• HndsmKansan

    Posts: 16412

    Nov 26, 2009 3:05 PM GMT
    With this being Thanksgiving, so important to remember all you are grateful for... everything, including friends.

    This was made clear to me by events this past week with a friend of mine.
    Jeff (not an RJ member) lives in NW Arkansas. Great guy.. the kind of person you hope to have as a friend.

    Jeff has befriended a gay couple over the last several years. Its really Jeff''s friend and the friend's partner as the partner has resented Jeff along the way.. sort of adding in a disharmonous note occasionally. Jeff is the kind of person always to help, to remember your birthday (he offered to take both his friend and his partner out on each of their birthdays for dinner).
    Jeff has helped them on prior occasions when assistance was needed.

    But he went way above and beyond this time. Jeff's friend had been out of work for about 6 months and was the primary breadwinner. The partner has a job, but with a much lower income. They fell behind on their house payments and the bank was ready to foreclose. Jeff''s friend ask him to borrow $6,500.00 and of course promised to pay it back with interest.

    Jeff asked me what I thought and I told him.... I hate loaning friends money
    and have seen disasterous results. He needed to be prepared to lose the money or haul the couple to court if it falls through. Jeff said he wanted to help, but is no dummy.

    The result? Jeff this week offered the couple $3,200.00 (about what was needed to solve the bank foreclosure) at 0 percent. They would have to sign an agreement to pay Jeff back (Jeff would swallow the fees for liquidating investments to get the couple the money).

    Instead the offer was rejected. It wasn't enough or inadequate. The resentful partner texted Jeff and basically said that if they lose the house it was Jeff's fault..... I was amazed and stunned. And Jeff? Not that angry, just disappointed... and he told them the offer still stood, even if they needed the money for relocation purposes.

    Now, this thread isn't to bash the couple. Please don't. It's Thanksgiving.
    Its knowing that I have one hell of a friend. This man is something....
    I feel very rich knowing that I have a friend like Jeff.

    Happy Thanksgiving everyone...... and Jeff!

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    Nov 27, 2009 3:50 AM GMT
    . . . Jeff should chose his "friends" more carefully . . . clearly they aren't worthy of his friendship, or even his acknowledgement . . .
  • cowboyathlete

    Posts: 1346

    Nov 27, 2009 3:58 AM GMT
    jprichva saidI'm speechless.
    I agree.