Sex with someone who is HIV +?

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    Nov 18, 2009 6:24 AM GMT
    Hey guys,

    I was wondering if someones status HIV wise has anything to do with you sleeping with them. It seems that with condoms, sex would be safe, right?

    What are your thoughts with sleeping with someone who is positive?
  • Koaa2

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    Nov 18, 2009 1:49 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidMy feelings are treat everyone as if they are Poz and just wrap your willie and enjoy yourself... It's not that hard to be careful.
    Tons and tons of Uber Hot stuff you can do with another and still not get infected. I've made it a long time now and plan to make quite a bit longer. I have some Poz. buddies here on my Buddy list that I'd love to have a good time with. A few in Chicago come to mind. as well as some in other places. Just because someone says they are neg. does not mean you set aside precaution for the evening. Just be consistent and you'll be fine.


    Agree with all of this. Staying neg is a goal of mine, but I can still have hot safe sex with anyone I choose.
  • zakariahzol

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    Nov 18, 2009 1:56 PM GMT
    I never knowingly have sex with anyone poz. But I imaging, I will do everything safe like I do now. Condom even for oral. Even now, if he is a stranger I will insist on condom for bj. I will never bareback again with anyone anally, poz or negative.
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    Nov 18, 2009 2:10 PM GMT
    It's a bit of a tricky situation. Condoms do prevent the spread of HIV, but they break sometimes or are used improperly. So, there's always a small chance of infection. Furthermore, it depends on the role you play. Bottoms are at a far greater risk than tops.

    Ironically, if you're having sex with a Poz guy who's on antivirals, you might actually be safer than having sex with a guy whose status is unknown. The Poz guy is likely to have undetectable levels of the virus, whereas the "unknown status guy", may be infected and if so, would have a pretty high viral load.

    There are also less likely transmission routes. For example, through blood, if the guy has a piercing on his penis or is fisting without protection.

    Sex carries some risks no matter how you slice it, but everything in life does. Driving your car is a lot riskier than safe sex with a condom. Just choose the risks you're comfortable with.
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    Nov 18, 2009 2:50 PM GMT
    I barely do it anyway. I'm a prude when it comes to things like this. icon_redface.gif
  • rnch

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    Nov 18, 2009 3:10 PM GMT
    zakariahzol saidI never knowingly have sex with anyone poz. But I imaging, I will do everything safe like I do now. Condom even for oral. Even now, if he is a stranger I will insist on condom for bj. I will never bareback again with anyone anally, poz or negative.
    zak, you prolly already have had sex with a pos guy....you just don't know about it yet.

    stay safe, enjoy it!
  • Nayro

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    Nov 18, 2009 3:24 PM GMT
    even for a bj use a condom? Its only a really small chance to get hiv due to bj's isnt there? still a chance, yes i know but small, right?
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    Nov 19, 2009 3:06 PM GMT
    ditto to the two above...
    and thanks for the info and reminder.
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    Nov 19, 2009 3:08 PM GMT
    probably not.
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    Nov 19, 2009 3:55 PM GMT
    Chainers saidHey guys,

    I was wondering if someones status HIV wise has anything to do with you sleeping with them. It seems that with condoms, sex would be safe, right?

    What are your thoughts with sleeping with someone who is positive?

    My late partner was poz our entire time together, and he died of AIDS. I remain negative, as is my present partner, who also lost a partner to AIDS.

    At the same time, despite our own good outcome at having sex & living with HIV partners, it's not something I would recommend to the inadequately informed, or those without enough patience and will-power to follow safe sex procedures AT ALL TIMES. My late partner wore a condom when he topped me, and when I blew him. We had no breakages or other accidents, and we never even considered the no-condom option. Obviously I thought these and other practices were safe enough.
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    Nov 19, 2009 4:05 PM GMT
    Truth be known.. You probably have already slept with a poz guy and didnt know it.. The virus is so tricky.. and so many guys have it. Also so many guys that have it and dont get tested. And from my experience.. most dont ask. Like the other guys said... just wrap it up whatever.. HIV is a very controllable disease now.. it's not a death sentence like it used to be and there are so many HOT HOT HOT positive guys out there. .it would be a shame to discriminate because of their HIV status.. because being hot is probably what got them there to begin with.. lets just be thankful there are some good drugs for this now..Sleeping with someone poz and has an undetectable viral load is probably safer than than most of the guys you have slept with!
  • Mash4077

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    Nov 19, 2009 10:46 PM GMT
    Two years ago I would have said no. Then I met Mike, the man I will spend the rest of my life with. He is brilliant, kind, funny, understanding and positive. We take precautions, read everthing about serodiscordant couples and I'm tested regularly.

    You never know where or when you will find happiness. I found mine in an amazing HIV positive man.


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    Nov 19, 2009 11:58 PM GMT
    When was the last time anyone had a condom break?
  • MercuryMax

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    Nov 20, 2009 12:00 AM GMT
    Even with a condom, I wouldn't just randomly have sex with an HIV Poz person, because, too much can go wrong. And with me being the bottom, I'm much more vulnerable. Only if I were dating that person for expectations of love and lifelong commitment would I have sex with them.