does a hot straight guy think like a hot gay guy??

  • emailaddress

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    Nov 06, 2009 1:25 PM GMT
    During the 20 minutes i was drying clothes at the local coin laundry, I chatted up this indian bodybuilder. very approachable, extremely easy to talk to. he has only been in the country for a short period of time, so not perfect english, but understandable. the whole time i was talking to him my gaydar didnt register at all, he is not cruisy at all and quite oblivious of how hot he is. I touched his arms to feel his self-claimed 18 inches guns, he didnt seem to mind. we decided to workout together tomorrow, i asked for his number, he just gave it to me without hesitation. I was surprised how easy it is after so many years trying so hard chasing hot guys. usually when i talk to them, i get that that "i am too hot to talk to you" kinda attitude.

    This makes me wonder, do straight guys register chit-chat from a stranger the same way as a gay guy? I am not sure whether its because he is indian and not aware of being hit on by a gay guy or he is just attitude-free. say if i chat up a hot straight guy next to me and kinda feel up his arms a bit, would he automatically assume that I am gay and is hitting on him ?
  • Little_Spoon

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    Nov 06, 2009 3:23 PM GMT
    Gay guys suck.
    And not always in the good way either.


    Hopefully he'll be your straight boyfriend.
    *fingers crossed*
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    Nov 06, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    First of all he's not american so the hang-ups that we have are usally not visited on those who are not from this country.

    Secondly and most importantly he is confident with who he is and not threaten by you.

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    Nov 06, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    My guess is that he's from a different country and hasn't been here long but welcomes that you would want to work out with him... maybe introduce him around. Sexuality hasn't even entered yet.

    Plus North America is pretty weird anyway, like places in Europe and Africa and Asia it's not uncommon to see two men hold hands or teenagers holding hands.

    It would be prudent to consider the cultural difference until further evidence is gathered with which to speculate.
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    Nov 06, 2009 3:59 PM GMT
    DanielH saidGay guys suck.
    And not always in the good way either.


    Hopefully he'll be your straight boyfriend.
    *fingers crossed*


    Nicely said Daniel!!
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    Nov 06, 2009 4:53 PM GMT
    well, I have a very hot straight friend who I see at the gym every day.

    last week he was totally getting hit on by this gay dude...but not in an overt way...just things like "dude, your chest is huge." 'man, you have prefect abs,' that kind of thing.

    I watched the whole thing in fascination, wondering if my friend knew he was being hit on.

    the workout ended with the gay guy asking for my friend's number and implying that he'd like to work out with him sometime.

    my friend, totally oblivious, gave it to him and said "hey, ya, sure...if I'm here, we can workout together.'

    I mentioned to my friend on the way out of the gym "you know that dude was hitting on you, right?"

    the response - "No way...he was just being friendly...you know, he's new at this gym and trying to make friends...why does it always have to be gay?"

    I just shrugged, and bet him breakfast...

    later that night I got a call from him. He'd gotten a text from the guy asking if he was single and if he'd like to go out for coffee or drinks.

    My friend is taking me to breakfast on Monday morning after we lift.

    so, anyway...I think some guys are just friendly. I'm not sure my friend would let you feel his arms, but he wouldnt mind flexing for you and talking (in detail) about his body or yours, lol..it happens all the time.
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    Nov 06, 2009 4:59 PM GMT
    In many parts of the world it's very common for men to be touchy feely without any sexual connotation.
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    Nov 06, 2009 5:03 PM GMT
    poor repressed americans....icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 06, 2009 5:06 PM GMT
    Among H20-polo players, you would never touch a guy's muscle. That would never happen. The only touching we did was getting in hits and kicks - shoves - even dunking if we could get away with it during a game. My straight friends don't even think or consider sex with another guy........they are so into pussy - and that is what they're wired for.....not cock...........unfortunately!!
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    Nov 06, 2009 5:08 PM GMT
    I think it's more of a perceived peer to peer type of thing. Is a muscular guy going to say "Sure, let's work out" to someone he doesn't feel is at or near the same level he is? I doubt it.
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    Nov 06, 2009 5:09 PM GMT
    Hot gay guys KNOW they're hot because they know what's hot in a guy and they know what gay guys like. That's where the attitude comes in. It's not that straight guys don't know they're hot when they are. Trust me. If he's a bodybuilder and spends that much time working on his body, he knows he looks good. It's just that straight guys are usually totally oblivious to the whole gay thing. Unless you're flaming out, they usually have 0 gaydar. They're also not thinking, "He's just talking to me because he wants to do me." They don't think about having sex with guys so they don't really think much about what gay guys like. So he doesn't know he's hot but only when it pertains to the gay guys. He just doesn't think in that realm. He probably just thinks you're a nice guy welcoming him to the country. That's why I tend to like straight guys. They're usually more down to earth and friendly. Hot gay guys can be pretty insufferable with the overblown attitude and unfriendliness. And that a lot of times includes those that just THINK they're hot. Sounds like a nice guy. I'd just pursue the friendship and enjoy it. Unless you think there's a danger of falling in love with the guy. You don't want to open THAT Pandora's box!

    Then again, nothing's definite. He COULD be gay...Either way, good luck!

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    Nov 06, 2009 5:10 PM GMT
    Nope, they don't, and interestingly, in a way they do! icon_lol.gif.

    A straight guy doesn't immediately suspect or assume another guy being friendly is making advances. A gay one often does.

    A gay guy doesn't immediately suspect or assume a girl being friendly is making advances. A straight guy often does.

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    Nov 06, 2009 5:18 PM GMT
    When an attitude free hot gay guy meets an attitude free straight guy, there is no difference (except for the obvious sexual preferences) Strip away the sterotypical labels and definitions, and the testosterone is still there in both cases.

    Straight guys can be just as competitive and friendly as gay guys and are always checking out other guys. It may not be a sexual thing, but it always happens. And a smart sexy straight guy who is secure in himself will not shy away from freindships with a gay guy and will repsect the gay guy as he repsects his straight friends.

    Show me a confident gay guy that can effortlessly exist and play on the same paying field as a straight guy and you got a winner.

    Its funny. I have a straight friend who works at a gay club, and the females (real ones) are always after his tail. He asks ME for advice sometimes, and vica vesa, The deal between him and I is that I send him the females that are interested in me ( but I'm not interested) and he is supposed to send me the guys who are interested in him. He owes me big time.