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    Nov 12, 2009 7:18 PM GMT
    As I get older I am looking to expand my levels of sexual experiences. Though this site is great for a lot things, it was not specially designed to address sex only needs.

    I'm looking for some web sites that provide honest and open discussions regarding topics (some taboo) including group sex, BDSM, ecstasy and other drugs, fisting, fetishes etc...

    An educated person is a safe person, and if I do venture into different areas of my sexuality, I want to be prepared.
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    Nov 12, 2009 10:39 PM GMT
    Do they actually have sites like this ? I don't know.

    It does sound like we're interested in similar things though, and i know i get MY kicks from more "bear" type sites - maybe that's for you? I can't name any, but it might be a good place to look. Leather Bear types sounds like your game.

    Get to know the Bear community and the others should follow...
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    Nov 13, 2009 2:09 AM GMT
    I doubt you'll find anything on group sex.

    I know if you googled E you'd find a webpage that would tell you everything you'd want to know about it.

    http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/home.php is a good website
    http://www.erowid.org/ is another

    As for bdsm, fetishes.. I would say go to a leather bar and make friends.
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    Nov 13, 2009 2:28 AM GMT
    you may like gearfetish.com
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    Nov 13, 2009 3:06 AM GMT
    There is a lot of porn out there you can use to explore your fantasies. BDSM ranges from regular porn actors dressed up, feebly whipping one another, to "ZOMG, is he really hanging from the ceiling by only his balls?" Kinks like watersports, fisting, spanking, tickling, muscle worship, armpit worship, feet, drag, wrestling have so many sites you can't keep up without lube and bandaids. Take a look. See what you like.

    There are several good books on kink, and BDSM in particular.
    SM 101 is good.
    Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns is a classic.
    You might also be interested in getting some erotica to further explore and discover your fantasies.

    But, it doesn't matter if you want to be dominant or submissive, conventional wisdom dictates that the best way to learn is to submit. I reluctantly agree. Finding a top who knows what they are doing and respects you can be an eye opening experience. It would be a good way to learn how to.... probe your bottom for their limits and how to gently push them. Learning what you can take is a good first step in learning how to read what other people can take.

    I don't know what the scene is like in Ottawa, but participating in local forums, asking around, getting recommendations, are great ways to network in the kink community and find what it is you are looking for.

    email me if you have questions you don't want circulating on the internet.
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    Nov 13, 2009 4:34 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie said
    But, it doesn't matter if you want to be dominant or submissive, conventional wisdom dictates that the best way to learn is to submit. I reluctantly agree. Finding a top who knows what they are doing and respects you can be an eye opening experience. It would be a good way to learn how to.... probe your bottom for their limits and how to gently push them. Learning what you can take is a good first step in learning how to read what other people can take.


    This is what my brain was trying to produce but I couldn't find the words to say it so eloquently so I just said make friends instead.

    Have fun exploring icon_smile.gif