Statistically speaking, given a large enough sample, there will be points where the deviation is extreme.
TV is what it is, and I've watched some of this stuff on Discovery Health and so on. It's probably the widest deviation in the sample (I mean, we're talking cutting your pee pee off, or vice versa), but, there seems to be a basis in science for it.
I'm not attracted to it, but, some folks are. Just like I'm not attracted to fat people, nor hairy guys, nor out of shape folks, or folks who are closeted, it's just a given that there will be folks that I'm not interested in knowing. That's part of setting standards and good judgement for one's own life. I choose not to hang out with potheads, drunks, and theives, too, and, hopefully, my judgement will continue to guide me in a positive direction.
My advice is that if you want people who like what you are (and there are), then, you need to go to those places. I'm not sure that "Real Jock" is the best choice, although it's descended into a LCD thing, like bigmuscle.com, etc. I imagine there's likely sites, and organizations, for folks like yourself.
It's interesting, as I often note, how your modification is acceptable, and would even be defended here, but others aren't, and are even illegal. More specifically, the same ones would that would attack me for being a national-level competitive bodybuilder would completey sign off on your right to take an estrogen blocker and a butt load of testosterone. That's hyprocrisy to the n'th degree. Society is, indeed, a fucked up place.
I may chose not to associate with you for any of a numbers of reasons (which of course you should accept), but, if you want to get a pee pee, or cut it off, take testosterone, and block your estrogen, I see no problem with it as long as you don't jeopardize the public safety and well being of society. We all know that being fat is way more dangerous than taking some hormone, or even cutting your pee pee off, and having one constructed. Society is an alarming array of double standards and hyprocrisy.
Here's something you should know, or at least act upon, especially coming from where you are: men are visual, and become more so as they grow older. Nothing is a bigger turn off than a closeted pictureless. You're whining, but, your marketing is awful. THINK. Attraction is what it is, and starts from the visual perspective in most cases. Common Sense 101 dictates that your first course of action is to provide visual appeal to others, if you're seriously interested in marketing for success. You can sift through any applicants as they come in.