Has anyone ever felt that the pursuit of a relationship has held them back from the things they truly want to do in life?
... Personally, when I do enter a long-term relationship, I hope to keep a balance, never lose track of my goals, and to incorporate him in with them.
I think you've began to answer your own question here. I think that if we are to begin to be more conscious of the decisions that we make and how they may affect the lives of ourselves and that of others, that we then begin to get an idea of how much work it is to be in a relationship.
Losing sight of who you are happens, I think, when you do things other than for the sake of learning. I feel that each experience in which we are exposed, is to teach a lesson that will be of some use-value to us in our lifetimes. Life does not appear to be a process of looking back and wishing we were
... so much as peering into now
and working to be who we'd like to see ourselves then
; every house has to have a foundation before a frame, lining, and beyond can occur.
My long-term goal is to love. but that is not limited to simply loving my man for who he is. it is also to love my family, my friends, my life, and try to exercise agape
for my fellow man. But when you try to fit love into a standard category ... it seems as though you are not allowing the both of you the freedom to construct the relationship to ' fit ' the two of you. There are things that you want and there will be things that he wants. Older or younger, regardless, each person needs the freedom to be their own person and to learn to compromise at a level where the other person feels both respected and loved.