gay scene and even in Provincetown where I spend most of my summer, I hardly go out, usually stay in after working and read lol...too much appearance, and the 'me me me me' complex club guys have and not enough love, depth, character, humility and heart...everything is surface...I'm so fuckin sick of it

so......stay single until you find the right someone....hard if you aren't dating though. I have never used an online dating service and I certainly dont hook up with someone I don't even know.....there seems to be some pretty intelligent and unique guys on here...maybe you will just bump into the man of your dreams when you least expect it....at the most random of places...at the most random of times, and just maybe you will really find someone,eh, man love is great, God now I'm depressed LOL, fuck it.

good luck I am sure you have a lot to offer someone...

OP, you are 19 and you are hardly in the place to accept someone else's judgements about "all gay relationships". Maybe wait until you've had more than one before you begin to generalize yourself. Now is the time you are supposed to be experimenting and pushing the envelope of what you look for in a guy - heartbreak is to be expected along with the euphoria of it all. If you stay social, outgoing, open and inclusive of new people and leave your bitterness aside, attractive guys will find you - especially when you are least expecting it. Chin up

8Always_Hard8 saidSo I feel like I can never find a guy... ya it really sucks being 19 (no clubs or anything fun like that) So that basically sets me to online or the gym... and of course the random people that you see. I just never know where to look and who go look for.


Any tips?

You say in your profile that you are a college guy, so why not try to join a gay student organization? You could meet some other young gay men and perhaps at the same time do some worthwhile volunteer work.

girl, stop! you're next door to MPLS and you can't find a man??? i just did a very, very short perusal of the boiz in minneapolis on manhunt of all places, and there is hot madness all over that muthafucka. does you be needin' a new prescription in yo glasses?

bostonvball- i hate you haha

i think we should make a singles club... haha a lot of guys in common


heartrobb- yes i am a college guy but i dont do those clubs and stuff... and I am kinda picky about guys (another problem haha)

I love older muscle guys (like they are f-ing hot) but I want someone near my age... i am 19 soo... somewhere 23-35ish would make me happy


and yes I have experimented more than enough with guys... lol i kinda call myself slutty, but whatcha going to do

I really just wanna go... "Hey you... your now mine" and then I would be good

haha. I have to say it ... I wonder if it'll ever happen? [back to waiting]

8Always_Hard8 saidSo I feel like I can never find a guy... ya it really sucks being 19 (no clubs or anything fun like that) So that basically sets me to online or the gym... and of course the random people that you see. I just never know where to look and who go look for.


Any tips?

A couple of great books.

"My Guy: A Gay Man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship"

"Finding the Boyfriend Within"

I HEAR THIS DAILY FROM MY FRIENDS!!! YOU ARE YOUNG AND DAMN GOOD LOOKING! ENJOY YOU FREEDOM! TRUST ME! DONT LOOK FOR ANYTHING! IT WILL FIND YOU WHEN AND IF THE TIME IS RIGHT!

You need to socialize more.

Either join a club, sport, or some sort of organization. I row for my university and am in a fraternity, now I don't know if you categorize those as "those clubs and stuff"... but you've got to get out.

Find a new clique to hang out with while maintaining your current ones. Only a few people in the rowing club know I'm out, while the majority of my fraternity knows.

From this point, you'll find a guy. at a party, in your club, etc... or just through friends.

If you like guys 23-25, then talk to a professor about joining his research team (if they do it depending on your major) and you'll find plenty of good looking guys. Some gay (in mine there's 2, but no..., I wouldn't go for them. Lol)

You say you're 19, but that would never toss a club opportunity out of the window. It's true some are only 21+, but I heard of a gay club down here that's 18+. Then again, not really a gay club type of person.

dancerjack saidgirl, stop! you're next door to MPLS and you can't find a man??? i just did a very, very short perusal of the boiz in minneapolis on manhunt of all places, and there is hot madness all over that muthafucka. does you be needin' a new prescription in yo glasses?

ROTFLMAO!!!!

qbanjock saidI HEAR THIS DAILY FROM MY FRIENDS!!! YOU ARE YOUNG AND DAMN GOOD LOOKING! ENJOY YOU FREEDOM! TRUST ME! DONT LOOK FOR ANYTHING! IT WILL FIND YOU WHEN AND IF THE TIME IS RIGHT!

thanks

lol i am weird... i like being tied down, but i dont know why

"Any tips?"
____________________
Get a dog.
Seriously.
Enjoy life, laugh with your friends, do what you like to do, until "Mr. Right" comes along.
Or, you could go to a sex club...

ooo i like this sex club idea

haha

Trust me, it's better than having complete access to a bunch of guys who suck (not in the good way)

mcwclewis saidTrust me, it's better than having complete access to a bunch of guys who suck (not in the good way)

[Profound roar from the crowd!!]
"True THAT!"

dude just wait, your 19.. if theres no one around right now pretend like you dont want someone haha. you got a while

8Always_Hard8 saidooo i like this sex club idea
haha

Careful junior... you can get a lot of things from a sex club, the most unlikely thing is a boyfriend. not a judgment, just a buy in on the topic

EasilyDistracted said

8Always_Hard8 saidooo i like this sex club idea
haha

Careful junior... you can get a lot of things from a sex club, the most unlikely thing is a boyfriend. not a judgment, just a buy in on the topic

lol i no... i was just joking


but still hate being lonely

8Always_Hard8 said
but still hate being lonely

I understand.
Make good choices and when you compromise (which we all fall into from time to time) don't dwell on it. It's all about the rebound! You'll find someone and all the waiting will have been worth it. ;)

I'm gonna mirror what a gentleman said in another thread : be the man you want to attract.

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qbanjock saidI HEAR THIS DAILY FROM MY FRIENDS!!! YOU ARE YOUNG AND DAMN GOOD LOOKING! ENJOY YOU FREEDOM! TRUST ME! DONT LOOK FOR ANYTHING! IT WILL FIND YOU WHEN AND IF THE TIME IS RIGHT!

thanks

lol i am weird... i like being tied down, but i dont know why[/quote

He likes being tied down? And he's near me!!!

I won't say anything else right now.

You're 19. Just concentrate on living your life and being the best person you can be.

It's easy to find a man. It's hard to find a man that's worth your while. Very important detail left out.

dannyboy1101 saidIt's easy to find a man. It's hard to find a man that's worth your while. Very important detail left out.

well duh...

But now I want someone for a while

That would be nice, wouldn't it?

relax

8Always_Hard8 said

dannyboy1101 saidIt's easy to find a man. It's hard to find a man that's worth your while. Very important detail left out.

well duh...

But now I want someone for a while

hahaha just wanted to make sure you could see the pictures on this website.

ya for sure


haha thanks danny

Don't listen to that "oooh you're only 19" crap.

They've been telling me that since I am 16. I am 23 now.

Still never had a love relationship. Not even with a girl.

Just try to fill up your days with as much as you can. And be depressed about not having a boyfriend once a month. That's what I do. It sucks, but hey that's life.

charlitos saidrelax

What he said.

I know right?!
I can't find one either and I'm looking EVERYDAY!

...with a pick axe, butcher knife, ball gag and A LOT of rope.
Why are they hiding?!

Send me a flight ticket, and I'll come and be your boyfriend.You're so cute!

Are you in college?

Anyways I think that the best way is online.
Trust me I've met people online, lol.

You're not weird at all

A lot of young people like being tied down. The biggest issue with many of them, however, is that they are constantly projecting themselves into the future, always considering what they want to happen tomorrow and how they want it to happen and how long they want it to last.

Because of this, a lot of young people who want to settle down, are very lonely. Because this need to access the future causes them to over analyze someone's potential and chemistry with them. Very few young guys have the patience to continue getting to know a guy who doesn't wow them immediately.

You're young, you're attractive. You literally have your whole life ahead of you. I say spend this time gathering added stability, shelter and friends and have fun from time to time. And as you meet people, genuinely get to know them and allow yourself to remain open to surprises and possibilities. Many of these things you may not be able to do anymore when you settle down with someone, so take advantage of it and don't demonize yourself if you have a bit of meaningless fun along the way too.

Should you not be TOO PICKY, you'll find someone. Until then, life is an adventure. Surround yourself with people who fill the void and explore, until the day comes.