I need help!! I'm not good at this...

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    Nov 23, 2009 3:41 PM GMT
    I'm useless when it comes to picking birthday presents...the guy i've been dating for a month now is having his birthday pretty soon...we've been friends for quite some time and have only developed feelings for each other recently..but that's another story...I really wanna get him something nice...but I can only think of perfumes and that's too typical of a birthday gift..please...if you could spare 5 minute of your time...i need some suggestions..


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    Nov 23, 2009 3:44 PM GMT

    If he likes music you could get him a gift card so he can buy a couple of cds of artists he likes.
  • Timbales

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    Nov 23, 2009 3:59 PM GMT
    The best gift is something personal and thoughtful. It doesn't have to be something overly expensive or elaborate. Think about conversations you've had, things he's said he likes, maybe a restaurant he's mentioned about wanting to go to, that kind of thing.
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    Nov 23, 2009 4:25 PM GMT
    I am a HUGE fan of supporting the service industry over retail - so I often give massages, leaf/snow removal, or one-shot house cleaning services for birthdays.

    Careful on the house-cleaning though, only pursue that one if you know it won't be an insult to the birthday guy/girl's normal housekeeping skills!
  • tbeaux

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    Nov 23, 2009 4:27 PM GMT
    it's the little things that would make me happy on my birthday. a nice picnic, maybe a walk around the park, stop by a cafe, get some coffee, go home, watch a movie, and give him some great birthday sex ;)
  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 23, 2009 4:36 PM GMT
    I like the idea of a nice meal. If you can cook, maybe cook him whatever he wants at home. Buy him a small gift.... cologne would be cool....or maybe something a little more naughty....like some ck underwear or a nice night shirt. Ive given underwear to BFs as presents in the past and believe me, it works. They love to wear it for you. A few weeks from now you will be at dinner and he will lean over and say "Im wearing my favorite pair of underwear for you".
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    Nov 23, 2009 4:44 PM GMT
    Celticmusl saidI like the idea of a nice meal. If you can cook, maybe cook him whatever he wants at home. Buy him a small gift.... cologne would be cool....or maybe something a little more naughty....like some ck underwear or a nice night shirt. Ive given underwear to BFs as presents in the past and believe me, it works. They love to wear it for you. A few weeks from now you will be at dinner and he will lean over and say "Im wearing my favorite pair of underwear for you".


    that's a good idea - and there's so different kinds on the internet (International Jock is good) - you could surprise him or you could go online and pick something out together
  • zekky

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    Nov 23, 2009 4:48 PM GMT
    I designed a pair of nike shoes on nikeid, since I knew his taste on the color or design, and the shoes had his id and other our stuff on them, so I guess it's a cool gift, hehe
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    Nov 23, 2009 4:49 PM GMT
    gift cards are the answer to your prayer.
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    Nov 23, 2009 4:54 PM GMT
    make him something! I love it when people make me something kool.
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    Nov 23, 2009 5:00 PM GMT
    A full body massage with a happy ending is always appreciated icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 23, 2009 5:13 PM GMT
    there are three or four ways of doing this

    give him a gift that you want and you know he may not like.
    give him a gift that you and he may use
    give him a gift that you wouldn't later be pissed about giving him if you and him happen to go your separate ways

    having said that
    Something electronic - mp3 player such as Ipod
    A Watch
    Something from sports if he is into sports
    A DVD collection - the entire series if he's into a particular show
    Cuff links
    a nice shirt
    If he's into working out - the magic bullet so that he could do smoothies
    A voucher for a 1hour spa treatment - with the tip included.

    If all else fails - lube and dildo and you wrapped in a red bow.
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    Nov 23, 2009 6:35 PM GMT
    I like receiving and giving a shared experience. Especially if it has "bonding experience" potential.

    What activities interest him?

    Art? Schedule a private museum tour with a curator or docent (amazingly cheap at even major museums), followed by lunch or dinner.

    Does he want to learn hip hop dancing? Buy a couple of lessons for both of you.

    And by all means, let him know that your sentiments inspired you to make this much effort to please him! That should generate hours and hours of horizontal gratitude. icon_cool.gif
  • scionguy

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    Nov 23, 2009 6:44 PM GMT
    I would suggest getting him a gift certificate for a massage / spa so he can unwind and then take him out to dinner (or make him dinner yourself). Go to a bakery and get him a cupcake with a single candle to take the hassle out of making a cake.

    You can also get him an iPod Nano in his favorite color and have a personalized message put on in (if you order it from apple.com). To personalize it even more, create a playlist of songs that have meaning for both of you and load them for him. The only thing I will recommend, if you do create a playlist for him, make sure you also burn him a copy on CD or DVD so he can add it to his iTunes library as you can register an iPod to only one computer at a time and everything will be wiped when he links it to his computer.

    Best of luck, and no matter what, make sure you let him know how much he means to you.
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    Nov 23, 2009 7:39 PM GMT
    what do you remember about first meeting him? what does he remeber about you? a word that put a smile on his face? what does he care about? what does he spend most of his day doing? what does he hold on more to: yesterday, today, or tomorrow? is he close to his family, friends? do you know what other people have giving to him in the past and what dose he still have of those?
  • MercuryMax

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    Nov 23, 2009 10:19 PM GMT
    as a friend, you should know what some of his primary interests are by now, you're just drawing blank is all. When I get gift, I've always loved gifts that pertained to my nerdy side of me. I love knight rider and I drive a trans am, so someone bought me a trans am hat and a matching knight rider shirt....honestly i think it was awesome...try and appeal to his nerdy side, something he just geeks out about....

    Short answer: Get him something he geeks out about...memorabilia is a good way to go for stuff like that...

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    Nov 24, 2009 12:21 AM GMT
    As mentioned by many others, some personal which shows you gave it a lot of thought would be good, like a perfect day in his terms. If he enjoys bowling take him out for that. It could be anything that he enjoys.
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    Nov 24, 2009 12:39 AM GMT
    It really depends on how well you really know him. You want to show that he is someone special, so you buy something more personal, but risk him not liking it. A safe gift, like a store voucher, is not going to be personal.

    Strangely, one of my favourite gifts from my bf, was a surprise bouquet sent to my workplace. The other was his attempt at cooking dinner one night. He isn't a good cook, so I was very touched by his effort.

    So, how did you meet the guy, and what do you usually do together? May be that can give you a few clues about what he appreciates. You can then get a gift designed around his needs and desires, rather than yours.
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    Nov 24, 2009 4:02 PM GMT
    Thanks a lot for all of your ideas!! I think I know what to get him now :-) I knew I could count on you guys icon_wink.gif
  • JP85257

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    Nov 24, 2009 5:18 PM GMT
    Hand job and a nap.