A quiet voice for gay marriage

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    Nov 08, 2009 4:40 PM GMT
    http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/11/06/AR2009110602953.html?hpid=topnews

    As the debate over legalizing same-sex marriage in the District grows louder and more polarized, there are people whose support for the proposal is personal but not often talked about. They are federal workers and professionals, men and women who share little except that their former spouses tried to live as heterosexuals but at some point realized they could not.

    Many of these former spouses -- from those who still feel raw resentment toward their exes to those who have reached a mutual understanding -- see the legalization of same-sex marriage as a step toward protecting not only homosexuals but also heterosexuals. If homosexuality was more accepted, they say, they might have been spared doomed marriages followed by years of self-doubt.

    "It's like you hit a brick wall when they come out," Brooks said. "You think everything is fine and then, boom!"

  • bmw0

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    Nov 08, 2009 4:59 PM GMT
    Very good point!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 08, 2009 5:35 PM GMT
    You know calson this has been a quiet voice but it has been said before. Arianna Huffington of the Huffington Post went trough this and is now very pro-gay. It has also been a commonly used protest sign:

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    In truth it would be an interesting strategy to get heterosexually married, never have sex, and then divorce. You would need a good prenuptial though.

    Also you could see the the duplicity here with religious folk ... They don't want abortion, but they also don't want birth control that could reduce it. They don't want divorce, but they would rather increase divorce forbidding gays to marry who they actually want.
  • Anto

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    Nov 09, 2009 12:52 AM GMT
    Yeah but they could just counter argue that it's not forbidding gays to marry that causes gay/straight marriages but the pressure for gays to hide who they are and the stigma of it, so the solution is to be loving and accepting of gays as people despite the flaw of their homosexuality so they don't feel pressured to enter into such relationships with straight people to begin with, no that gay marriage is the answer.

    Just give them civil unions if need be, that seems to satiate a lot of the gays.
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    Nov 09, 2009 5:16 PM GMT
    Anto saidYeah but they could just counter argue that it's not forbidding gays to marry that causes gay/straight marriages but the pressure for gays to hide who they are and the stigma of it, so the solution is to be loving and accepting of gays as people despite the flaw of their homosexuality so they don't feel pressured to enter into such relationships with straight people to begin with, no that gay marriage is the answer.

    Just give them civil unions if need be, that seems to satiate a lot of the gays.


    Flaw?? What's to say heterosexuality isn't a flaw? The sanctity of marriage argument is bunk. Heterosexuals are divorcing like crazy. I think gay marriage may, in fact, help out opposite sex marriage. As ActiveAndFit stated, these people really aren't creating a logical argument against it. They want to have their cake and eat it, too.
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    Nov 09, 2009 11:29 PM GMT
    Well, having been in that kind of relationship I can tell you that my ex is one that supports gay marriage. Despite the struggle with losing their spouse, most woman are amazed at how long their husbands kept it all inside and struggled to try and conform to societies norms.

    Silent might be unfortunate for the rest of us.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Nov 14, 2009 8:35 PM GMT
    It would be awesome to see the nation's capital city accept and legalize gay marriage. We will see how events surrounding this issue unfold.