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    Nov 22, 2009 9:07 AM GMT

    :Hello please allow me to pose this question.
    Where are the masculin men who like their mates to be softer then they are.
    a little background for you i was married to one man who was very masculin and confident in his own skin as well as i. we were together for 14 years he passed in a car accident 4 years ago... and i've been single since now i decided to get back in life and start dating again i've been asked out a hell of a lot but most are on the DL(dear God) very few are not at least im not meeting them i have met some very nice men and they want a relationship but dont want anyone know but want to keep me on lock down while they live that double life KISS MY ASS i refuse to be that kind of fool and no im not desperate to be with anyone i have hope that thir are men in this world who can live in the skin that god gave them have the confidence to live their lives in the open and can walk up and down harlam holding my hand with the last thing on their mind is shame, Now do you think im asking for something that is unreasonable now i dont think that at all... but im always willing to listen to others opinions let me know what you think....
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    Nov 22, 2009 4:34 PM GMT
    Did not want to touch this, but here goes....
    I understand what you are saying and find it disturbing, but that's life. There are guys who are not comfortable with themselves and need to hide...I say run! You will find guys that do not care and want to shout it out....yes!

    It will take time, so have patience. It is not unreasonable to be yourself. You want someone who is going to like and love you, just the way you are. You found one diamond and will find another diamond in the rough, so hang in there.
  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 22, 2009 4:44 PM GMT
    I'm not sure if I'm understanding correctly. Are you masculine or fem or mixed. There are guys who will like you for you, that just happens to be masculine. In turn, there might be a few that you also like. This is how it starts.

    Time is the great fixer of things, this takes time.

    I could say the same thing. Doesn't anyone like red heads? Doesn't anyone like vegetarians? etc. etc. This is only one aspect of who we are, and not everyone is going to like everyone.

    I personally like a guy that is masculine, but in the bedroom or sometimes they do a bit of the fem thing and I get a chuckle out of it because they have no idea, lol.