Date from Hell

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    Nov 15, 2009 10:08 PM GMT
    I had a horrible date last night.

    The guy lost his job as an architect due to the economy, so he is living at home with his parents... which is not a problem. It was however the start of a downward spiral when I picked him up from his parents' house last night.

    The date, who we will call Halitosis, had me text him when I arrived to pick him up, because his family are Christian conservatives and he didn't want me coming to the door. From there I took him to his bar of choice... to watch a drag show (no offence to those that enjoy/do drag. just not my cup of tea). Unfortunately, it was lesbian central and another previous bad date of Halitosis was there, so we had to avoid that guy.

    I took Halitosis (and I'll let you guess why I chose that nickname) from bar A to bar B where all my friends were hanging out. Halitosis proceeded to text other people all night, disappear (followed by texting me to find out where I was... cause apparently he can't fend for himself), and then made a 20 minute phone call (while standing on a bench with his back to the bar). When Halitosis was around, he kept putting his hands on me... like the date was going well enough to warrant that!

    After the bar I took Halitosis to my friend's house since it was on the way to drop him off. At my close friend's house, Halitosis proceeded to tell my friend that he didn't think my friend had graduated high school and insinuated that since my friend is young and lives on the beach with an older bf that my friend is a prostitute.

    So in an effort to help me laugh this one off, I would like to hear all of your date from hell stories.
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    Nov 15, 2009 10:20 PM GMT
    ahhhhhahahahahaha too funny!
  • mcwclewis

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    Nov 15, 2009 10:33 PM GMT
    Awesome nickname.



    My worst first date was when I was 18. Guy picked me up and asked me like 700 questions in under 5 minutes. That was annoying.

    We were going to the mall. I had my arm resting on the door ( next to the ohshit! handle) and every time we took a turn.... or there was even a wind in the road, he would say "What you don't trust my driving?" I literally heard that at least 9 times. Any time the conversation paused for more than a few seconds he would lean over, grab a chunk of my leghair, and rip it out. What the hell?

    So we got to the mall and went shopping. I bought myself about $300 worth of clothes. He bought me a sleaveless shirt that was on clearance for $7. Then we ate, The entire time, as before, if I was not quick with conversation, he would tear out my leghair. When I asked him what the hell he was doing he said "Oh just saying hi." That's not how you say hi, dick brisket.

    So the whole ride home was just as annoying as the way there... no surprise. He called me later that night to make plans for our next "date" and I told him, very, very politely, that I was not interested. He then accused me of using him for his money....

    his $7...

    I paid for everything else, including lunch, and gave him gas money...


    but that $7.... yeah... Im a gold digger, who goes after out of shape 20-something guys with bad jobs.

    Years later he apparently forgot meeting me and sent me a myspace friend request along with a message asking all the same questions he fired off before.... no periods, no commas, nothing.... just like how he talked. AHHHHHH
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    Nov 15, 2009 10:45 PM GMT
    mcwclewis saidhe would lean over, grab a chunk of my leghair, and rip it out. What the hell?


    I would have punched the bitch.
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    Nov 15, 2009 11:00 PM GMT
    My date from hell is called brain surgeon. And he was a brain surgeon....very wealthy. He invited me out to dinner at one of NYC's most expensive restaurants. I made it real clear to him that I could not afford it, but he said don't worry about it.

    I'm no idiot about eating out in fancy places. But when we were seated, he would not stop instructing me about proper etiquite, which utensils to use for what, and condecendingly disagreed with my choice of wine.

    Ok, so I'm getting irritated, but this place was a real treat, so I stayed. Soon, he get's this idea in his head that I am some kind of bottom hungry desperate sex slave who craves his "massive dick". To "top" it all off, he insinuates that since he thought I was a good looking guy that I should be used to this attention, and that I was just playing games and hard to get.

    Soon the check came....... $700.00........without tip. He proceeds to ask me for half of it. I got up and left. The next day, he calls me and says I still owe him the money. I tod him to buzz off and hung up. Two days later he calls to apoligize and ceremoniously tells me I don't owe him the money. I told him buzz off. He told me that I was a miserable person if I held a grudge against him and that I should learn to forgive and forget.

    To this day, people crack up when i tell them this story. Brain surgeon was a creep.

    And BTW..........never throw the first punch.....the police will come and arrest YOU.....but that's a different date from hell story. Right now I can't go down memory lane any further.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 15, 2009 11:18 PM GMT
    A couple of thoughts with "Halitosis".... If it was a date, I would have wanted dinner and some opportunity do do something one on one with him (albeit it sounds like it still would have been the date from hell). If he spent the night texting instead of enjoying the date, I would have suggested we end the date and exit.... and for me that would have been a date from hell.

    Never really had a date from hell honestly. I would say the closest thing I've had are people I've met as friends that have an attitude or are odd.
    Friendships mean different things to different people.
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    Nov 15, 2009 11:45 PM GMT
    KissingPro saidAnd BTW..........never throw the first punch.....the police will come and arrest YOU.


    I was only being sarcastic. If I was really in that situation I would have very vocally told the person to stop and take me home.

    HndsmKansan saidA couple of thoughts with "Halitosis".... If it was a date, I would have wanted dinner and some opportunity do do something one on one with him (albeit it sounds like it still would have been the date from hell). If he spent the night texting instead of enjoying the date, I would have suggested we end the date and exit.... and for me that would have been a date from hell.


    I asked him if he wanted to go to dinner (actually a sushi lunch), but he suggested a bar instead. Oh well.
    Unfortunately, since I drove I couldn't just "end the date and exit" too. I was enjoying my friends' company, and I wasn't going to leave on account of this guy that needed to be babysat.
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    Nov 16, 2009 12:17 AM GMT
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    KissingPro saidAnd BTW..........never throw the first punch.....the police will come and arrest YOU.


    I was only being sarcastic. If I was really in that situation I would have very vocally told the person to stop and take me home.

    HndsmKansan saidA couple of thoughts with "Halitosis".... If it was a date, I would have wanted dinner and some opportunity do do something one on one with him (albeit it sounds like it still would have been the date from hell). If he spent the night texting instead of enjoying the date, I would have suggested we end the date and exit.... and for me that would have been a date from hell.


    I asked him if he wanted to go to dinner (actually a sushi lunch), but he suggested a bar instead. Oh well.
    Unfortunately, since I drove I couldn't just "end the date and exit" too. I was enjoying my friends' company, and I wasn't going to leave on account of this guy that needed to be babysat.

    I hate it when someone answers the phone or texts when out with me. But since you say you were enjoying the company of your other friends, could he have been confused as to how "tight" a date this was supposed to be. ...ok, he prolly is just rude, ignorant, and clueless.
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    Nov 16, 2009 2:17 AM GMT
    icon_lol.gifthat's disrespectful. You should have dump him on the highway icon_mad.gif
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    Nov 16, 2009 2:17 AM GMT
    Caslon12000 saidI hate it when someone answers the phone or texts when out with me. But since you say you were enjoying the company of your other friends, could he have been confused as to how "tight" a date this was supposed to be. ...ok, he prolly is just rude, ignorant, and clueless.


    Yeah. He was actually texting as soon as we got to the first bar where it was just the two of us.
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    Nov 16, 2009 2:45 AM GMT
    You shouldn't have been such a pussy. You should have told him he was pissing you off, and offered to take him home, and ended the date.
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    Nov 16, 2009 2:54 AM GMT
    Let me guess... Started at the Rainbow and went to the Shit-hole I mean the garage???

    Ganymede80 saidI had a horrible date last night.

    The guy lost his job as an architect due to the economy, so he is living at home with his parents... which is not a problem. It was however the start of a downward spiral when I picked him up from his parents' house last night.

    The date, who we will call Halitosis, had me text him when I arrived to pick him up, because his family are Christian conservatives and he didn't want me coming to the door. From there I took him to his bar of choice... to watch a drag show (no offence to those that enjoy/do drag. just not my cup of tea). Unfortunately, it was lesbian central and another previous bad date of Halitosis was there, so we had to avoid that guy.

    I took Halitosis (and I'll let you guess why I chose that nickname) from bar A to bar B where all my friends were hanging out. Halitosis proceeded to text other people all night, disappear (followed by texting me to find out where I was... cause apparently he can't fend for himself), and then made a 20 minute phone call (while standing on a bench with his back to the bar). When Halitosis was around, he kept putting his hands on me... like the date was going well enough to warrant that!

    After the bar I took Halitosis to my friend's house since it was on the way to drop him off. At my close friend's house, Halitosis proceeded to tell my friend that he didn't think my friend had graduated high school and insinuated that since my friend is young and lives on the beach with an older bf that my friend is a prostitute.

    So in an effort to help me laugh this one off, I would like to hear all of your date from hell stories.
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    Nov 16, 2009 2:55 AM GMT
    The other posts have some great insight, so no need to repeat what they've already said. But, I will state my "fourth rule of dating" that should be painfully obvious:

    Rule #4: When you're first meeting the guy, only meet for coffee, so you can see if 1) the guy is actually who he said he is and 2) if the date will be enjoyable. Never meet for the first time to have dinner (or go to a bar.)

    You can always extend coffee to dinner, walking, or drinks. But, it's much more difficult to end a meal or a planned evening.

    As for my worst date experience: Nothing as traumatic as yours! Well, actually, I did have a hookup that I thought was gonna kill me. He's was all tripped out on crystal and was damned crazy! He showed up, somehow gaining 50 lbs and 10 years from his profile, then tasted like an ashtray, and then called me TWENTY SEVEN times immediately after I got him out of my apartment.

    Lawd, I was Julia Roberts in "Sleeping with the Enemy." I was skeered!
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    Nov 16, 2009 2:55 AM GMT
    And I am sorry to hear about the bad date...
  • SwimNP

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    Nov 16, 2009 2:57 AM GMT
    My date from hell and I met at a mall to go to the movies. I paid for the tickets and as we were walking past the concession stand he stated "What? You're not gonna treat me to some refreshments, I would if this was my date". Completely blunt and rude, shrugged it off though. He proceeded to treat himself to over 20 dollars of concessions on me. Shrugged that off too (thinking he was one of the few people that bought overpriced movie food like it was nothing).

    What I couldn't shrugg off though was the loud, horrendous nacho chewing, only during the quiet parts of the movie. I prayed for him to finish the nachos before the people around us made comments. After the nacho chewing came the drinking, which was quiet until he was done and decided to summon every last drop from the cup by slurping....and slurpling. When the movie finished and we were walking out apparently he thought asking me for 20 bucks would have been a good idea because he did. That pretty much ended that.
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    Nov 16, 2009 3:04 AM GMT
    I went on a blind date with a guy who not only had bad breath and meth teeth, but also thought he was god's gift to the world and carried on about how much everyone wanted to fuck him and how big his dick was and how he won't touch anyone without chest hair and he would point out everyone he thought had it out for him and how circumcised penises are unnaturally gross and how muscular and ripped he was (he weighed less than I did, and I was 140 lbs at the time) and after about half an hour or so of all the bullshit I told him it just wasn't gonna work out and left him with the bill.

    Unfortunately, Idaho Falls is kind of a small town so I'd bump into him every few weeks and he'd always give me a dirty look, grab the person closest to him, start whispering things to them while shooting glances in my direction and pointing LOL.
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    Nov 16, 2009 3:08 AM GMT
    I guess I'm not such a bad date after all. icon_biggrin.gif

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    Nov 16, 2009 3:17 AM GMT
    Okay, my worst date.

    Had met a guy at a club (first mistake), we exchanged numbers. He later called and asked me out for a date... i accepted.

    The plan, as he told me, was to meet up and go to Yuk Yuks (a comedy club), which sounds like a great date to me, i LOVE to laugh... and drink... at the same time.

    So, we decided to meet at a particular spot. Then i see him arriving, 15 min late... with 5 friends. He introduces me, me thinking that they were walking with him and about to depart, when we all walked to the comedy club together. So... it was a "group date".

    My first thoughts: this is extremely awkward... not only do i have to have an awkward first date with you... but ALL of your closest friends.

    So, i just drank at the club, laughed at the comic, and talked more with his friends than him, refusing to be that silent awkward person in the corner.

    We all decide to leave and go to a bar. Okay.

    So... we go to a local bar, where we meet up with all the REST of his friends, all of whom would ask me, "how do you know matt?"

    So then the plan was to go to a club after that. I again, for some reason, decided to join. Again, spending more time taking to his friends than him. We go to the club, and matt proceeds to be a social butterfly, knowing everyone at the club, and meandering around from person to person. I have more self-respect than to follow him around like a lap-dog. I just hung out with his friends for a little while, and would randomly see him flirting with other guys, with his hands all over some of them, and he would look at me as if he was trying to make me jealous... i wasnt. i just thought he was a douche.

    then i made friends with a girl who was a stripper, and hung out with her for the rest of the night, and made her pole dance and had her give me a brief little lesson. she was more fun, and i enjoyed her company. so it wasnt a complete bust.

    when i was leaving, i hugged her goodbye, saw matt dancing by himself, made eye contact, then walked over to his friends and said goodbye to each one of them, and left. ive seen him since, but have never spoken to him since then.

    worst... date.... ever.
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    Nov 16, 2009 3:25 AM GMT
    all i can type is wow.
  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 16, 2009 3:34 AM GMT
    Although I can completely relate to the OP's date from Hell, I actually don't make too many sophomore mistakes in planning the first date. I will have to share my date from hell story at some point but here are some suggestions for a first date.

    1. Do not drive together, meet him in public at an appointed time. Meet in a location where you can amuse yourself if they happen to be a few minutes late.

    2. Keep it simple. As someone else suggested, coffee or a hike. Never a movie....You can't talk and it is hard to politely leave early. You can leave whenever you wish with coffee. Meeting for drinks at a bar is ok....as long as the bar is not too loud. You can tell if the guy is into you if he is ignoring all the other guys, if he drinks too much, and if he has friends you can find out more about his character.

    I have met guys for coffee and it has progressed into a dinner, and then a walk, and then visiting a museum, and scheduling a second date. You are not limiting yourself when you go for coffee, but you give yourself options. If someone suggests something simple like coffee I always consider them more a savvy and smart dater.

    3. Lunch dates are a great idea, since there is a time limit.

    4. Lastly, go dutch....and let him know before you even meet that the date is dutch. With coffee it is no big deal I guess, but going dutch to begin with sets a very healthy precedent.
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    Nov 16, 2009 3:37 AM GMT
    steltom saidLet me guess... Started at the Rainbow and went to the Shit-hole I mean the garage???


    Rainbow and then the Wave.

    By-the-way, did you see Alexander's On the Bay (for those not from VB, the Nor'Easter tore off the side of this popular restaurant here)? My friend, who's house I was at last night, is right down the beach from it. Crazy.

    chuckystud saidYou shouldn't have been such a pussy. You should have told him he was pissing you off, and offered to take him home, and ended the date.


    Good idea. Let me start a fight with the guy in front of my friends. Then end my night early, so I can have a miserable drive back to this guy's house. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Celticmusl said1. Do not drive together, meet him in public at an appointed time. Meet in a location where you can amuse yourself if they happen to be a few minutes late.


    Normally I would have, but this guy was highly recommended by a mutual friend, had dated another friend of mine (who I was told there just wasn't enough chemistry), and lives very close to my parents (who's house I was at before going out last night).
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    Nov 16, 2009 3:58 AM GMT
    boston6_8guy saidHe showed up, somehow gaining 50 lbs and 10 years from his profile, then tasted like an ashtray, and then called me TWENTY SEVEN times immediately after I got him out of my apartment.

    Lawd, I was Julia Roberts in "Sleeping with the Enemy." I was skeered!


    Wait... so you made out with him anyway after he was nothing like his profile?icon_confused.gif
  • EricLA

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    Nov 16, 2009 4:00 AM GMT
    Ganymede80 saidI had a horrible date last night.

    I took Halitosis ... from bar A to bar B where all my friends were hanging out. Halitosis proceeded to text other people all night, disappear (followed by texting me to find out where I was... cause apparently he can't fend for himself), and then made a 20 minute phone call (while standing on a bench with his back to the bar).


    Was this one of your first dates with the guy? If so, is it fair to bring him to a place where all your friends hang out? Isn't the purpose of a date getting to know the guy? I'd probably feel a bit abandoned, too, and might find other things to occupy my time, if you were spending more time interacting with your friends on our date than with me.

    Standing on the bench, however, makes little sense.
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    Nov 16, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    jprichva saidI went out on a date with Chuckystud.

    It was AWFUL. We went to a bar. The whole night, little androids and drones kept coming up to him and trying to take him back to the mothership.

    Then he told some guy wearing a gold cross on a chain that he was an idiot for subscribing to false belief systems. Then he told the guy's boyfriend, who maybe had six extra pounds on him, that he was a FATASS and was destroying his health. Then he told some OTHER guy that he had nerve calling himself muscular, when all he was was defined. Being muscular meant having huge masses of muscles, he kept saying. Over and over.

    It was embarrassing. I fled.



    Ah, a case where someone's real persona completely matches their online persona. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 16, 2009 4:10 AM GMT
    EricLA saidWas this one of your first dates with the guy? If so, is it fair to bring him to a place where all your friends hang out? Isn't the purpose of a date getting to know the guy? I'd probably feel a bit abandoned, too, and might find other things to occupy my time, if you were spending more time interacting with your friends on our date than with me.

    Standing on the bench, however, makes little sense.


    Yeah, first date (and last). Like I said before I had wanted to do lunch, but he wanted to go to a bar. Our mutual friend said he was the bee's knees and was into running like me and likes to hit up the same trails, so I thought nothing of making it casual.
    It wasn't my intention either to run into my friends. I'm just popular I guess. icon_razz.gif
    He literally was texting and playing with his phone from the start though even before we were in the presence of my friends (I should also state he knew two of my friends already).
    The standing on the bench thing was odd. It's a patio area and there is a wrap around bench along the perimeter. He was standing on the bench on his phone with his face in the corner of the fence surrounding the patio... apparently talking to his brother-in-law about Obama.
    Side-note, there was some guy there last night too that kept hanging around us wearing a shirt with Rasputin on it, a khaki trench coat, and a crushed fedora. Dude had a shaved head and CRAZY EYES. He just stood their looking wild eyed like he was on meth or something. I tried talking to him since he kept standing next to me and the lights were on but no one was home.