The Last Christmas Gift From his Father...Strange?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 24, 2007 3:51 PM GMT
    Well first, Merry Christmas everyone on RJicon_biggrin.gif

    The previous thread on "Relationships with your Dad" made me think about a friend of mine who lost his father in 2004. He had a great relationship with his Dad and Christmas was always very special. Sometimes his father would buy Christmas gifts in advance (like in the summer) for gift giving at Christmas and 2004 was no different... gifts were purchased in June for Christmas that year.

    But his father passed away in November, 2004 after an illness.

    The gifts were purchased, wrapped (with hand written gift card by his father). My friend opened all (reluctantly)that Christmas... except one. He puts the one unopened gift out under the tree each year..... its there this year.

    He knows its a tie from the Smithsonian, his Dad got them for him frequently. He just loves the fact that there is still a gift there from his Dad, but acknowledges he will evenually open it.

    So... is this weird? I don't think so, but I've had other friends of his comment that its fantastic and a couple that have said its strange. Whats your reaction???
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    Dec 24, 2007 4:07 PM GMT
    That's lovely. I have done the same too, only different situation.
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    Dec 24, 2007 4:20 PM GMT
    I think it's a lovely tribute.
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    Dec 24, 2007 7:23 PM GMT
    I understand what he is trying to do, wouldn't be my thing though, life goes on, you can't hold on to the past, but if this is a way to remember for youre friend, i is a good one
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    Dec 25, 2007 5:10 AM GMT
    I think it's great and he should keep doing it till he gets to that very Christmas he feels he can open it. What a great dad he had!
  • RSportsguy

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    Dec 25, 2007 10:49 AM GMT
    I think that he is very lucky to have had such a loving and caring Dad. We all grieve differently and our ability to come to terms all have different time frames for everyone. He admits that he will eventually open the gift, so he knows the healing process will probably be almost complete when and if he decides to open it. Your friends seems like an extraordinary guy.