Hitting on Guys

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    Nov 08, 2009 10:40 PM GMT
    Where I live, it's tough finding eligible gay guys to hang around. There are plenty of hot men considering I live in a college town full of young guys, but for the most part they seem straight and uninterested.

    How do you interact with guys you think are hot but are unsure of their sexuality? I'm usually really shy but last week I tried hitting on a cute guy at a party who swears he's straight but sent me some very mixed signals. I don't want to keep aiming for straight guys, so I want to know the skills to find the cute gay ones. Once I know they're gay, I need to work on hitting on them... because I obviously have no game.
  • DCEric

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    Nov 09, 2009 1:21 AM GMT
    Find a local gay organization. Maybe if you joined one, you would find folks your age that are also gay. Many (not all) colleges have a LGBT organization. That might help. If not, search online. Or form your own, and begin recruiting folks via the Internet.
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    Nov 09, 2009 1:50 AM GMT
    thisguy2 said...I don't want to keep aiming for straight guys, so I want to know the skills to find the cute gay ones. Once I know they're gay, I need to work on hitting on them... because I obviously have no game.


    The way you develop the skills to identify the gay guys (sometimes referred to as "gaydar") is by hanging out with a lot of gay guys. In the meantime, being in a college town, you are automatically in a much, much better situation than guys in most small towns. There are publications (travel guides) that tell you where to find gay bars/restaurants/businesses/sports teams/meetings/church groups etc. One of them is called Damron, but I haven't seen a recent one in a while and I don't know if they went out of business. I'm sure that all of that information is online now, and people probably just check the internet for that instead of buying the paper guides.
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    Nov 09, 2009 1:59 AM GMT
    By the way, you can use RealJock for that purpose, too. Search the profiles for RJ members in your town and check and see which is the gym that is listed most frequently under "My Gym". That will probably be the gym that most of the gay guys in town go to. That would be a great place to go to meet healthier gay men. (Sometimes the bunch that you find in certain gay bars is a pretty sad lot).
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    Nov 09, 2009 12:14 PM GMT
    I my experience, there were a lot of "straight" in college looking to fool around with a harmless fag. Be careful of those guys. By all means, hook up with them, but have zero expectations about anything lasting.

    But to answer your question... In my experience, I say just be yourself and go out of your way to be friendly. You can flirt with anyone you want to (guy, girl, straight, gay, whatever) and get away with it if you aren't lecherous about it. The guys who are interested will come back for more.
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    Nov 09, 2009 2:08 PM GMT
    iz troo.. In real life I flirt with most people, regardless of gender, looks or age. Doesn´t have to be creepy.

  • Nov 11, 2009 9:11 PM GMT
    I have the same problem as well! Also, I'm in England right now for a year-long exchange programme, and I have difficulty telling whether guys are gay or merely European! icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 12, 2009 6:18 AM GMT
    chogenki said In my experience, I say just be yourself and go out of your way to be friendly. You can flirt with anyone you want to (guy, girl, straight, gay, whatever) and get away with it if you aren't lecherous about it. The guys who are interested will come back for more.


    Hey thanks, I might try this haha. It's not like I have much to lose.
  • Hunter9

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    Nov 12, 2009 6:20 AM GMT
    just curious, but what college town?
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    Nov 12, 2009 6:56 AM GMT
    Neophoenician saidBy the way, you can use RealJock for that purpose, too. Search the profiles for RJ members in your town and check and see which is the gym that is listed most frequently under "My Gym". That will probably be the gym that most of the gay guys in town go to. That would be a great place to go to meet healthier gay men. (Sometimes the bunch that you find in certain gay bars is a pretty sad lot).


    Wow I don't know why I've never done this before, but I searched my town and found plenty of cute guys around!

    I currently live in Davis, CA, just updated my profile.
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    Nov 12, 2009 9:37 AM GMT
    MarsInvestigation saidI have the same problem as well! Also, I'm in England right now for a year-long exchange programme, and I have difficulty telling whether guys are gay or merely European! icon_lol.gif


    watch it.

  • Nov 12, 2009 11:42 AM GMT
    Lostboy said
    MarsInvestigation saidI have the same problem as well! Also, I'm in England right now for a year-long exchange programme, and I have difficulty telling whether guys are gay or merely European! icon_lol.gif


    watch it.


    sorry if that was offensive! yeah, I realise that was totally a cultural stereotype that I used...