He Was Actually So Nervous He Was Trembling

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    Nov 12, 2009 5:22 PM GMT
    No, he didn't have a "condition" nor was he drunk. He came up to me to strike up a conversation. And he was nervous and shaking. I immediately liked him.

    I know how it feels to get up enough courage to approach a guy and although I don't tremble, my stomach may still be in a knot......taking a chance and not knowing if i will be blown off, disrespected or welcome.

    Sometimes I think shyness is very sexy in a guy. And to confront your shyness by having the balls to go up to somebody requires true courage.

    Anyone else have trembling stories in a social situation.......when you, or him were very nervous? How did it turn out?
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    Nov 12, 2009 5:41 PM GMT

    "Anyone else have trembling stories in a social situation.......when you, or him were very nervous? How did it turn out?"

    Yep. Both of us at times in the first few weeks. Turned out pretty good so far!!

    -Bill
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    Nov 12, 2009 5:44 PM GMT
    He was straight...

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    I felt so stupid for being all scared. I probably looked like an idiot to him.
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    Nov 12, 2009 6:33 PM GMT
    DanielH saidHe was straight...

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    I felt so stupid for being all scared. I probably looked like an idiot to him.


    Same thing happened to me. Was all nervous, and felt like my stomach had moved into my throat. We had a good laugh about it afterwards, and it's nice not to have the fear on my back had I not asked him.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 12, 2009 8:20 PM GMT
    I've had several I've met be absolutely uncomfortable when I first meet them and yes, I've seen some shake from nervousness. I think its ridiculous and quickly move to make the guy comfortable with who I am... this has happened either in a social setting where I'm introduced to someone who has known (but not met me) or one on one at lunch.

    As for me, I've never been that nervous when I've met someone, it generally happens when I'm about to deliver a speech or address to a group with major ramifications. I remember in law school when I had to argue a case.
    I about threw up.
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    Nov 12, 2009 8:22 PM GMT
    I was in a club maaaany years ago and went up to a well known singer who was really hot in person and in a B'way show at the time. I almost barfed on his shoes out of nervousness.

    I don't think he would have found me so courageous or even 'cute'.
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    Nov 12, 2009 8:32 PM GMT
    OMG I'm nervous just walking out of my house!
    Every time I talk to anyone, especially hot guys, I have a myriad o things RACING through my head.

    Is my zipper down
    Did I floss
    Is my hair standing up
    Do I have a missed "shave spot"
    Do I look like I have a neck
    Does my belt match my shoes
    Did I get food on my clothes
    Is my face twitching (my eyebrows twitch when I get REALLY nervous)
    I feel as unnatural as polyester, do I look that way too
    Have they seen me dancing on a bar and I not remember
    Have they seen me get in a bar fight
    Have we met before and I just don't remember
    Why do I always smile so much when I meet people
    Is my smile coming off as disingenuous
    If I pretend like I'm deaf can I get out of this exchange
    Is it hot in here or am I just sweating like a whore in church again

    However, none of the issues ever stop me from talking to strangers, men, women, old people, homeless people. I talk too much but should probably shut up.... like right now
  • drypin

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    Nov 12, 2009 11:53 PM GMT
    That is brilliant EasilyDistracted! You really manage to capture the anxiety of the moment. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 13, 2009 12:17 AM GMT
    bgcat57 saidI was in a club maaaany years ago and went up to a well known singer who was really hot in person and in a B'way show at the time. I almost barfed on his shoes out of nervousness.

    I don't think he would have found me so courageous or even 'cute'.


    I guess puke can ruin everything........LOL But the fact is you did it. Did you eventually get over that type of nervousness? Or were you traumatized....LOL.......to never try it again?
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    Nov 13, 2009 12:40 AM GMT
    KissingPro said
    bgcat57 said

    I guess puke can ruin everything........


    UNTRUE! so this may be a little off topic, but my friend hooked up with this super super hot guy who wanted to be dominated so he was very forceful and verbally abusive to him as he was going down on him. the guy gagged and threw up on my friends.. you know. icon_eek.gificon_exclaim.gif my friend panicked for 3 seconds and then told him to lick his fucking shit up... haha, he didn't want to kill the mood so the guy kept doing what he said. hahaha!
  • jrs1

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    Nov 13, 2009 12:55 AM GMT

    whenever I used to talk with guys on here that I had an e-crush on ... I would get the shakes ... MeOhMy and Juddie would help to calm me.

    now, it only happens when in person ... at least at first.
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    Nov 13, 2009 1:13 AM GMT
    ive had those shakes...and those shakes.....made me not approach the guy.....sometimes it gets so bad i feel like i need some fresh air so that i dont faint.
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    Nov 13, 2009 3:28 AM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidOMG I'm nervous just walking out of my house!
    Every time I talk to anyone, especially hot guys, I have a myriad o things RACING through my head.

    Is my zipper down
    Did I floss
    Is my hair standing up
    Do I have a missed "shave spot"
    Do I look like I have a neck
    Does my belt match my shoes
    Did I get food on my clothes
    Is my face twitching (my eyebrows twitch when I get REALLY nervous)
    I feel as unnatural as polyester, do I look that way too
    Have they seen me dancing on a bar and I not remember
    Have they seen me get in a bar fight
    Have we met before and I just don't remember
    Why do I always smile so much when I meet people
    Is my smile coming off as disingenuous
    If I pretend like I'm deaf can I get out of this exchange
    Is it hot in here or am I just sweating like a whore in church again

    However, none of the issues ever stop me from talking to strangers, men, women, old people, homeless people. I talk too much but should probably shut up.... like right now


    Heh...you're entirely too cute. The thing is, I think sometimes we all tend to have those worries rushing through our brains. The key -- for me -- was to recall that the other guy probably was dealing with the same thing.