I will get to my question in a bit but there is a lot of talk lately about prostate cancer. Articles are showing up in major newspapers. At any given time, there are 200,000 men walking around that don’t know they have it. According to facts, if a man lives long enough he will have prostate cancer. Even getting it, most likely you will die of either old age or another disease unless, of course, it is aggressive. I have been diagnosed with having it and I am weighing all the procedures available or do a Watchful/Waiting for a while to see how I am with a new PSA test.
The consequences of removing the prostate are a major concern – incontinence, both urine and bowl and erectile dysfunction. There are guys that choose doing nothing for quality of life over being subjected to the aforementioned and living the rest of their life in a bathroom and no longer having a social life. With this said, here is a very important question that I asked my urologist and he had no answer. He looked very surprised when I asked the following and said that it was certainly an important question. I wanted to know if when the prostate was removed, would there be any feeling in that area. This is a major and important question for gay men because of anal sex. Since the urologist had no answer, I attended my first prostate cancer support meeting the other night. All the men there were straight. I boldly asked them that since their prostates were removed, did they have any feeling in that area. They all looked surprised by my question and said, “Why do I care about any feeling in that area?” I could sense the immediate defensive attitude by my asking. I said calmly that any form of massaging of the prostate would make a man sexually aroused. One immediately said in an agitated tone, “Well, I am not the least bit interested or about to have my prostate area massaged.” Their ignorance was amusing. How any man can go through life and know little about parts of his body is surprising. Their responses clearly showed me that all they thought the prostate did was be sort of responsible for urine cutoff and to shoot semen and nothing more. To further my question, does anyone know if there is feeling in the area where the prostate once was? This will obviously have to be answered by someone who has had their prostate removed or perhaps, a gay doctor that is a member of the forum.
