Does Anyone Else Not Celebrate Their Birthdays?

  • calibro

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    Nov 17, 2009 3:32 PM GMT
    Or is it just me? Yes, today is my b-day, which is something I really don't get into. Ever since I was a kid, the whole day just makes me feel very uncomfortable. I feel that the people I love know when my birthday is and everyone else doesn't really need to know (OK, with the exception of the Dairy Queen cashier because I want my free Blizzard). I enjoy birthdays for the fact that people I don't often get a chance to speak to in my life call, and I get a day of speaking to people I genuinely love. That's enough for me to make it a good birthday. I don't need a cake, party, or presents. It's not that I don't like those things, but I am of the mindset that if I want to have a party I will have a party, and if today calls for cake for no other reason that I want some then there will be cake (or blood if you get in the way of my cake). I don't need a birthday as an excuse to do all those things because I feel I celebrate my life throughout the year. Maybe I am the only one who acts like this, but I was wondering if there are any other b-day recluses out there too.
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    Nov 17, 2009 3:54 PM GMT
    I usually just go out for dinner with friends on my birthday. Last year a friend wanted to plan a dinner with other friends of ours for my birthday. He asked me where I wanted to go for my birthday. When I told him pizza he responded that I should want somewhere nicer for my birthday. I responded you asked me what I wanted. I also told him I didn't want gifts and didn't want to make a big deal out of my birthday. I ended up getting pizza and some of the people did bring modest/small gifts. I really didn't mind the gifts- I just didn't want anyone to feel pressured or stressed over bringing a gift.
  • rnch

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    Nov 17, 2009 3:56 PM GMT
    after my 21st birthday it was no biggie for me....... icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 17, 2009 4:02 PM GMT
    I´m the same: downplay and bank the checks (hehe)

    In chile, where I used to live, they made THE most absurd fuss about it... GROWN MEN would get all silly like you´d expect of a 9 year old and everyone wore silly hats and made cooing noises. Sometimes they would even go round in a circle and each say something affirming or that they liked about you. It was horrible. I once didn´t turn up to my own birthday party. So ghastly. I´m still traumatized icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 17, 2009 4:38 PM GMT
    On my birthday, the day is spent doing what I never get to do.
    Luckily it's in August, so if I'm not working, it's SPF45 and reading magazines in the back yard in my underwear.
    At night, eat take out pizza at home without counting the slices. Lay on the sofa and watch movies. Go nowhere, see nobody, do nothing.
    BTW. I'm just gonna act like I don't know its your birthday, hehe
  • calibro

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    Nov 17, 2009 4:42 PM GMT
    bucksube saidOn my birthday, the day is spent doing what I never get to do.
    Luckily it's in August, so if I'm not working, it's SPF45 and reading magazines in the back yard in my underwear.
    At night, eat take out pizza at home without counting the slices. Lay on the sofa and watch movies. Go nowhere, see nobody, do nothing.
    BTW. I'm just gonna act like I don't know its your birthday, hehe


    haha, much appreciated
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    Nov 17, 2009 4:43 PM GMT
    I tend to downplay it...although the next one is 50 so I suspect I will do something diffferent for it.
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    Nov 17, 2009 4:45 PM GMT
    I celebrate it, but don't really make a big deal about it.
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    Nov 17, 2009 5:03 PM GMT
    I usually forget all about mine.... lol
  • Fusion98102

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    Nov 17, 2009 5:04 PM GMT
    I will be celebrating. Mine is tomorrow! Mwuhahaha! icon_twisted.gif
  • Timbales

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    Nov 17, 2009 5:05 PM GMT
    The only thing I don't like about my birthday is the pressure from the bf and family - what do you want? what do you want to do? etc. It makes me feel they are acknowledging my birthday out of duty and not because they want to.
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    Nov 17, 2009 5:11 PM GMT
    Birthdays: quiet outings with my boyfriend. That's all I want.

    I have a FacePlace account (mainly for work acquaintances who insist on sending me photos, yadda yadda) and I realized too late that I have my birthday viewable by everybody. So I got a hundred birthday wishes from my "closest" friends. Gosh, was I pissed. Every acquaintance from here to Canada thought I would appreciate the sentiments. Arrrrggghhhh!
  • jrs1

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    Nov 17, 2009 5:16 PM GMT
    Catera98102 saidI will be celebrating. Mine is tomorrow! Mwuhahaha! icon_twisted.gif


    um ... have you met REMI?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 17, 2009 5:19 PM GMT
    Well first, I hope you are having a great birthday there in Montana....

    I've had birthdays that have been huge.. I always had parties while growing up and while in college (they were awesome!)...

    These days, they vary. Usually some time with family and with my bf.
    I make it a special day at the end of July for ME. I don't expect others to do anything, but I try and make it an "in touch" day where I think about where I am, what I'm doing and remind myself I should do something special for myself.

    Last year I drove to a place I went fishing at as a kid, about 20 miles from my house. I was alone and I sat and listened to the lake, admired the trees and took it all in. I thought it was as awesome as my birthday when I was 35 at the top of the CN Tower in Toronto.. just a different awesome.

    Have a great day!
  • jrs1

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    Nov 17, 2009 5:20 PM GMT
    jrs1 said
    Catera98102 saidI will be celebrating. Mine is tomorrow! Mwuhahaha! icon_twisted.gif


    um ... have you met REMI?

    you two look strikingly similar:

    REMI:

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    Catera:

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    ... happy un-birthday, calibro.
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    Nov 17, 2009 5:42 PM GMT
    I ignore mine, but sometimes I have no say in the matter.

    When I turned 40, my wife (!) had people slip into the back door of the house while I was upstairs watching TV in bed. Then she called me down on some pretext, and thank GAWD I first put on a pair of shorts over my underwear. First unusual thing I saw was the dining room table to my right all decorated as I reached the downstairs foyer, and as I turned to my left -- SURPRISE! A living room full of Army Colonels & Majors with their spouses. Thank gawd for shorts!

    Then at 60, I thought my partner understood I don't like birthdays. So I get a call from him that he's downstairs helping a neighbor having a party in our condo's community clubhouse, and she needs some orange juice, could I bring a container of ours. OK, so off I went, total air-head that I am, orange juice in hand.

    As I passed the clubhouse windows I saw the outlines of people inside, which I assumed were her guests. I entered the door and saw my partner, ignoring the crowd vaguely to my left, assuming them to be strangers and being impolite to stare, and handed him the orange juice.

    SURPRISE! all our friends shout, about 30 of them, and they say my shocked expression was priceless. They gave me a lovely party, with all kinds of gifts, and as I circulated around visiting I was required to reaffirm again & again that I was really surprised, and had truly failed to notice them ducking down as I passed by the windows outside. I can be so clueless! LOL!
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    Nov 17, 2009 5:43 PM GMT
    I do celebrate, but I don't do much. This years was a huge let down, honestly.

    I might go have a drink and dinner with friends, but I've never been one for big huge birthday parties.
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    Nov 17, 2009 5:53 PM GMT
    Well I took myself out to breakfest, lunch and dinner and after I went to the local bar and had a couple of cocktails. I also went shopping.

    I ran into a friend who knew it was my birthday yesterday. Another friend said why didn't you tell anyone. I responded by saying.

    It's not important to me that someone else does anything for me. I like to spend the day pampering me and reflecting on how I can be a better person.

    My real gift to myself is my trip home for christmas. I do celebrate my bd. The one thing that I don't do is get depressed and live with regrets!

    I have my health, my friends, my terribly dysfunctional family and that's enough. No man yet...but then again I'm not looking for another future ex-lover. (humor) 8-)



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    Nov 17, 2009 5:56 PM GMT
    A birthday is the number one holiday for me. All the others...silly religious/cultural crap. Your birthday is the anniversary of your LIFE. You are ALIVE and you should celebrate still being here, still breathing, still seeking new concepts of interest and fascination in the world and all it offers us. I tend to make a big deal out of the birthdays of close friends - it's a chance to celebrate them simply for who they are and what they mean to me. And celebrating my own b-day is all about me me me. In 09 I was on the beach for my birthday. I rose early for a run in the Florida sun. It was great. Then I traveled, had a great dinner, and had an amazing hotel romp! I definitely went to sleep smiling!
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    Nov 17, 2009 6:01 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidBirthdays: quiet outings with my boyfriend. That's all I want.

    I have a FacePlace account (mainly for work acquaintances who insist on sending me photos, yadda yadda) and I realized too late that I have my birthday viewable by everybody. So I got a hundred birthday wishes from my "closest" friends. Gosh, was I pissed. Every acquaintance from here to Canada thought I would appreciate the sentiments. Arrrrggghhhh!


    This. Reminds me I need to not make my birthday public (except it won't matter since Peace Corps likes to publish our birthdays in the monthly PostIt notes; but I actually feel close to these folks so it's no big).

    You know, I always feel a little bad if I don't wish someone a happy birthday when I see it on Facebook. But I also think to myself "I don't want a bunch of people doing this to me on my birthday, so why do others want it?" Well whatever, it's their fault for keeping their birthday posted.

    Also, DQ gives free blizzards on your birthday? Why didn't I know about this?!
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    Nov 17, 2009 6:03 PM GMT
    I don't celebrate it anymore. I usually call my Mom and we spend 2 hours talking on the phone.

    The reason I don't celebrate it is because for some reason, my birthdays turn into a disaster of epic proportion. I feel a lot like Will Truman from the episode where he explains that his birthdays are always bad and where he gets dragged to Ice Capades.

    I'll give you a textbook example.

    One year, my (then) boyfriend took me out for my birthday. It ended up being a work outing for his place of business at a suburban sports bar where I ended up being hit on by the "Queen of whatever trailer park she escaped from". Once I fended off the beer-soaked "Daisy Mae", I was treated to listening to three of his co-workers bitch about everything over massive baskets of "free popcorn", fried cheese and other yet to be identified goodies from the deep fryer. The bartender had no clue what went into a Manhattan, however she did know how to make a Seven & Seven (once I explained THAT). They did not have enough whiskey in that bar to make the experience even remotely tolerable. The objective of the evening was to get through it with the least amount of trauma and the most grace I could muster in a place where it was a safe bet that most menus ordered from included a decision of "do you want fries with that?"

    The year after that, I got treated to an audit of the books and business status of a business I am (unfortunately) a part owner in. For six solid hours I sat in the office listening to the corporate retail service reps, accountants (ours and theirs) as well as our attorney discuss how a combination of ineptitude, ignorance and internal theft had driven the business dangerously close to bankruptcy. I then, as an owner, had to fire the store manager (the only bright spot of the day) before driving three hours back home. 14 hours after I left my home, I walked back in.

    These two things are a clear sign that celebrating a birthday is a disaster, so I just pick any of the other 364 days of the year I want to buy myself stuff and eat cake when I want to. Sometimes it is just better this way.
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    Nov 17, 2009 6:12 PM GMT
    I donn't,it's just another day to me.
  • jarhead5536

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    Nov 17, 2009 6:14 PM GMT
    I typically don't, since I am deeply uncomfortable with being made a fuss over...
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    Nov 17, 2009 6:19 PM GMT
    I celebrate my birthdays, but i don't make a huge fuss or deal about them.

    I made an exception for my 30th birthday this past september. One of my friends volunteered to have the party at his studio apt. It was FUN! It was a nice way to get all my friends together under one roof for a few hours, and the apt is in west hollywood, so, the folks who were planning on barhopping could make a pitstop before they headed to the bars.

    and yes, Catera and REMI do look similar! regardless, they're both handsome icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 17, 2009 6:24 PM GMT
    Well ever since I moved out (well kicked out:lolicon_smile.gif of my folks house I really haven't celebrated my birthday, partly cause it's a bad way to remember what I lost, a family. And i'm bitter so as I change my real name i'll also celebrate my birthday on another dayicon_lol.gif