The online prankster

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    Nov 11, 2009 11:33 PM GMT
    Has anyone else out there ever met a guy online, swapped pictures had amazing conversations...even started to feel like this person would be awesome to date, only to then be told by said online friend that it was all a joke...the converstaions, the pictures of a ripped torso and baby blue eyes, even the guy's cute masculine name...all fake. Am I the only one who's experienced this? Because until a week ago, I really didn't know that kind of stuff happened. What's wrong with people?!
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    Nov 11, 2009 11:44 PM GMT
    abm1985 saidHas anyone else out there ever met a guy online, swapped pictures had amazing conversations...even started to feel like this person would be awesome to date, only to then be told by said online friend that it was all a joke...the converstaions, the pictures of a ripped torso and baby blue eyes, even the guy's cute masculine name...all fake. Am I the only one who's experienced this? Because until a week ago, I really didn't know that kind of stuff happened. What's wrong with people?!
    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>You should try being over 50 and get a load of how many are out there looking for 'dad' to take care of them. I've seen and read about every line there is possible, to try to get beyond friendship and convince that they are for real, and when confronted, they dissapear and in a hurry.
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    Nov 11, 2009 11:47 PM GMT
    ugh yea... now I just make them show me a cam if I am interested... otherwise its just all jo hahaha
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    Nov 12, 2009 12:13 AM GMT
    Well, I just meant meeting someone as a friend. I had this online buddy for a month before he told me that he felt bad and had to come clean about who he really was. I just don't understand why someone would have so little faith in themselves to do that. If I can have an intelligent, meaningful conversation with someone, then it almost doesn't matter how they look. Yes, there needs to be some physical attraction there or anything to build beyond a friendship, but a great personality has always been the most important feature on a guy. At least for me...
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    Nov 12, 2009 12:49 AM GMT
    I haven't been in the situation but can understand your frustration. Insecurities can breed peculiar behavior but I don't think what he did is unforgivable. If you like enjoyed your conversations with the guy, don't forget that. If you value the friendship, consider giving him another chance.

    What inspired him to finally tell you the truth?

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    Nov 12, 2009 1:04 AM GMT
    Well he told me that he had gotten to know me and felt like I didn't deserve it. But does anyone deserve that?
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    Nov 12, 2009 3:05 AM GMT
    ugh or the fattys who use OLD pics when they looked good or just others pics


    LAME... and then when they come clean... do they really thing that everything would be ok? ya right
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    Nov 12, 2009 3:14 AM GMT
    abm1985 saidBut does anyone deserve that?
    Maybe another guy who is using fake pics. icon_wink.gif

    On the bright side, now you're wiser and a bit more cynical. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 12, 2009 3:28 AM GMT
    Troll, griefer, sociopath, bully, asshole, schadenfreude.. There are lots of people out there that get off on this sort of thing. It's a form of empowerment. And entertainment.

    Whether the situation is romantic or platonic, the best thing to do is not get emotionally involved with someone you meet on the internet, unless you know they're for real. Webcam/live chat usually works. But even that can be faked these days. That's why some guys state in their profile that they only want to chat with guys in their own city. It's easier to meet and verify if a guy is real or not.
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    Nov 12, 2009 3:43 AM GMT
    abm1985 saidWell he told me that he had gotten to know me and felt like I didn't deserve it. But does anyone deserve that?
    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Well nobody deserves that, but he does have the fact that he did tell you, now that I have a better understanding of your situation, I've had that happen too, we still email back and forth, but in this guys case he'd gone too far in for me to totally put it behind where he is concerned. Maybe your situation will work out better though, at least the guy your talking about come forward after just a short time. Its a sign though of insecurities that can cause a person to do some really strange things. Keep us posted.
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    Nov 12, 2009 5:19 AM GMT
    I have to say this has never ever happened to me. But I look at it like this. I know who I am, and what kind of guy I am. I also know how I come across On the net in the forums; not really the guy my neighbors know, but at the same time, I am me. yet anyone who may of had a private conversation with me, would see more of the guy my neighbors see, than they guy in debates.

    So what I'm saying I know I'm hated here at RJ, and I'm so Ok with that, as I'm so loved out here in the real world. Because I say it as I see it. I'm not looking for acceptance, and the gay communities not a good place to seek it anyway, only if yo play the game, and the game was over for me years ago.

    So all those people who seem so sweetly nice, and politically correct, I don't see as real people, but people pretending to be some-one they are not; people trying to be people they are not, and saying things just to be accepted, and I could name a few.icon_wink.gif

    Never fall in love with a picture on the net either.
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    Nov 12, 2009 5:49 AM GMT
    everyone I meet is completely sincere - Alfred Einstein
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    Nov 12, 2009 6:12 AM GMT
    Yes, I've been played for 8 months before by someone here on Realjock. Happens all too often, and if they don't have some sort of proof I won't give them the time of day now icon_rolleyes.gif

    Flew all the way to NYC and the guy never showed up. That's what I get for being naive I suppose icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 12, 2009 6:20 AM GMT
    Gaydar saidYes, I've been played for 8 months before by someone here on Realjock. Happens all too often, and if they don't have some sort of proof I won't give them the time of day now icon_rolleyes.gif

    Flew all the way to NYC and the guy never showed up. That's what I get for being naive I suppose icon_biggrin.gif


    Wow man, now that's a tough one!! Well after a month chattin online, went to his door, and this little old man opens the door. He's sorry that he used someone else's pictures but he was sure that I would like him anyway. I just had to laugh all the way back to my car... unbelievable!

    Yeah...it does happen all the time!
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    Nov 12, 2009 6:41 AM GMT
    Well I am having a similar situation as well. I try to be polite and nice to everyone, and not the usual bitch that some gay guys can go to in a fraction of a second.

    It might be because you are too real and too nice. You get hurt rather than getting angry. You wonder why a guy would do something so lame and stupid instead of trying to get back at him. There are going to be guys that want to knock you down a peg or two because you are acting better than the rest(because you are).
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    Nov 12, 2009 7:07 AM GMT
    That kinda happened to me too. Like I wasn't expecting to date the dude, because I'm not looking for that. I just thought he was cool, at first and he talked a lot about how much he was into MMA.. Though when I'd ask him certain things he just didn't know lol. So I pretty much had an idea, and then I kinda heard from other people he was a loser so oh well. I don't understand it.

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    Nov 12, 2009 7:09 AM GMT
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    abm1985 saidHas anyone else out there ever met a guy online, swapped pictures had amazing conversations...even started to feel like this person would be awesome to date, only to then be told by said online friend that it was all a joke...the converstaions, the pictures of a ripped torso and baby blue eyes, even the guy's cute masculine name...all fake. Am I the only one who's experienced this? Because until a week ago, I really didn't know that kind of stuff happened. What's wrong with people?!
    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>You should try being over 50 and get a load of how many are out there looking for 'dad' to take care of them. I've seen and read about every line there is possible, to try to get beyond friendship and convince that they are for real, and when confronted, they dissapear and in a hurry.



    Oh yea I've had a ton of the 18, and 19 year old guys coming at me with a bunch of sob crap, then end up telling me they are 16 or 17 really. Its pretty much part of why I keep the IM thing off now.
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    Nov 12, 2009 8:03 AM GMT
    theantijock saidBullshit walks in person as well. Just the other night I'm having a cocktail when some guy comes over and asks to use my phone, saying he lost his. In dialing he faces the phone towards me purposely so that I can see he dialed a local area, has his little chat, and winds up at my table to finish his beer.

    Then his phone rings. I'm a little shocked. He answers and says to the person on the other end how he doesn't understand how his phone rang because he thought his phone didn't work.

    During his conversation on his phone that he did not lose, I excuse myself from the table and move on figuring anyone who lies about something as minor as the location of their cell phone has got bigger problems than that.

    Check your next phone bill. He might have registered your number on some spam subscription service. icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 12, 2009 9:08 AM GMT
    haha I just emailed a guy about this... he´s kinda perfect and I´m not even allowing myself an RJ crush on him until I know he´s for real.

    There was a guy on here a while back who faked a profile "didn´t know how" to verify and then faked another profile who was his friend and between them did a nice little number of deception... So I don´t trust unverifieds unless there are OUTSTANDING reasons to, and only really accept cam as a way of verification.... Twats.

    BTW if any of my friends are faking, you are fools as i would still have been friends with you anyway. Just delete yourself and come back as who you are.
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    Nov 12, 2009 9:13 AM GMT
    Actually abm, this only happens to scorchingly hot guys.

    So...

    you wanna marry me or what?

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    Nov 12, 2009 5:11 PM GMT
    GaydarYes, I've been played for 8 months before by someone here on Realjock. Happens all too often, and if they don't have some sort of proof I won't give them the time of day now

    Flew all the way to NYC and the guy never showed up. That's what I get for being naive I suppose


    What!? That's the worst! I would feel like a friend had just died or something. 8 months?! There is something wrong with people for sure.


    CelticmuslIt might be because you are too real and too nice. You get hurt rather than getting angry. You wonder why a guy would do something so lame and stupid instead of trying to get back at him. There are going to be guys that want to knock you down a peg or two because you are acting better than the rest(because you are).


    Thank you, that's very nice of you. I just don't think it's right to judge an entire group based on the actions of a few within that group. I know I hate it when people hear I'm gay and assume I fit all the gay stereotypes, so I don't ever want to just assume that a guy I meet online is faking who is his just to mess with me. I like to assume the best of people until proven otherwise.


    IHG84That kinda happened to me too. Like I wasn't expecting to date the dude, because I'm not looking for that. I just thought he was cool, at first and he talked a lot about how much he was into MMA.. Though when I'd ask him certain things he just didn't know lol. So I pretty much had an idea, and then I kinda heard from other people he was a loser so oh well. I don't understand it.


    Now THAT I have had happen before. Anyone who's ever spoken to me at length gets a pretty clear understanding that I'm a hugh audiophile. And occasionally I'll meet guys who act like they are too, I guess so we'll have something in common. It's pretty obvious when it's not true, though. And on that note: I'm sorry, Gabe. I totally had to look up MMA to know what the heck you were talking about, lol.


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    Nov 12, 2009 5:13 PM GMT
    iguanaSF saidActually abm, this only happens to scorchingly hot guys.

    So...

    you wanna marry me or what?



    Haha, thank you for the offer, but I think I'd have to get to know you a little better before I can answer that. For instance...what's your name? I'm Blake, lol.
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    Nov 12, 2009 5:17 PM GMT
    Nah.
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    Nov 12, 2009 5:21 PM GMT
    abm1985 said
    iguanaSF saidActually abm, this only happens to scorchingly hot guys.

    So...

    you wanna marry me or what?



    Haha, thank you for the offer, but I think I'd have to get to know you a little better before I can answer that. For instance...what's your name? I'm Blake, lol.


    You are SO picky: you just make hurdles to relationships, if it´s not one thing it´s another.... what´s your name? What do you enjoy? Are you allergic to cats? icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Nov 12, 2009 5:28 PM GMT
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    abm1985 said
    iguanaSF saidActually abm, this only happens to scorchingly hot guys.

    So...

    you wanna marry me or what?



    Haha, thank you for the offer, but I think I'd have to get to know you a little better before I can answer that. For instance...what's your name? I'm Blake, lol.


    You are SO picky: you just make hurdles to relationships, if it´s not one thing it´s another.... what´s your name? What do you enjoy? Are you allergic to cats? icon_rolleyes.gif



    Haha, well you have to put some obstacles up or every guy with a fake profile will have at you, lol.