The Five Love Languages:

  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 27, 2009 12:45 AM GMT
    I was watching a repeat of Real Housewives Of Orange County. One of the wives indicated that her husband doesn't fulfill any of these 5 languages of love.

    Take the test and see which language means more to you:



    http://www.afo.net/hftw-lovetest.asp



    The interesting thing about this is, the language of "Touching" was the least important to me. I think it's because in my gay relationships there has never been a lack of physical intimacy.


  • drypin

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    Nov 30, 2009 12:25 AM GMT
    Quality time (11) and touching (9) followed by the top one (6). Gifts and service both scored a whopping 2%
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    Nov 30, 2009 12:33 AM GMT
    Quality Time (12) doubling both Acts of Service (6) and Physical Touch (6).

    Apparently...I don't enjoy gifts that much. Only (1) for that...

    40% = Quality Time
    20% = Acts of Service
    20% = Physical Touch
    17% = Words of Affirmation
    3% = Receiving Gifts
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    Nov 30, 2009 12:34 AM GMT
    10% Words of Affirmation

    17% Quality Time

    10% Receiving Gifts

    33% Acts of Service

    30% Physical Touch
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    Nov 30, 2009 1:03 AM GMT
    30% Acts of Service
    23% Quality Time
    20% Words of Affirmation
    20% Physical Touch
    7% Receiving Gifts

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    Nov 30, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    Quality Time and Acts of Service with my highest, both at 30%.
    I expected Quality Time but Acts of Service??
  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 30, 2009 1:16 AM GMT
    Dante_redux saidQuality Time and Acts of Service with my highest, both at 30%.
    I expected Quality Time but Acts of Service??


    So far that seems to be the trend, Quality Time, and Acts Of Service as the highest.
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    Nov 30, 2009 1:23 AM GMT
    Celticmusl said
    Dante_redux saidQuality Time and Acts of Service with my highest, both at 30%.
    I expected Quality Time but Acts of Service??


    So far that seems to be the trend, Quality Time, and Acts Of Service as the highest.


    Not nessesarly the trend I would have expected.. but then again, it makes sense. Would have expected Physical Touch to rank high but my thinking down that train of thought falls into the sterotype I may have of gay men. icon_razz.gif
    Nice find! Thanks for sharing! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 30, 2009 1:28 AM GMT
    33% - Physical Touch
    30% - Quality Time
    20% - Acts of Service
    10% - Words of Affirmation
    7% - Receiving Gifts

    This sounds about right.
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    Nov 30, 2009 1:32 AM GMT
    Celticmusl said
    Dante_redux saidQuality Time and Acts of Service with my highest, both at 30%.
    I expected Quality Time but Acts of Service??


    So far that seems to be the trend, Quality Time, and Acts Of Service as the highest.


    Maybe we can do a further analysis of the demographics such as age. Perhaps as we grow older we are not wooed as much by ephemeral material gifts as our quest shifts to genuine companionship, which would encompass quality time and acts of service. These two factors are also premised upon nurturing a long term relation and looking for congruity. I think it also has a lot to do with our nature as humans to couple and settle down-long term in monogamous relationships.

    I want to believe that these two factors may have such high scores because these two fundamentals are what put relationships to the test, eventually breaking them or making them stronger. Again, we may place a heavier emphasis on them at this stage, as evidenced by the results, because they may be the things that are deficient in our relationships. I speak for myself here. As in any relationship, it is possible that one partner is more of the giver, mind the pun. and is thus taken for granted, whether consciously or not...it's not always an even ratio...

    Any views?
  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 30, 2009 2:22 AM GMT
    theantijock saidTest Results:

    Quality Time 37%
    Acts of Service 30%
    Physical Touch 20%
    Affirmation 10%
    Gifts 3%
    Feels like a Girl for Taking a Love Test 100%



    Not a girl, not yet a woman.
  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 30, 2009 2:26 AM GMT
    Jools76 said
    Celticmusl said
    Dante_redux saidQuality Time and Acts of Service with my highest, both at 30%.
    I expected Quality Time but Acts of Service??


    So far that seems to be the trend, Quality Time, and Acts Of Service as the highest.


    Maybe we can do a further analysis of the demographics such as age. Perhaps as we grow older we are not wooed as much by ephemeral material gifts as our quest shifts to genuine companionship, which would encompass quality time and acts of service. These two factors are also premised upon nurturing a long term relation and looking for congruity. I think it also has a lot to do with our nature as humans to couple and settle down-long term in monogamous relationships.

    I want to believe that these two factors may have such high scores because these two fundamentals are what put relationships to the test, eventually breaking them or making them stronger. Again, we may place a heavier emphasis on them at this stage, as evidenced by the results, because they may be the things that are deficient in our relationships. I speak for myself here. As in any relationship, it is possible that one partner is more of the giver, mind the pun. and is thus taken for granted, whether consciously or not...it's not always an even ratio...

    Any views?


    I know in my last LTR there was not even a hint of Acts Of Service on his part. If I was going through a serious hardship, such as kidney stones, or after a car accident, he basically was like "good luck with that". At the time we were living together as well.
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    Nov 30, 2009 2:28 AM GMT
    Physical Touch : 40%
    Receiving Gifts: 20%
    Quality Time : 20%
    Words of Affirmation : 17%
    Acts of Service : 3%

    In other words, touch me and gift me, do stuff with me and if there's time say something and don't worry about doing anything.
  • lovemymen

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    Nov 30, 2009 2:55 AM GMT
    Physical Touch :33%
    Words of Affirmation:23%
    Quality Time:23%
    Acts of Service:17%
    Receiving Gifts:3%
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    Nov 30, 2009 3:16 AM GMT
    37% Physical Touch 11
    27% Acts of Service 8
    23% Quality Time 7
    13% Words of Affirmation 4
    0% Receiving Gifts 0

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    Nov 30, 2009 5:13 AM GMT
    50% = Quality Time

    10% = Acts of Service

    20% = Physical Touch

    20% = Words of Affirmation

    0% = Receiving Gifts
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    Nov 30, 2009 5:29 AM GMT
    Jools76 said
    Celticmusl said
    Dante_redux saidQuality Time and Acts of Service with my highest, both at 30%.
    I expected Quality Time but Acts of Service??


    So far that seems to be the trend, Quality Time, and Acts Of Service as the highest.


    Maybe we can do a further analysis of the demographics such as age. Perhaps as we grow older we are not wooed as much by ephemeral material gifts as our quest shifts to genuine companionship, which would encompass quality time and acts of service. These two factors are also premised upon nurturing a long term relation and looking for congruity. I think it also has a lot to do with our nature as humans to couple and settle down-long term in monogamous relationships.

    I want to believe that these two factors may have such high scores because these two fundamentals are what put relationships to the test, eventually breaking them or making them stronger. Again, we may place a heavier emphasis on them at this stage, as evidenced by the results, because they may be the things that are deficient in our relationships. I speak for myself here. As in any relationship, it is possible that one partner is more of the giver, mind the pun. and is thus taken for granted, whether consciously or not...it's not always an even ratio...

    Any views?

    The age factor seems plausible but doesnt apply to everyone. I am an exception to that.
    It is more of a state of mind and what current needs that are desired to be met.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Nov 30, 2009 5:47 AM GMT
    Am I the only one who read this topic and thought that the quiz was going to break down into Italian, Spanish, French, Portuguese, and Romanian (the 5 Romance languages)?
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    Nov 30, 2009 6:03 AM GMT
    It is a fairly common pop psych book MSUBioNerd, but now that you mention it, I'm now reading it as a forum posting on the romance languages.

    Damn my easily swayed footing.
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    Nov 30, 2009 6:51 AM GMT
    27% Words of Affirmation 8
    23% Quality Time 7
    3% Receiving Gifts 1
    7% Acts of Service 2
    40% Physical Touch 12

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  • drypin

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    Nov 30, 2009 10:15 AM GMT
    MSUBioNerd saidAm I the only one who read this topic and thought that the quiz was going to break down into Italian, Spanish, French, Portuguese, and Romanian (the 5 Romance languages)?


    Well, that was my specialization in school, and I would have been deeply disappointed by them just choosing the main ones.
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    Nov 30, 2009 11:15 AM GMT
    37% Quality Time 11
    33% Acts of Service 10
    13% Words of Affirmation 4
    10% Physical Touch 3
    7% Receiving Gifts 2


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    Nov 30, 2009 12:38 PM GMT
    MSUBioNerd saidAm I the only one who read this topic and thought that the quiz was going to break down into Italian, Spanish, French, Portuguese, and Romanian (the 5 Romance languages)?



    No you're not. I thought the same thing and it was that which prompted me to check it out. Yes my love for the five sons of Latin! It's also not common knowledge that Rome is the cognate of Romance and that the Romance language doesn't primarily have to do with romantic liaisons literally. On a different note, many people associate romance with sexiness, so they say, French is the most romantic language as it sounds sexy.
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    Nov 30, 2009 12:46 PM GMT
    Dante_redux said
    Jools76 said
    Celticmusl said
    Dante_redux saidQuality Time and Acts of Service with my highest, both at 30%.
    I expected Quality Time but Acts of Service??


    So far that seems to be the trend, Quality Time, and Acts Of Service as the highest.


    Maybe we can do a further analysis of the demographics such as age. Perhaps as we grow older we are not wooed as much by ephemeral material gifts as our quest shifts to genuine companionship, which would encompass quality time and acts of service. These two factors are also premised upon nurturing a long term relation and looking for congruity. I think it also has a lot to do with our nature as humans to couple and settle down-long term in monogamous relationships.

    I want to believe that these two factors may have such high scores because these two fundamentals are what put relationships to the test, eventually breaking them or making them stronger. Again, we may place a heavier emphasis on them at this stage, as evidenced by the results, because they may be the things that are deficient in our relationships. I speak for myself here. As in any relationship, it is possible that one partner is more of the giver, mind the pun. and is thus taken for granted, whether consciously or not...it's not always an even ratio...

    Any views?

    The age factor seems plausible but doesnt apply to everyone. I am an exception to that.
    It is more of a state of mind and what current needs that are desired to be met.


    I suppose we could make the distinction then, between biological age life cycle and mental age life cycle!
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    Nov 30, 2009 12:48 PM GMT
    I estimate this is fairly accurate -

    Words of Affirmation 20%
    Quality Time 27%
    Receiving Gifts 3%
    Acts of Service 37%
    Physical Touch 13%