I thought over 10 years ago, as a strategic tactic, that we should target approval of civil unions. That was winnable, and in time the line between civil unions and marriages would blur. Eventually we would get full marriage rights.
But our gay leadership thought otherwise, and took an all-or-nothing approach. You can judge by the results, with gay marriage now barred in a majority of US states.
I understand tactics & strategy. My focus is winning. We are not winning. I would therefore judge our current gay leadership to have failed.
I wish we had cold logic in charge of this, instead of emotional queens. Until that happens, we can expect to continue to lose.