the word boy

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    May 09, 2007 7:54 PM GMT
    Why are there so many Profiles on here
    that people still consider there selfs a
    boy when they are over there late 20's

    Just a question

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    May 09, 2007 8:23 PM GMT
    i've always that was real annoying, too.
  • dhinkansas

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    May 09, 2007 8:48 PM GMT
    Worse yet is when it's spelled "boi."
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    May 09, 2007 9:01 PM GMT
    yah - what the heck is w/ that spelling b-o-i??? sure seems to be popular. weird...
  • mcwclewis

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    May 09, 2007 9:09 PM GMT
    its "cute".... apparently.

    I find it wretched.
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    May 09, 2007 9:20 PM GMT
    Maybee it is about keeping that 'boy' inside alive and not growing up entirely too much and forgeting one's own innate purity.
    I am a bit of a Pan myself and appreciate others who don't take themselves too seriously, granted that there is a LIMIT.
    Anyhow, it is better then thinking of one's self as old and headed towards death and decay.
    I'd rather FLY, babes...

    It's all a state of mind. Whatever works.

    But I would like to know how 'boi' started, or why it is spelled like that. Anyone ?
  • mcwclewis

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    May 09, 2007 9:37 PM GMT
    Thats a good point....

    I guess it is a good way to keep yourself feeling young.
    The BOI thing really is annoying either way, though.

    I hate when people spell things wrong on purpose, it's really overdone in advertisements and its annihalating our country's grasp on the English language. I guess I'm just a bit extreme having been an English major. Mistakes don't bother me (unless its "your" vs. "you're"... for some reason) but intentional misspelling does.

    I don't know.
  • dhinkansas

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    May 09, 2007 9:39 PM GMT
    Did Prince use it in a song? Any music trivia pros out there know this? I guess if anyone referring to themself as a "boi" makes them happy, then go with it.

    LOL. You never see any profile like stan-the-old-fck-in-SF.
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    May 10, 2007 3:16 AM GMT
    here's what I know about it:

    'boy' most often refers to a submissive sexual/social role among kinky men.

    one can be submissive at any age or station in life. that is why you will see profiles of true 50 year old 'boys.' (not to be confused with a 'slave' - the difference being that a boy has certain rights with his SIR whereas a slave has zero rights and is merely property of its owner.)

    'boi' adds a more modern twist to the same idea - e.g. skaterboi... although, technically, a 'boi' is a lesbian.

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    May 10, 2007 3:20 AM GMT
    DAMN

    That's a great idea, I now wish I had chose OLDFCK as my username. Just another missed opportunity, like the time I didn't strip my pants off to show my tattoo and do the handstand in that bar to impress this guy - Oh, wait, I did that, ended badly.
  • OptimusMatt

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    May 10, 2007 3:21 AM GMT
    hahaha, how funny is it that I checked my profile to see how I had spelt boy when I said "I'm a frat boy"

    hahaha, apparently my need to spell things correctly won out the first time, lol

    I didn't know that 'boi' was more of a lesbian term - haha, I tend to call people 'boi' when I'm poking fun at them
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    May 10, 2007 3:28 AM GMT
    Okay, my last post was stupid. Sorry. Although true.

    Anyway, I think it's interesting why someone would call themselves a boy or boi when a bit older than the average boy. I don't even like to call high school student's boys as it seems condescending. But I do like to honor whatever someone wants to call themselves. I like caljimstark's explanation, that they are trying to honor the boy/boi within. It also begs the question of what the opposite is, which one might assume is man. But then what is a man? Where are the limits of being a man, is it just age? In some ways I am a man, and in some ways I am a boy (not sure if a boi), and in some ways maybe something else, like an eagle (always wanted to be an eagle or a hawk).

    Now I'm rambling. I'll shut up now.
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    May 10, 2007 3:31 AM GMT
    BioMatty, I seriously thought you were telling us you were a doctor or something in the medical field.

    Now I'll shut up.
  • OptimusMatt

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    May 10, 2007 3:35 AM GMT
    HAHAHAHAHAHAHA - WHAT?

    lmao, how'd you get that from my post?

    hahaha
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    May 10, 2007 3:46 AM GMT
    Madapollo -

    Q: what is the opposite of 'boy'?

    A: "Daddy." (Or SIR.)

    For more info read: The Leatherman's Handbook by Larry Townsend.

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    May 10, 2007 6:45 AM GMT
    madapollo, you crack me up !
    I got what you were getting at in your first forum post here.
    LOL !


  • May 10, 2007 7:39 AM GMT
    haha I just posted something exactly the same somewhere else. I'll copy and paste it:
    Why do many gay men call other men~girl or boy? For example, "So, I saw this cute boy..." or "Girl, you look great." WTF!!!! AND when does a man stop being a boy, for example, the 50 year old man whose profile is hotboy2345234 or something like that? I like to think of myself as a MAN who loves MEN!! And damn, I LOVE MEN!!!!

    Although it's ok in the immortal words of Missy Elliot (but she's a woman ):"Boys, boys, all type of boys
    Black, white, Puerto Rican, Chinese boys.Why-thai,-thai-o-toy-o-thai-thai
    Rock-thai,-thai-o-toy-o-thai-thai"
  • millionbucks

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    May 10, 2007 12:09 PM GMT
    boi-o-boi;)
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    May 10, 2007 12:39 PM GMT
    "But I would like to know how 'boi' started, or why it is spelled like that. Anyone ?"

    HERE is the Urban Dictionary entry for 'boi'. It says, "This spelling of the word originated in a gay magazine called, "XY" in the early to mid 1990's."
  • DrStorm

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    May 10, 2007 4:35 PM GMT
    Interesting and amusing topic. However, on a more serious note, calling a non-white adult man in the new South Africa a "boy" probably will get you some jail time, if not a hefty fine. It's a derogatory term in reference to the old South Africa where a lot of black men were garden "boys"....it's a big "no-no"...including the "N" word.

    But back to the topic at hand....as much as I hate "boi" etc, it's the lesser of two evils when I here that damn "HEY GURL!"....aaaaggghhhh .

    daWeatherMan
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    May 10, 2007 4:38 PM GMT
    If someone is using the term boy or boi then they are probably looking for a daddy. They just want to be someone's boy.

    Or it could be the fact that they want to be younger so calling themselves a boy makes them feel younger.

    Me myself I am more interested in a man.
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    May 10, 2007 5:59 PM GMT
    My profile name on gay.com is foreverboi82
    people often just assume i mean myself, when in reality it refers to what I am looking for...
    a forever mate.
    the 82 is just my birth year.
    there was a time when people would message you and ask you what the signifigance of your screen name was... those days seem over and judging someone based on their sn is in.
    there are a few exceptions... which has probaly led most to just assume the name refers to the owner.
    i've seen:
    humanbuttplug, bbbottomboi, hothungvers, lzyboibttm, peeonme69 etc
    *shrugs*
    happens to the best of us I suppose
    lol
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    May 10, 2007 7:41 PM GMT
    " HEY GIRL !!!! " .... That is the VERY WORST.

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    May 10, 2007 10:09 PM GMT
    DrStorm's post:

    "It's a derogatory term in reference to the old South Africa where a lot of black men were garden "boys"....it's a big "no-no"...including the "N" word."

    One of our TV Hosts in Australia, Bert Newton, in the 80's called Muhammad Ali a boy on live television, Ali played it up and was about to knock him out and Bert didn't realise what he'd said until afterwards but needless to say he was shit scared! lol

    But as a gay reference, i think if you're an older person using the term, it plays a submissive role and if you're using it in a user name it reminds of guys who don't want to let go of their youth.
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    May 11, 2007 12:24 AM GMT
    Maybe saying boi means their a pedophile. Just joking, i do not know but it is contempted.