Getting soft as you get older?

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    Nov 12, 2009 7:53 AM GMT
    As I am getting older (yes I know how old I am) I have been noticing I am getting alot more emotional. Watching movies or TV and I get more choked up and can even cry a little. I didn't use to do this but in the past couple of years it has been happening more and more.

    I do know that when I read I have always been emotional connected with the characters.

    Anyone else notice this as they age? or am I (and this has been happening to my husband too) just totally gayicon_razz.gif
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    Nov 12, 2009 11:40 AM GMT
    I agree, stupid commercials, sad movies, (I like happy ending movies now) just about anything can make me cry. Ellen gave some single mother a truck yesterday. Oh yea, teared up...
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    Nov 12, 2009 1:07 PM GMT
    You don't have to be old for that.. I get super emotional during certain parts of movies. either the real happy parts or the real heart wrenching parts.

    Sometimes it happens when I hear bad news too... like whenever I hear about more soldiers being killed in the war, i get choked up and angry as hell at the same time.

    ............But come to think of it, maybe it is a part of aging, because I don't remember being this way before I was 30. But then I didn't really care about anything at all in my teens and 20's.. not even myself. Maybe I'm just getting more emotionally mature.
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    Nov 12, 2009 1:54 PM GMT
    Maybe. I don't know if it has to do with aging, but sometimes it all gets to me, too. An example: I'm usually pretty hardened and impervious to all the tragedies on the news like the mass shootings that we had last week. But when that nutcase killed all those girls in the Amish schoolhouse about a year ago, I heard it on NPR when I got into my car to go home from work, and I just started crying in the car all the way home. It really got to me for some reason.
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    Nov 12, 2009 3:18 PM GMT
    That is a normal thing to happen. As men age our testosterone levels decrease...but our estrogen levels stay the same. As men age they generally become less aggressive and more emotional as time goes on.
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    Nov 12, 2009 3:29 PM GMT
    And I thought it was only me loosing my mind. Yes, I find i cry more often than before. Interestingly, the crying might happen when I am feeling really happy or touched by someone or something. I don't walk around bawling my eyes out, crying happens for a few moments when I am in private, or with a good friend.

    I'm a big believer in the "Ying-Yang" theory. Rather than crying being a sign of weakness (or getting soft), I'm finding that its making me stronger and more confident. So as I allow myself to express these sensitive feelings through crying, I'm also getting more "macho" sure of myself. And people notice that. Its a vicious cycle...LOL.

    One good friend of mine who recently witnessed one of my crying moments told me I never looked so sexy. And he's a big, brawny Irish cop. Go figure.
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    Nov 12, 2009 3:49 PM GMT
    Gaymedes saidAs I am getting older (yes I know how old I am) I have been noticing I am getting alot more emotional. Watching movies or TV and I get more choked up and can even cry a little. I didn't use to do this but in the past couple of years it has been happening more and more.

    I do know that when I read I have always been emotional connected with the characters.

    Anyone else notice this as they age? or am I (and this has been happening to my husband too) just totally gayicon_razz.gif


    This is a normal part of aging, and hormonal losses. Your brain doesn't get fully wired until about the age of 30, and, so, as you mature, you get a bit more sensitive. If you're a fat ass, you'll have higher levels of estrogen, which also accounts for some of this, as well as other diseases of obesity. Because it takes years of bad behavior to become a fat ass, if you weren't fat as a kid, it takes you a while to go there as an adult. Testosterone peaks in your late 20's to early 30's and as your testosterone to estrogen ratio lowers when you go into andropause you know only find yourself less lean, more emotional, and feeling a bit sluggish, but, your also loose some of your cognitive speed due to the lower test levels.

    If you're not now, you should investigate anti-aging and HRT. It's good medicine and will not only make your feel and look better, but will protect your heart, and prevent diseases of aging, as well as help you retain cognitive function. If you're a fat ass, it's essential to begin a behavior modification program.
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    Nov 12, 2009 3:51 PM GMT
    bwayne78 saidThat is a normal thing to happen. As men age our testosterone levels decrease...but our estrogen levels stay the same. As men age they generally become less aggressive and more emotional as time goes on.


    I'm afraid the poster is wrong here. ALL testosterone breaks down into estrogen and DHT. With lower testosterone levels you have LOWER estrogen levels (less testosterone is aromatized), AND have a lower testosterone to estrogen ratio. Your estrogen levels do not raise. They drop. Excess body fat DOES raise estrogen, however, and contributes to a LONG list of disease.

    All the anabolics, including testosterone, of course, are well known for improving overall CNS function (up to 30% faster) and cognitive function as well as promoting a sense of well being. AAS (including testosterone) work well as anti-depressants (from andropause, or whatever) without the nasty side effects of pyscho drugs, and provide additional health benefits in the long term.
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    Nov 12, 2009 4:06 PM GMT
    I don't think its a gay thing at all, I think it is a matter of maturing, having more sensitivities about the world around us, because in part we matured's (new word) have seen a lot. I've noticed this about ageing and being more attuned to emotions a lot in my many years working in the public. I have noticed it with my own father, and many others who as they aged became much more tender hearted about things they see, read or hear about. Just yesterday someone told me a touching story by phone, and I teared up immediately. I more often find myself laughing myself into tears though !! ha !!!
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    Nov 12, 2009 4:09 PM GMT
    Oh....
    I thought this thread was about something else. icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 12, 2009 5:34 PM GMT
    Gaymedes saidAs I am getting older (yes I know how old I am) I have been noticing I am getting alot more emotional. Watching movies or TV and I get more choked up and can even cry a little. I didn't use to do this but in the past couple of years it has been happening more and more.

    I do know that when I read I have always been emotional connected with the characters.

    Anyone else notice this as they age? or am I (and this has been happening to my husband too) just totally gayicon_razz.gif


    Heck, I do that all the time. I'm a big sissy and I'm proud of it. Nobody can out sissy me. I cry at operas for pete's sake!! Everybody else just thinks I'm crazy because they have no clue what's going on. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 12, 2009 7:09 PM GMT

    I happen to know that someone on this thread cried at the end of Diary Of A Mad Black Woman! BAHAHAHAHAH! Wait, that was a happy ending. I guess you softies don't need a reason to let er rip! LOL, that's ok, I cried when Paris Hilton got her head impaled with a pipe in House Of Wax.
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    Nov 12, 2009 10:08 PM GMT
    MuscleLuke saidOh....
    I thought this thread was about something else. icon_redface.gif
    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Ha !!! so did I, and I was ready to dispute that !!!!!
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    Nov 12, 2009 10:38 PM GMT
    I tear up on a fairly regular basis... watching The Notebook, there were tears running freely down my cheeks. I was devastated when I heard about the Amish incident Neophoenician mentioned. Don't usually tear up over good news, though, unless I witness an expression of pure love.
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    Nov 12, 2009 10:40 PM GMT
    Have you seen the commercial for the American Human Society?

    My partner likes to trick me into watching it.

    btw...OP...nice and bait and swich.
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    Nov 13, 2009 5:17 AM GMT
    I've become much crustier around the edges with a soft interior. It takes more to make me cry than it used to.

    However, I seem to start a river when I see an old person crying. It just seems with all that life experience, it must be pretty emotionally serious to start crying.
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    Nov 13, 2009 5:29 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with that. I always have to hold my brother at the end of 300, Brave Heart, Gladiator, and that scene on Troy when dude's bro got killed. The end of Lord of the Rings. A few episodes of Band of Brothers, but I did too so I won't poke fun at him ha. Also that movie Defiance. He always cries watching those movies. Doesn't have anything to do with being gay, cause he's straight.


    I remember when he was crying at the end of Gladiator, I was like "Don't worry in real life he became the emperor of Rome"icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 13, 2009 5:36 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    I cried when Paris Hilton got her head impaled with a pipe in House Of Wax.


    Oh, great. You just gave away the one damned reason I bought the movie. I'm gonna go cry now, GG, because you broke my little heart.

    I've been a little less emotionally rock-like the past year or two. I just figured it had to do with being in a relationship and letting my emotional defenses down a bit.
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    Nov 13, 2009 5:37 AM GMT
    zdrew said
    GuiltyGear said
    I cried when Paris Hilton got her head impaled with a pipe in House Of Wax.


    Oh, great. You just gave away the one damned reason I bought the movie. I'm gonna go cry now, GG, because you broke my little heart.

    I've been a little less emotionally rock-like the past year or two. I just figured it had to do with being in a relationship and letting my emotional defenses down a bit.


    Oh Zdrew, I'm sure you're always hard

    Oh, and I'm not soft. I'm just emotionally unstable.
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    Nov 13, 2009 5:39 AM GMT
    TheIStrat:

    Well, yeah, true story (me hard, not you unstable...). That's why I figured it couldn't be a testosterone deficiency!
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    Nov 13, 2009 5:43 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidHummm,, there may be some truth to this after all. I just mentioned to a friend that as I get older it seems to hurt even deeper as you loose a pet.
    You'd think one day it would get easier, but in fact it gets harder.


    It's reassuring, actually. I thought I was just turning into a giant pussy. Now I know there's a reason for it.

    I still don't cry though, dammit. I just contemplate it more often. icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 13, 2009 5:47 AM GMT
    We don't have any problems getting hard...oh.

    Nevermind.

    On topic, we think empathy is a great thing; and it often develops over time, as in aging.


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    Nov 13, 2009 5:49 AM GMT
    Oh no, Tony..we're so sorry.
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    Nov 13, 2009 5:51 AM GMT
    I mean this in all seriousness, is there such a thing as male menopause. Not obviously verbatim but is there not a similar change that happens in men but with testosterone?
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    Nov 13, 2009 5:52 AM GMT
    I would have to say, I'm not sure. I think I was more like this as a child, but the brutality of the human race, is killing it. But I'm still soft when it comes to animal suffering.