So I came out today...

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    Nov 27, 2009 6:05 AM GMT
    Came out and my mom and dad today they still love me ok with my sexuality and told me longs as I'm happy and have somebody to love me they will be happy. I'm so fucking happy today wish all the men out there in the closet have it this good. FUCK I LOVE MY FAMILY!!!
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    Nov 27, 2009 6:06 AM GMT
    Congrats man. My parents found out in May and its been better ever since. Happy for you!
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    Nov 27, 2009 6:37 AM GMT
    Yes it rocks. My family was 100% cool from the get go. We are really lucky.

    CONGRATS!
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    Nov 27, 2009 6:43 AM GMT
    CONGRATS,.....

    Your lucky. My family would sooner have me dead then live a gay lifestyle. I am not sure how far their love for me goes. They don't care if I am alone...they do care about their image in the community only....I can say I do not love my family anymore. They are selfish and mean fucking people. Just like most of my town. Keep out!
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    Nov 27, 2009 6:49 AM GMT
    C'mere Johnny, yep real close. *Two guys hug Johnny*

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    Nov 27, 2009 6:55 AM GMT
    Calvin, that's awesome... and the way it should be! It's great to hear about your story, and the other posters' whose families were understanding and accepting.

    Johnny, you really drew the short straw on that one. I'd ask for my money back! icon_sad.gif I hope you have some supportive friends. At the very least, we're all paying attention and sending good thoughts.
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    Nov 27, 2009 7:10 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidWow Johnny,, that's really sad! Do they live in the same city as you?


    The entire deal has been a huge hardship. I am proud of young gay men like CALVIN who come out and have a supportive family. It is family who are the most important right?

    No......not anymore. I did not go to Thanksgiving today, I went for a long walk and soaked in the tub and had a bag of popcorn...lol I am not saying this for any reason other than I noticed his post and I am offering some contrast. I have a very checkered past and present with my sexuality.

    I am not much in the mood for Christmas either. It seems that when you have so much hate perpetrated on you that the wind just gets kicked out of you. I used to like doing so many things. After this summer, when it all started...I just want away,

    I am going to write my books and tell about it...you might find it .....I dunno...sad.

    ....and yes they do live here. My parent's, sisters and all...I was invited over to my aunts house today....I am so glad I did not go. When I cam home from my walk she forwarded this email to me. It made me ill. IT'S A FUCKING NIGHTMARE!!


    > What a great bit of news for all of those who worked
    > so hard on Prop. 8 and
    > took all of the abuse as well!!
    > We just received this from our son and his wife, Steve
    > and Debbie, for
    > those of you who don't know them!!
    > Bill
    > -----
    > Subject: Following the Prophet
    >
    >
    >
    >
    >
    >
    > Hi Dad, hope you guys are gimping along
    > ok? icon_smile.gif
    > I just got this from one of the ppl that were
    > leading the Prop 8
    > campaign..I think it is so wonderful to see how the
    > Lord works through
    > others.
    > Love you guys...Steve
    >
    > Many reasons why we follow a prophet....
    >
    >
    > Jane Parker, who
    > is the late Elder Wirthlin's daughter, told us
    > the following story today
    > in Relief
    > Society. She went to a talk by a lawyer
    > for the European Area
    > (each area of the Church has a legal department).
    > The talk was about
    > the ability to have a temple built in Rome, Italy
    > which was announced as a
    > done deal in conference recently. He stated
    > that they knew they
    > needed to have contact with the cardinals of the
    > Catholic Church to see if
    > they would approve or go along with our desire to
    > have a temple built
    > there. He heard of a reception at which the
    > cardinals would be
    > present, and the legal department for the church was
    > also invited.
    > He approached one cardinal and talked to him
    > about the issue.
    > The cardinal said, "We will support you in
    > any effort you want
    > because of your support of Proposition 8 in California."
    >
    >
    > Jane's comment was that she doesn't think the
    > Church people in
    > California who worked so long and so hard on getting
    > that proposition
    > passed and many even suffered persecution probably
    > know that they were the
    > instruments in getting a temple built in Rome, Italy.
    >
    >
    >
    >

    They are all so consumed with it. They eat sleep and drink this shit. I do not enjoy being around ANY OF THEM. The millions they spent could have provided dinners for many hungry and homeless this time of year.....IT'S ALL HATE>..all of it!!



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    Nov 27, 2009 7:57 AM GMT
    Aww Gooo Ricky! icon_biggrin.gif xox
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    Nov 27, 2009 9:49 AM GMT
    Congrats Calvin!! I am happy for you that everything went so well icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 27, 2009 9:50 AM GMT
    Congratulations, buddy. You should definitely play, "Touch the Sky"!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 27, 2009 9:52 AM GMT
    Mystic_Man saidCONGRATS,.....

    Your lucky. My family would sooner have me dead then live a gay lifestyle. I am not sure how far their love for me goes. They don't care if I am alone...they do care about their image in the community only....I can say I do not love my family anymore. They are selfish and mean fucking people. Just like most of my town. Keep out!


    OH I completely understand where your coming from.

    My family would rather have me be a criminal than a homosexual.
    They are not religious but very ignorant and judgemental to the ones that don't share their values and beliefs.
    Thats why I haven't come out to them yet.

    I hope to move away from my city/state soon. I suggest the same for you! icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 27, 2009 10:31 AM GMT
    Congrats Ricky, big step!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 27, 2009 1:15 PM GMT
    Calvin saidCame out and my mom and dad today they still love me ok with my sexuality and told me longs as I'm happy and have somebody to love me they will be happy. I'm so fucking happy today wish all the men out there in the closet have it this good. FUCK I LOVE MY FAMILY!!!


    Congrats. I would never tell them, and it's for the best. For now, only people here on RJ know who I really am haha! I always imagined that my family would hear about it when I'm really really far away.
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    Nov 27, 2009 1:24 PM GMT
    Glad to hear it all went so well. I'm sure many here would want to be in your shoes. I'm glad I've never had this kind of worry.

    Congrats again....and show your appreciation by helping others who might not be so lucky....

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    Nov 27, 2009 2:47 PM GMT
    Mystic_Man saidCONGRATS,.....

    Your lucky. My family would sooner have me dead then live a gay lifestyle. I am not sure how far their love for me goes. They don't care if I am alone...they do care about their image in the community only....I can say I do not love my family anymore. They are selfish and mean fucking people. Just like most of my town. Keep out!




    Sorry to hear that, man.
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    Nov 27, 2009 2:47 PM GMT
    Congrats!!!!
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    Nov 27, 2009 2:57 PM GMT
    Calvin saidCame out and my mom and dad today they still love me ok with my sexuality and told me longs as I'm happy and have somebody to love me they will be happy. I'm so fucking happy today wish all the men out there in the closet have it this good. FUCK I LOVE MY FAMILY!!!


    Congratulations Calvin! I am so happy for you! Coming out is a scary experience. It is amazing how family can surprise you. I grew up very Roman Catholic so telling my parents was the most difficult thing I thought I would ever do. I thought they would reject me or at, minimum, greatly disapprove of me. I was so pleasantly surprised to find that it is quite the opposite. Dad said he knew for years and both mom and dad have been so supportive and wonderful. They really like my guy too which helps a ton!!!

    Calvin, the rest of your coming out should be very smooth. I think once the parents know and are cool with it, everything else is icing on the cake!

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!
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    Nov 27, 2009 3:00 PM GMT
    That is absolutely wonderful. Congrats goes to you and your parents..they rock!
    For many it is still a very difficult process and for some families it takes much longer to accept and then even embrace their gay children..even sadder is that some do not.

    Again..many congrats to you!
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    Nov 27, 2009 3:04 PM GMT
    Congrats dude.
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    Nov 27, 2009 3:04 PM GMT
    Calvin, Congratulations. Support and love are a big deal. Mystic, sorry for the pain you're facing. I can't imagine having that kind of hatred for being who you are. Having experienced what Calvin is experiencing often makes us forget that there are those who don't get the support and the necessity for the of us to be supportive of them all.
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    Nov 27, 2009 3:15 PM GMT
    I'm so happy for you, Calvin! Congrats. My family was really accepting as well. We are truly lucky to have that support.
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    Nov 27, 2009 3:16 PM GMT
    Calvin !!!! I am so glad to read of your good fortune with your family supporting you as they do !!! This is great !! Good luck to you !!
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    Nov 27, 2009 3:24 PM GMT
    congratulations :-)
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    Nov 27, 2009 3:35 PM GMT
    CONGRATS CALVIN!

    It is a tough choice to make. Glad you did it. Celebrate and be
    Thank Full
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    Nov 27, 2009 3:37 PM GMT
    Good boy!!!