ugabulls saidIt is becoming very stressful for me to stay in the closet. I want to be free and tell my mom so bad but because of her christain belief and her being a minister has kept me from coming out. Can any guys out there give me some advice and share some of your experiences
Unless you're fucking your mother or father, it's not absolutely necessary they know something they likely already know.
If false belief systems stand in the way, and your mom / family members are uptight about your sexuality, you need to walk away from them so they can get their shit together. Their acceptance, or non-acceptance, of you is not your problem, but, rather, theirs.
Let common sense apply.
Right now you're all tangled up in false belief systems / myths / folklore and the approval of others. You need to rise above that and become a real boy and march to your own drummer.
The demon is within, both by conditioning of the false belief system, but, also in a self-loathing that those belief systems perpetuate. You need to set that all aside and come to like yourself, be honest, and make sexuality a non-issue. Do straight folks come out? Of course, not. Drama is for soaps, and not real life.
Who you sleep with is none of your family (if you want to call them that) business. That's between you and whomever you're fucking. You can tell them, but, they likely already know, and it won't buy you much, but, if you want to make sexuality a big deal in your life, that's your thing. Something as simple "I prefer guys" is simple enough. It's not rocket science.
I'm all for integrity, but, if you know your folks are nuts, there's no point in throwing gas on the fire. Come to like yourself, gain integrity, and the rest will follow.
Reality is that they likely already know. Reality is that if your folks are decent people, they will love you unconditionally despite whatever false belief system they may subscribe to. If they don't, they really aren't worth keeping around.