|
|
Nov 12, 2009 6:28 AM GMT
I have been very clear about this topic. Since I belong to no religion, I have demanded no funeral service at all, as the root of them is in religion. Put me in a cardboard box, and send me off to the crematorium. Any-one who wants to send me flowers, or cry for me, or spend the day with me, have all left it a wee little to late.
So how many of you who never go to church, won't a service at the end?
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 4:21 PM GMT
Funerals are not religious... they have been occurring long before established religion. I don't plan to have a religious funeral, but do plan to hold a secular service. Saying goodbye to someone, whether it deals with religion or not, is an important part of honoring someone's memory and healing yourself from their loss. Also, cremation is bad for the environment because it punctures the carbon sink of natural decay.
|
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 4:31 PM GMT
calibro said Also, cremation is bad for the environment because it punctures the carbon sink of natural decay. can you expand on this please? i've just updated my will to have a cremation. the ideas of worms eating me doesn't quite sit too well |
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 7:23 PM GMT
No funeral or anything here and will be cremated ASAP. I want the cheapest departure I can get. Partner will scatter my ashes wherever he would like, I don't think it really matters, except for the living.
The funeral business is the biggest scam going!
|
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 8:43 PM GMT
calibro saidFunerals are not religious... they have been occurring long before established religion. I don't plan to have a religious funeral, but do plan to hold a secular service. Saying goodbye to someone, whether it deals with religion or not, is an important part of honoring someone's memory and healing yourself from their loss. Also, cremation is bad for the environment because it punctures the carbon sink of natural decay. let's not forget all the irresponsible breeding that goes on in this world, if we put ever-one in the ground, and it become sacred ground, then we would run out of room even sooner, in fact putting people in the ground should be stoped. Then they can grill me at a BBQ, have a few beers with me, and then put me in my garden. But there is to be no service what so ever, non; it's my last wish. |
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 8:45 PM GMT
Koaa2 saidNo funeral or anything here and will be cremated ASAP. I want the cheapest departure I can get. Partner will scatter my ashes wherever he would like, I don't think it really matters, except for the living.
The funeral business is the biggest scam going! OMG we are on the same page. I won't to be spred in my garden, and I'm happy to be worn food too. |
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 8:47 PM GMT
I'm agnostic and I recently had this discussion with my highly religious parents. I want to be cremated and planted with a tree, so that my ashes will become part of the tree as it grows. Can you imagine how much nicer cemeteries would be if instead caskets and tombstones you just had trees with a plaque of who's ashes were buried when it was planted? I think it would be kick ass.
|
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 9:48 PM GMT
No funeral and no fuss..Just cremated and scattered.  |
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 9:54 PM GMT
I know the services or for the living.
But I look at it; Don't come cry for me when I am gone, you should of been laughing with me while I was alive.
Don't bring me flowers when I'm gone, as I will never get to see them, bring the to my house while I'm still alive, or better still, leave em in the ground, so may living can enjoy the.
Don't come visit me when I'm dead, it's to late, you should of been doing it while I was alive.
If people have trouble dealing with the fact, I will not be having any service at all, and I will be sent off to the crematorium first thing, then they will have to deal with this, as I've givern most of my life servicing the community. So I will put my wish first at this time. They wont even know I'm dead until I'm gone, as no publication of my death is to be made., and I won't it done with in 24 hours of my death too.
|
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 10:02 PM GMT
Asulikeit saidNo funeral and no fuss..Just cremated and scattered. Drama is life, with the boring bits taken out. |
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 10:11 PM GMT
a party, a burning, hopefully with explosions or at least a few fire works, then do what ya want with the ashes, I hear they taste great in banana nut cake and red wine.
|
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 10:43 PM GMT
A friend of mine went to an ashes-scattering on a windy day, and she ended up with the ashes in her mouth and through her hair. I like that idea - once all my good bits have been donated, the rest can be snorted. |
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 11:01 PM GMT
makeumyne saidA friend of mine went to an ashes-scattering on a windy day, and she ended up with the ashes in her mouth and through her hair.
I like that idea - once all my good bits have been donated, the rest can be snorted.  |
|
|
Nov 12, 2009 11:05 PM GMT
A funeral yes, a burial no.
I think they are very powerful aids for processing loss. I love my family and friends deeply and they love me the same. Most funerals I have been to become a celebration of life - but maybe that's just the crazy Cree in my family. I'll be with the Great Spirit so it's no skin off my back.
|
|
|
Nov 17, 2009 10:15 PM GMT
The directions to have my ashes arrive 15 minutes late to my wake have been documented and notarized in full. I'm never late for anything, so it's only fitting. The wake will NOT be at a church, and no religious "overtones" are to be invoked at said time, since the people delivering the ashes will have stopped at a few bars along the way to "toast" the occasion. Since I rarely drink, it's especially fitting.
|
|
|
Nov 20, 2009 3:55 AM GMT
I am agnostic when it comes to religious views. I could care less what happens to my body when I go, just as long as friends and family are happy. I think the cheaper the better but if it would help some people to keep me around in a hole in the ground then I would still want to be there for them ... even in death.
|
|
|
Nov 20, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
I simply want to be cremated and hope that my friends and family will have a celebration in honor of having known me. None of that Catholic religious garbage. I want my friends to be happy.
|
|
|
Nov 20, 2009 4:32 AM GMT
I want to donate all my organs to science. Whatever they can use.  As for a ceremony... what calibro said. |
|
|
Nov 20, 2009 4:37 AM GMT
Since where are funerals about religion?
This is more Pattisonblather.
|
|
|
Nov 20, 2009 4:41 AM GMT
jprichva saidSince where are funerals about religion?
This is more Pattisonblather. I found this through dictionary.com Bible Dictionary Funeral Burying was among the Jews the only mode of disposing of corpses (Gen. 23:19; 25:9; 35:8, 9, etc.). The first traces of burning the dead are found in 1 Sam. 31:12. The burning of the body was affixed by the law of Moses as a penalty to certain crimes (Lev. 20:14; 21:9). To leave the dead unburied was regarded with horror (1 Kings 13:22; 14:11; 16:4; 21:24, etc.). In the earliest times of which we have record kinsmen carried their dead to the grave (Gen. 25:9; 35:29; Judg. 16:31), but in later times this was done by others (Amos 6:16). Immediately after decease the body was washed, and then wrapped in a large cloth (Acts 9:37; Matt. 27:59; Mark 15:46). In the case of persons of distinction, aromatics were laid on the folds of the cloth (John 19:39; comp. John 12:7). As a rule the burial (q.v.) took place on the very day of the death (Acts 5:6, 10), and the body was removed to the grave in an open coffin or on a bier (Luke 7:14). After the burial a funeral meal was usually given (2 Sam. 3:35; Jer. 16:5, 7; Hos. 9:4). I'm just blathering as well, I suppose. |
|
|
Nov 20, 2009 4:43 AM GMT
MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI'm just blathering as well, I suppose. I didn't say that funerals can't involve religious rites if someone chooses. But you do suppose only the religious die? Or that the loved ones of the non-religious don't have ritual ways of disposing of their dead? |
|
|
Nov 20, 2009 4:55 AM GMT
So, I'm a die-hard atheist. But, if I were to die before my parents, I'd be cool with them doing whatever makes them happy. They'd be fucking devastated if they were asked not to do something so important to them.
People know what I (don't) believe. That's enough.
|
|
|
Nov 20, 2009 5:10 AM GMT
If anyone does it, its just for tradition sake. It's not like tradition hasn't weighed us down at at least one time in our life if it didn't linger like a stench throughout. Only fitting that in death we should succumb, bummer, but what other way is there? Should I choose some freaky alternative, something real flamboyant and queer to shock everyone like being gently lowered into a raging bonfire by a troop of Barbara Streisand female impersonators? (I'd love that) No good, I won't be around to enjoy the "oh's" and "awws" and mouths gaped open in disbelief.
.
|
|
|
Nov 20, 2009 5:19 AM GMT
for me, if i know im going to die, or if i get to a point where im not able to do what i want in life anymore, i think i'll buy a boat and just sail off alone. it would be a grand last adventure. not have to worry about hospitals or trying to fight off death, or have my family grieve my state as i lie in bed slowly dying. id rather meet it head on with joy for life and also joy for the necessity of death. if i were to die unexpectedly i would want my body to be put on a boat and then the boat be set on fire, norse style lol.
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 20, 2009 5:55 AM GMT
calibro saidFunerals are not religious... they have been occurring long before established religion. I don't plan to have a religious funeral, but do plan to hold a secular service. Saying goodbye to someone, whether it deals with religion or not, is an important part of honoring someone's memory and healing yourself from their loss. I agree. I want to be cremated though, to me it feels cleaner and more with my views. And maybe I'll make myself into jewelry for someone to wear! I've been to several funerals; it is about those saying goodbye, knowing that they can now move on in their lives. I hope that I will have people wanting to say goodbye to me. |
