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Nov 06, 2009 8:41 PM GMT
I recently was approached by someone who was under 21. I didn't know it at first....Then he told me.
I was very surprised...to say the least!! Not looking, or has It ever been my thing!!!! EVER!!!
One thing that also surprised that compared to guys closer to my age...he was sweeter, more romantic, and someone who I would consider being serious with!! He is soooo at ease with Himself...Totally comfortable in his own skin.
Not to mention he has got a great body (DAYUM)....But there is much more to him.
I'm not sure if it's because he is from the South, or because he is so young. Some older guys that have had bad previous relationships tend to build up wall, even to the point that they are kinda mean. The total opposite of him.
He is more comfortable with the age thing than I have been.
We kinda had a fight yesterday about the age thing.
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Nov 06, 2009 8:43 PM GMT
No offense to anyone under 21, but I would not feel comfortable. I'm too old for that kind of thing.
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Nov 06, 2009 8:46 PM GMT
I´m not saying never, but they´d have to be pretty amazingly exceptional (and hot) ha  |
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Nov 06, 2009 8:49 PM GMT
It might not help to focus on his age. I'd focus more on compatibility... if the two of you have that, then have a great time!
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Nov 06, 2009 9:01 PM GMT
Personally I wouldn't advise it, of course I can't speak for everyone my age. I'm often attracted to people older than I am, and have acted upon it in the past.. to discover I wasn't quite able to settle down, despite my desire to. Guys in their late teens and early twenties I believe do a lot of evolving in a short period of time, many of those changes occuring and another one arising. If you're compatible have fun and try, it never hurts, but you'd naturally have a lot to discuss if you wanted to become serious.
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Nov 06, 2009 9:01 PM GMT
I made the grave mistake of falling for someone under 21. two years later the person he made him out to sound like to me was a big lie. in the end all I got out of it was feeling like an idiot for not being smarter at the start. sure they might seem sweeter or more romantic but in the end its mostly a big game. not saying this is true for every boy under 21 but im quite sure it is for most.
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Nov 06, 2009 9:03 PM GMT
Way too young for me. If it's your thing go for it.
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Nov 06, 2009 9:17 PM GMT
In America, no. If this was outside of the US where most people gain all legal rights and societal privileges between 16-18, then yes.
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Nov 06, 2009 9:17 PM GMT
Most guys that age seem so foreign to me. I mention something and they don't have a clue what i am talking about. For example, I mention a type writer in a joke. A blank stare. Or I mention Conjunction Junction or how a Bill becomes a law. Blank stare. I am just generalizing, but it feels like we are from two different worlds.
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Nov 06, 2009 9:36 PM GMT
Mature people are mature.
Immature people are mature.
Age, really, is something else entirely. If you are not sexually attracted to young looking guys, skip him. But, if you are sexually attracted and he is mature enough for you, go for it.
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Nov 06, 2009 9:39 PM GMT
There's nothing wrong with dating someone younger. It keeps you young and alive too.
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Nov 06, 2009 9:42 PM GMT
No.
You cannot do anything, clubs/bars etc., with someone under the age of 21 in america.
If you go to an all ages club you will end up feeling like a fish out of water because everyone there is 14-17-some 18..... I felt awkward being there myself- and I was 22 at the time.
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Nov 06, 2009 9:42 PM GMT
MunchingZombie saidMature people are mature.
Immature people are mature.
Age, really, is something else entirely. If you are not sexually attracted to young looking guys, skip him. But, if you are sexually attracted and he is mature enough for you, go for it. Ditto!,Also watch out for the fake people... |
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Nov 06, 2009 11:03 PM GMT
Hmm the dude might have a daddy fetish thing going on, and may also want you to be his sugar daddy... Might want to be careful with that.
I'm not saying it can't happen. I know this 17 year old gay kid who is in love with a friend of mine who is 34. The kid is pretty mature and wise for his age, and serious about the work he wants. Some young people are like that, as I know some older people who behave like 15 year olds.
They're not having sex although it is legal in NY. The kid was worried about being rejected because of his age. He gave a pretty interesting argument in why he feels the way he does for my friend.
1. Obviously he feels he's attractive. He went into very deep detail about it, even stating how he thought the gray hairs in his stubble were beautiful to him. And went on saying how he loves the way he smells, what it makes him feel.
2. He's attracted, and fascinated by his experience, and wisdom as well as his strength. He also felt bad about some of the things my friend was going through, and wanted to be the one to take care of him.
The kid doesn't have a daddy fetish, because fetishes are basically about sex. He could easily go some place and have a bunch of older guys bang the hell out of him, but the kid is a virgin and says he wants my friend to be the guy he well you get the idea.
He works hard, wants to join the military so its not like he's looking for someone to baby him.
So I'm not saying it can't happen even though you may hear a lot of the horror stories. Just be careful, have to use good judgment.
Oh and if you guys are truly in love, it aint about going to bars and clubs. I don't think couple should be doing it up in the gay clubs or bars anyway. Do other things for fun.
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Nov 06, 2009 11:07 PM GMT
in all honestly, i'd love to give the 21 year old credit for being mature, but i doubt it will last..eitehr they lose interest fast or they will develop a need to experience more which is normal for a 21 yo..
If you go ahead with this id be pretty cautious and just go slow...
For me i would kill to meet someone my age..its not about attraction..its about being on the same path of life..im tired of meeting guys at the cross roads.. Either the guy is older and would look at my life saying been there done that or me interested in someone younger and me saying been there done that ..
Eventually it gets frustrating for both..
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Nov 06, 2009 11:19 PM GMT
For me, 21 is waaaaay too young. For me, it's about where both of us are in life. They haven't lived life yet. They may think they have, and they may come across as mature and the like, but they haven't experienced nearly as much as I have. Heck, Im 30, and I still have alot to expeience.
But if it trips your trigger, go for it.
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Nov 07, 2009 3:26 AM GMT
Balljunkie saidMost guys that age seem so foreign to me. I mention something and they don't have a clue what i am talking about. For example, I mention a type writer in a joke. A blank stare. Or I mention Conjunction Junction or how a Bill becomes a law. Blank stare. I am just generalizing, but it feels like we are from two different worlds. "I'm just a Bill, yeah I'm only a Bill, and I'm sitting here on Capitol Hill...." and I've used an IBM typewriter before. Oh. I'm 20. SNAP. |
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Nov 07, 2009 3:57 AM GMT
IHG84 saidHmm the dude might have a daddy fetish thing going on, and may also want you to be his sugar daddy... Might want to be careful with that.
I'm not saying it can't happen. I know this 17 year old gay kid who is in love with a friend of mine who is 34. The kid is pretty mature and wise for his age, and serious about the work he wants. Some young people are like that, as I know some older people who behave like 15 year olds.
Oh and if you guys are truly in love, it aint about going to bars and clubs. I don't think couple should be doing it up in the gay clubs or bars anyway. Do other things for fun. I definitely agree with IHG84! To add my two cents though, why just under 21? Why not under 25? or under 30? I mean I'm not saying I dont believe love knows no boundaries, but do you really think there's much difference between an 18yr old and a 21 yr old? The only differences I see are body-wise and the fact that a 21yr old can actually drink and go out to bars and clubs. Other than that, I dont believe there's much difference. Most of my friends are above the age of 21 and half of them act like 15 yr olds, but there's the few who are under 21 who are way more mature than them. I don't really believe when people say maturity comes with age. Just as everyone sees the world differently, everyone grows up differently. Just because you are older doesn't mean you are more mature than the next person who is younger than you. Yeah you might know a lot more and be into a lot more things, but it does not mean you are more mature. I believe maturity comes from how you are raised, the environment in which you are raised and the kind of situations in which you are raised in, including any life-changing experiences. All of this can make a person change their view of life and how they see the world. Have it be if something terrible happens to them at a young age or have them regret something they've done at a much older age. Sometimes one has to go through something traumatic to be able to see things clearly and see the world through brand new eyes. I, myself, believe to be one of those few guys. In my young 19 years of life, I think I've gone through much more than anyone my age will ever go through, which resulted in me maturing much faster with no fault of my own. Most of family and friends say Im an old soul stuck in a young body, but that's just how I am. Not saying I dont like to have fun and that I can't be immature sometimes, but the way I view the world can be way different than another guy my age. I definitely know what I want in life and I've got a pretty good idea of who I am and what I want to do and if you ask another 19 year old that question, most will have no idea. And if you just let something like, "I'm not going to date him because he's under 21 and he can't do anything," get in the way, then that's your loss. But if your questions refers to dating someone under 21 because it just feels wrong and he is under 18, then that's another thing. That's pretty much your own decision and how you view the situation. So good luck! |
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Nov 07, 2009 3:59 AM GMT
Balljunkie saidMost guys that age seem so foreign to me. I mention something and they don't have a clue what i am talking about. For example, I mention a type writer in a joke. A blank stare. Or I mention Conjunction Junction or how a Bill becomes a law. Blank stare. I am just generalizing, but it feels like we are from two different worlds. conjunction junction what's your function?.... lol they still play those videos in school. |
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Nov 07, 2009 4:04 AM GMT
Well I am usually attracted to guys in late 20s or early 30s, more so because they have there stuff together. But that doesn't mean if I mean someone close to 21 and is interesting and nice I still won't date him. Its just a matter of how I feel when am with him.
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Nov 07, 2009 4:15 AM GMT
It is very rare that I find guys under 27ish interesting. It happens though so I understand where you are coming from.
I completely agree with you about older men(men my age). You can call it mean, I call it jaded. They just look at you wondering when the shoe is going to drop. They take everything that happens completely the wrong way. If I don't have money to go out on a certain night, they automatically believe I'm just ditching them because I'm not interested. I have a very hard time trying to apologize for their false assumptions that something "is up". In fact, if I do start apologizing they believe me even less. I'm a sincere stable guy and if the guy treats me like a suspect from day one, it just seems like a losing battle.
Anyhow, I have met two guys this year around 27 that I would seriously consider dating at some point. Both have suggested dating in the past, but I'm still a bit tepid at this point. I guess I want to get to know them as friends first and see how it goes.
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Nov 07, 2009 4:18 AM GMT
YES I CAN, as a matter of fact I am. I'm 29 and he's 19......and we have a working relationship. Love doesn't count years.
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Nov 07, 2009 4:26 AM GMT
In all honesty, for an LTR...the sub-21, (hell...sub-35!)generation, we just don't speak the same language and well, I'm not looking to raise a son, or be someone's meal ticket/daddy. I want a man to love and understand...we need to be of a similar generation.... Would I and have I hooked up with a sub-21 guy...yeah and it was a blast! Finally someone that could keep up with me physically and was as horny and ready to go as I am! Sex with a sub-21(over 18  ...ANYTIME!...LTR?...I won't say "never", but he'd have to be the absolute exception.....  |
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Nov 07, 2009 4:42 AM GMT
When someone is more than 2 years younger than me I call him fetus.
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Nov 07, 2009 5:14 AM GMT
Well how comfortable are you with him? Is it his age that bothers you or him 'acting his age' that bothers you? Who's to say that a guy 15-20 years older would interest you as much? It sounds like you're either very flattered or very intrigued by the whole thing. Maybe you should at least explore it and not totally discount his feelings and attraction. Good luck!
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Nov 07, 2009 5:24 AM GMT
. . . it (sort of) worked for Isherwood and Bachardy . . .
. . . it's a case by case thing, no?
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Nov 07, 2009 5:26 AM GMT
I didn't even date anyone under 21 when I was in my 20's. I always liked going for slightly older than me.
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Nov 07, 2009 5:38 AM GMT
Ok, I am 19 and my boyfriend of a year is 31. I've always been attracted to guys older than myself. For me, I guess it's the maturity, the swagger, and the masculinity in an older man that turns me towards them. It's not about having a Sugar Daddy (I am not a twink nor am I a gold digger). When we first began seeing each other, I'll admit, I was a little skeptical about us dating and so forth. But once you get to know that person, you can not hide or hold back your feelings and emotions.
Being with a guy that is young if you're older is all about the principles you go by and how you both compliment one another. If you want maturity, honesty, hard-working, experienced; attributes an older man would have, there are some guys younger than 21 that posses those. We are out there gentlemen. I say at least try and see where things go. I'm not saying rush into a relationship, but have sort of a "trial and error" run. You never know, he might be your catch. You will never know until you try, right?
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Nov 07, 2009 6:09 AM GMT
Since I'm CityJock's boyfriend, I can tell you that it can work. It may not work for everyone but that can be said about people the same age. CityJock is an amazing person who is mature beyond his years and is success driven. I have said it before but I'm truly blessed CityJock found me on here just about 369 days ago! I can say that I have never been in a relationship that has made me happier. Like CityJock said, you never know until you give it a try. Go in with an open mind and see what happens.
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Nov 07, 2009 6:16 AM GMT
Age is a frequent topic on forum posts. I know I am physically attracted to younger men and emotionally connected with older men. In a relationship, I'd like both physical attraction and emotional connection. There are some younger men, but not many, that I emotionally connect with. There are some older men I find physically attractive, but not many. What's a man to do? I think I would be hard pressed to be involved with anyone under 25 for social reasons. There is so little community (famly, other gay men, community at large) support for gay relationships in my experience and even less for relationships with big age gaps. The point is moot, most of the men who show interest in me are older than I (52). I think I scare younger guys. Recently I met a guy who was an exception--a funny, somewhat intoxicated attorney in his late 20's who was very fit, muscular and attractive who found me very attractive. Of course he was from out of town and just visiting. The thing I enjoy is feeling younger. Since I have lost 130lbs and become fitter, I feel so much better, flirt more, and enjoy life more.
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Nov 07, 2009 6:19 AM GMT
I love guys that give an arbitrary age and say I'm not going above/below x and say its because of "maturity". Age and maturity are two mutually exclusive descriptors. Sure, the correlation between age and maturity might be high, but anyone who had been in any kind of college science class can tell you "Correlation isn't a reason to assume causation". As I experience more in life, I completely understand the need for someone on your level (emotionally, physically, intellectually, career-wise, etc.) or someone reasonably close. However, I think it's so vain to use "exclusive" language. You're only limiting your already small dating pool by leaving out people you may otherwise enjoy and want to know better. You can call me naive, or inexperienced, or a clueless baby... but age is just a number. I just hate being patronized by older men who feel that I'm a "baby" and treat me like a child. I'm 23. I own my shit (as a friend put it, haha). I'm know who I am, what I like, and I know the fact that I don't know anything except what I know and that who I am and what I like are going to change. People who think that young(er) guys aren't relationship material because they haven't experience as much or what they have experienced are seriously in need of perspective, because when you make generalizations about a group of people, all you're going to see are those generalizations. I guess what I'm saying is its a person-by-person basis. And you can do things together is one person is under 21. At 18 you can go to most bathhouses  |
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Nov 07, 2009 6:23 AM GMT
CityJock12 saidOk, I am 19 and my boyfriend of a year is 31. I've always been attracted to guys older than myself. For me, I guess it's the maturity, the swagger, and the masculinity in an older man that turns me towards them. It's not about having a Sugar Daddy (I am not a twink nor am I a gold digger). When we first began seeing each other, I'll admit, I was a little skeptical about us dating and so forth. But once you get to know that person, you can not hide or hold back your feelings and emotions.
Being with a guy that is young if you're older is all about the principles you go by and how you both compliment one another. If you want maturity, honesty, hard-working, experienced; attributes an older man would have, there are some guys younger than 21 that posses those. We are out there gentlemen. I say at least try and see where things go. I'm not saying rush into a relationship, but have sort of a "trial and error" run. You never know, he might be your catch. You will never know until you try, right? SWAGGER!!!! YESSS!!! i love older guys. for the most part theyre just grounded and know what they want. FOR THE MOST PART... legal age in alberta is 18, so i dont feel like fresh meat. |
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Nov 07, 2009 6:47 AM GMT
Just go with the flow. Age wasn't an issue until he told you. Why dismiss something before it even got off the ground? If age is really a factor, it will play itself out naturally but don't fight about it just because of that without getting to know him.
my 2 cents.
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Nov 07, 2009 7:05 AM GMT
Honestly, I'm really surprised to hear all of this because I always figured gay men are like straight men too, the younger the better. Really weird to find out it's not really like that.
I'm 18 years old and my last boyfriend was 29 and it was totally cool. I was with a 38 year old once, and that was even better. I don't know, I've always had a lot more to talk about with people who are like thirty and over. And I find guys who are a lot older than me more attractive.
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Nov 07, 2009 12:51 PM GMT
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Nov 07, 2009 3:45 PM GMT
Timberoo saidNo offense to anyone under 21, but I would not feel comfortable. I'm too old for that kind of thing. I'm too old, as well, by quite a few decades. My concern would be this kid is looking to put his hands in my pockets, not my pants. See me when you're independently wealthy, and we don't need each other's money. Then I'll be more certain you care about me, not my wallet.  |
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Nov 07, 2009 3:48 PM GMT
cubsfan1986 saidI love guys that give an arbitrary age and say I'm not going above/below x and say its because of "maturity". Age and maturity are two mutually exclusive descriptors. Sure, the correlation between age and maturity might be high, but anyone who had been in any kind of college science class can tell you "Correlation isn't a reason to assume causation".
As I experience more in life, I completely understand the need for someone on your level (emotionally, physically, intellectually, career-wise, etc.) or someone reasonably close. However, I think it's so vain to use "exclusive" language. You're only limiting your already small dating pool by leaving out people you may otherwise enjoy and want to know better.
You can call me naive, or inexperienced, or a clueless baby... but age is just a number. I just hate being patronized by older men who feel that I'm a "baby" and treat me like a child. I'm 23. I own my shit (as a friend put it, haha). I'm know who I am, what I like, and I know the fact that I don't know anything except what I know and that who I am and what I like are going to change.
I guess what I'm saying is its a person-by-person basis.
And you can do things together is one person is under 21. At 18 you can go to most bathhouses And what happen if the guy is a mature 14 year old? |
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Nov 07, 2009 3:49 PM GMT
joeyveras saidJust go with the flow. Age wasn't an issue until he told you. Why dismiss something before it even got off the ground? If age is really a factor, it will play itself out naturally but don't fight about it just because of that without getting to know him.
my 2 cents. And what if the young man is a mature 13 year old? |
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Nov 07, 2009 3:54 PM GMT
noren said. . . it (sort of) worked for Isherwood and Bachardy . . .
. . . it's a case by case thing, no? I agree - it can happen and it can work. But the odds are not very good, safe to say. To the OP - it sounds like you are open to the possibility. Just be realistic about your expectations, focus on how compatible you are as people and proceed slowly. And if the age thing is a real issue for you, best to keep things in check instead of leading this guy on. |
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Nov 07, 2009 3:56 PM GMT
tinymike saidCityJock12 saidOk, I am 19 and my boyfriend of a year is 31. I've always been attracted to guys older than myself. For me, I guess it's the maturity, the swagger, and the masculinity in an older man that turns me towards them. It's not about having a Sugar Daddy (I am not a twink nor am I a gold digger). When we first began seeing each other, I'll admit, I was a little skeptical about us dating and so forth. But once you get to know that person, you can not hide or hold back your feelings and emotions.
Being with a guy that is young if you're older is all about the principles you go by and how you both compliment one another. If you want maturity, honesty, hard-working, experienced; attributes an older man would have, there are some guys younger than 21 that posses those. We are out there gentlemen. I say at least try and see where things go. I'm not saying rush into a relationship, but have sort of a "trial and error" run. You never know, he might be your catch. You will never know until you try, right?
SWAGGER!!!! YESSS!!!
i love older guys. for the most part theyre just grounded and know what they want. FOR THE MOST PART...
legal age in alberta is 18, so i dont feel like fresh meat. The more I think about it, the more it makes sense. I remember when I was in my early twenties(I came out at 19, and very easily) I wanted an LTR more than anything. I have always had that one person in my life, usually a best friend, that I could count on share my life with....so an ltr would just be an extension of that type of relationship. I remember trying to date older guys in their late 20s or in their early 30s and they all seemed to patronize me and not take me seriously. I also remember that 36 was my cut off age. Anyhow, all the guys my age in their early 20s were just as flaky as I was with no sticking power. Also most didn't want anything to do with an LTR, they were all looking to score. I can see why a lot of guys in their 20s are keeping their options open to date older guys. |
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Nov 07, 2009 3:56 PM GMT
I mean... at 26 it would really depend for me but If I had to consider it I would depend on a case by case basis. If he was bearly 18 more than likely no but if he was like 20 going on 21 thats not so bad.
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Nov 07, 2009 4:05 PM GMT
Blondizgd saidjoeyveras saidJust go with the flow. Age wasn't an issue until he told you. Why dismiss something before it even got off the ground? If age is really a factor, it will play itself out naturally but don't fight about it just because of that without getting to know him.
my 2 cents.
And what if the young man is a mature 13 year old? Like I said, that will play itself out but you shouldn't make it an issue without first getting to know the guy. Besides, there's 30 + year old guys that behave like mature 13 year olds. If the kid is actually younger than the age of consent then of course you don't pursue that. |
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Nov 07, 2009 4:13 PM GMT
I think its good for both , for the older guy as some said having a younger bf keeps them young and alive too , as for the younger guy he grows up faster thanks to his older boyfriend... i certenly find nothing wrong with this
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Nov 07, 2009 4:17 PM GMT
Nah, I'm too old. I dated a guy last year who was 17 years younger than me. We had a whole lot of fun, but we didn't have much in common outside of the physical attraction. The funny thing was that I was the one who wanted to go out and do things, whereas he wanted me to stay home in the bedroom with him...lol.
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Nov 07, 2009 4:23 PM GMT
TomiR1 said Love doesn't count years. ...a profound lesson; I wish more would learn it! Tom, You Rock! |
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Nov 07, 2009 4:32 PM GMT
joeyveras saidBlondizgd saidjoeyveras saidJust go with the flow. Age wasn't an issue until he told you. Why dismiss something before it even got off the ground? If age is really a factor, it will play itself out naturally but don't fight about it just because of that without getting to know him.
my 2 cents.
And what if the young man is a mature 13 year old?
Like I said, that will play itself out but you shouldn't make it an issue without first getting to know the guy. Besides, there's 30 + year old guys that behave like mature 13 year olds.
If the kid is actually younger than the age of consent then of course you don't pursue that. So then it is one of two things. Age is an artificial construct or it isnt' If age is only just a number there should be nothing wrong in getting together with a mature 13 year old. What difference in maturity do you think there is between someone who is 18 and 17.5 years old? |
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Nov 07, 2009 4:36 PM GMT
Personally I like having friends of all ages, I think the younger guys as friends does help me stay younger thinking in a good way, it helps me be more current. When I have a younger guy working with me at one of my places it helps me move faster to accomplish more, youth energizes me. But when it comes to sex and a relationship I make it plain from the start, I will not be coming onto them, they will not have to worry about me trying to get into their pants. But if they make an offer I will take them up on it. This works great, you would be suprized at how many young guys will open the door on their own to having sex or some form of a mutual relationship. Age is in reality not that big of a deal if the mental maturity is close to equal, and there are a lot of mature young men out there.
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Nov 08, 2009 7:21 PM GMT
The risk in dating a 21 year old has very little to do with maturity and more-so to do with stability. You can't expect them to be the same people tomorrow that they were today and this is speaking from a strictly neurological standpoint. Our brains are generally not fully developed until 25. So if it's about fun, great. If you are expecting it to last forever.... post back here in 2 years and let us know how it's going. :-)
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Nov 08, 2009 7:26 PM GMT
Slut_Bucket saidNo.
You cannot do anything, clubs/bars etc., with someone under the age of 21 in america.
If you go to an all ages club you will end up feeling like a fish out of water because everyone there is 14-17-some 18..... I felt awkward being there myself- and I was 22 at the time. minimum age in Montreal is 18 so... |
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Nov 08, 2009 7:28 PM GMT
Sadly I do not think you can be serious... There is a HUGE maturity level that people under 21 do not have (well some do) I would say its under 25
Hence I do not like to date anyone under 25 ... and I am 19 haha
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Nov 08, 2009 8:53 PM GMT
Blondizgd saidjoeyveras saidBlondizgd saidjoeyveras saidJust go with the flow. Age wasn't an issue until he told you. Why dismiss something before it even got off the ground? If age is really a factor, it will play itself out naturally but don't fight about it just because of that without getting to know him.
my 2 cents.
And what if the young man is a mature 13 year old?
Like I said, that will play itself out but you shouldn't make it an issue without first getting to know the guy. Besides, there's 30 + year old guys that behave like mature 13 year olds.
If the kid is actually younger than the age of consent then of course you don't pursue that.
So then it is one of two things. Age is an artificial construct or it isnt'
If age is only just a number there should be nothing wrong in getting together with a mature 13 year old.
What difference in maturity do you think there is between someone who is 18 and 17.5 years old? You're either trying to play devil's advocate, you're bored as hell, or you're not too bright. I'm going to assume you're a bright guy. The law trumps maturity when it comes to dating for most responsible adults. The reason the age of consent is set at 18 (17 in some States) is because it expected that a person is responsible enough to think independently. We all know this isn't necessarily true and can still be a false belief for people in their mid 20's. My point again, you shouldn't make it an issue when it wasn't one to begin with. That's assuming he wasn't talking about a kid younger than 18. That wasn't the energy I was getting from the OP's question. |
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Nov 08, 2009 9:20 PM GMT
8Always_Hard8 saidSadly I do not think you can be serious... There is a HUGE maturity level that people under 21 do not have (well some do) I would say its under 25
Hence I do not like to date anyone under 25 ... and I am 19 haha i second that haha. i think 19 years of difference is gross tbh, if it works for you then have at it. dont count on it being serious till it gets that way though. I have a habit of dating 1-2 years older than i am; but it just works out that way. my boyfriend is 22 right now, biggest age difference ive had. I accidentally got a bj from a 26 year old one time, i wouldnt do anything over 23 or 24 for sure. but i plan on keeping my current for a gooood whiiile. everyone is different though. |
