Has CHRISTMAS lost its FIZZLE for You?

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    Nov 09, 2009 3:27 AM GMT
    If you're over 35, you probably think a lot like me. You want to feel Christmas as joyful as you did a long time ago, but it looses its fizzle more and more each year. And then it seems to come long again so quickly. Damn, is it here already?? A sigh casts over you when you see the decorated trees in Home Depot in October.

    I used to only get into the Christmas spirit a few weeks before. Then it ended up being a few weeks after, like in January if it snows here in VA.

    How do you feel and what do you do to make it nice each year?
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    Nov 09, 2009 2:48 PM GMT
    can't say it has for me.

    i start feeling Christmasy mid september. i start playing christmas music November 01.

    the only thing i find is that the actual arrival of the day is getting more and more anti-climatic
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    Nov 09, 2009 3:17 PM GMT
    I agree with Blackguy4you. Christmas still get's me excited.. the decorations, music, lights etc but the actual day is let down. When I was little it literally felt magical. I remember waiting on the stair for my parents to come down at 7 am and seeing the shimmering of the lights from the living room bounce around to the hallway. Where the ^( do all those presents and candy come from??

    As I grow up Christmas has lost much of it's mystery but I still like the season a lot. In Canada, it's one of the few festivals that really gets people going, even if the commercial side of it is pretty over the top. I think a lot of the fun comes back when you have kids or there are kids around you at Christmas.
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    Nov 09, 2009 3:21 PM GMT
    TrowelMonger saidI agree with Blackguy4you. Christmas still get's me excited.. the decorations, music, lights etc but the actual day is let down. When I was little it literally felt magical. I remember waiting on the stair for my parents to come down at 7 am and seeing the shimmering of the lights from the living room bounce around to the hallway. Where the ^( do all those presents and candy come from??

    As I grow up Christmas has lost much of it's mystery but I still like the season a lot. In Canada, it's one of the few festivals that really gets people going, even if the commercial side of it is pretty over the top. I think a lot of the fun comes back when you have kids or there are kids around you at Christmas.


    Well shucks, i need me some kids then

    anyone up for a breeding session?
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    Nov 09, 2009 3:31 PM GMT
    The only charm it holds anymore is related to seeing family and friends, seeing grandkids, nephews and neices excitement over the holiday, decorating and so on. if it were not for them, it would be quite pointless.
  • drypin

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    Nov 09, 2009 3:35 PM GMT
    Well, my husband and I still like to surprise each other, and the hunt for a surprise is still a thrill for me.

    But otherwise, I agree with reallifedad... it's seeing family. It's often the only time I fly back to the States to see family at Xmas and friends in Chicago at New Year's... always a major kick!
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    Nov 09, 2009 3:39 PM GMT
    I wish I got as excited as I use to. Now I feel drowned in the commercialization of it all. I usually feel better a few days prior when most all is done and I can really enjoy the music and feeling of it all.
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    Nov 09, 2009 3:41 PM GMT


    There are lot of special days in December - from Hannukah to Christmas, from Winter Solstice (Saturnalia) to Yule. There's also Christmas per the Julian Calendar which falls on Jan 6th, so we have a great time enjoying all these mysteries that come together.

    For us Christmas day is in the middle of things, so that's probably why no sensation of letdown.

    We always try to get each other a small but meaningful gift that makes each other cry. Lol, sounds odd, but it isn't.
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    Nov 09, 2009 3:41 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidIf you're over 35, you probably think a lot like me. You want to feel Christmas as joyful as you did a long time ago, but it looses its fizzle more and more each year. And then it seems to come long again so quickly. Damn, is it here already?? A sigh casts over you when you see the decorated trees in Home Depot in October...

    I couldn't agree with you more. I honestly don't know whether it's a function of my own age, or the result of commercialism. Or a bit of both, as I watch the seasons pass, and see each of them exploited for their retail value, our customs & traditions reduced to sales opportunities.

    But I still love a well decorated Christmas tree, gay fool that I am, delighted by the cheap tinsel & sparkle of tacky ornaments, hardly less than when I was a child. Every year I'm suckered in, I think now more for the nostalgia of my youth, than for the actual reality of the holiday as it is today.

    Christmas has always been for children, after all. When you grow old it's no longer for you, unless you've acquired the joy of giving to others, and retained a bit of the inner child, somewhere deep inside you.
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    Nov 09, 2009 3:47 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidIf you're over 35, you probably think a lot like me. You want to feel Christmas as joyful as you did a long time ago, but it looses its fizzle more and more each year. And then it seems to come long again so quickly. Damn, is it here already?? A sigh casts over you when you see the decorated trees in Home Depot in October.

    I used to only get into the Christmas spirit a few weeks before. Then it ended up being a few weeks after, like in January if it snows here in VA.

    How do you feel and what do you do to make it nice each year?


    Some years I get into it and some years I don't. If I am in a relationship I tend to do it up much more.

    Growing up we didn't get into Christmas until around December 10th. The Christmas displays anytime before Thanksgiving annoy me. And having them in October is utterly ridiculous. That said, early Christmas obsessions probably keep gated community housewives from feeling empty and slitting their wrists for at least a few weeks.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 09, 2009 3:55 PM GMT
    Absolutely not.....

    I was raised in almost "perfect" Christmas atmosphere for the first 7 years of my life (at which time my mother became ill and Christmases changed a bit, but were still great). The largest challenge has been the shift in emphasis and my understanding of the holiday from a child's perspective to an adults. I hate it when some say, "Christmas is for children".. it is of course, absolutely, but it is something that should mean something unique
    for each person.....
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    Nov 09, 2009 3:58 PM GMT
    I have great memories of Chistmas as a kid...........presents, lights, great family gatherings etc.

    In my adult years, I don't feel the fizz and excitement. I kinda feel nothing.

    I'm a bit suspicious of all the cheer and joy to the world that is lavished around holiday time, but evaporated by Jan. 2nd. Just seems forced and fake.

    Its also the rampant commercialism too.

    I do feel a spark of "innocense" for Christmas when I volunteer at a day care center or food drive. A cheerful smile from a kid or some other act of kindness is always a welcome sight.

    In other words, I try to keep the Chrismas cheer around all year, not just around holiday time and not just because everyone else is cheerful.

    Now if somebody gave a a big present, like a car or a house, I could get cheery real quick!
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    Nov 09, 2009 3:59 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidIf you're over 35, you probably think a lot like me.

    How do you feel and what do you do to make it nice each year?



    I don't know how you arrive at that age.. and I don't feel like you (however I can understand where you are coming from).

    I think a part of it is based on our "slowed down" limited perceptions as a child and how different it is than today. Remember, we are adults,have jobs and a zillion things to do and think of during the day. We don't have the time to get in touch with our feelings with regard to something like Christmas.... and if we do its at the last minute (and for some not at all).
    What about those here (and everywhere) that don't have any good Christmas memories... I'm sure it can be difficult.
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    Nov 09, 2009 4:05 PM GMT
    TrowelMonger saidI agree with Blackguy4you. Christmas still get's me excited.. the decorations, music, lights etc but the actual day is let down. When I was little it literally felt magical. I remember waiting on the stair for my parents to come down at 7 am and seeing the shimmering of the lights from the living room bounce around to the hallway. Where the ^( do all those presents and candy come from??

    As I grow up Christmas has lost much of it's mystery but I still like the season a lot. In Canada, it's one of the few festivals that really gets people going, even if the commercial side of it is pretty over the top. I think a lot of the fun comes back when you have kids or there are kids around you at Christmas.


    This pretty much. I love seeing all the homes, stores, restaurants etc decorated for Christmas. I love how before Christmas everyone seems a bit more happier, but like the day after Christmas it all goes away. I literally get depressed on Dec 26 lol....

    My brother and his wife and kids are coming over for Christmas this year and I'm excited for the kids though! lol
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Nov 09, 2009 4:09 PM GMT
    If anything Christmas has more FIZZLE (what ever that means) now than ever. It really depends on what Christmas means to you.
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    Nov 10, 2009 2:00 AM GMT
    Still love it, look forward to decorating the apartment with lights and stuff, getting the tree and decorating it and leaving it up for as long as it will stay fresh. There is something regal and magical about a Christmas tree. Love seeing all the lights on everyones houses. Hope that we can finally get a White X Mas over here in NJ.

    Looking forward to all the hustle and bustle searching out gifts for my boyfriend and it is really a special and memorable night each time we open our stockings and presents.

  • Webster666

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    Nov 10, 2009 2:44 AM GMT
    It absolutely HAS lost it's fizzle.

    When I was in my 20's, I lived alone, but I put up a huge tree and loved decorating it and looking at it.
    I bought presents for all my family.
    I sent out a lot of cards.

    When I had gay friends, we all got together and exchanged huge amounts of presents, and we had a wonderful pot luck dinner.

    Now, I live alone, I don't put up a tree nor buy presents for anybody.
    I send out less than 10 cards.
    Some of my gay friends are still friends, but they have moved away.
    Some of them choose to spend Christmas with their elderly parents, before they die.

    Last year was the first Christmas I spent all alone. It sucked.
  • Webster666

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    Nov 10, 2009 2:45 AM GMT
    PS: I love the Christmas music and start playing it from Thanksgiving on.
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    Nov 10, 2009 2:47 AM GMT

    NO
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    Nov 10, 2009 2:52 AM GMT
    I got a white pre-lit multi Christmas tree this year, and am lookinf forward to setting it up. Seeing the colors with the white tree is going to be the beaut!!!
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    Nov 10, 2009 2:55 AM GMT

    Yes, but it's retained it's snap, crackle, pop. If Halloween is Christmas for gays than Christmas is Halloween for gays. It has been my experience that men love to treat good boys that night and again in the morning.
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    Nov 10, 2009 3:08 AM GMT

    I'll put your name on my list.icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 10, 2009 3:14 AM GMT
    Well im jewish so all i can say is i wish i knew how christmas felt.
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    Nov 10, 2009 3:15 AM GMT
    I still like Christmas and I'm 48. I like getting together with family after church.
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    Nov 10, 2009 3:17 AM GMT
    sadly, it sort of has lost its magic for me.

    i grew up with it being the only holiday my family really got into, and man we did it right- REAL trees with white lights and gorgeous hand-painted glass ornaments, frank sinatra and nat king cole and bing crosby on the stereo, fresh garlands, oranges studded with cloves and bouquets of fresh holly set out, at least 8 types of holiday cookie baked from scratch, lots of candles, a slew of wonderful family traditions.... it was always classy- never too much, never fiberoptic or tacky or fake...

    but with a few deaths in the family, and the distance that's seemed to develop between the branches of the family as i've gotten older... along with the fact that my brother and i are out of the house.... combined with the shoddy economy and all the extra holiday stress that presents....

    i donno... with as busy and demanding as my major at school is, the holiday season just sort of sneaks up, flies by, and is over before ive really gotten to savor it. my family isn't so central to my existence as it used to be, now that i'm thinking more and more about graduation and starting life on my own. and the economy has pretty much taken a dump on all the commercialistic fun i get so excited about. i have no significant other to snuggle up and share the season with.
    but i guess this is just the grown up perspective on the whole thing, now that i'm no longer a kid.