I sing at a piano bar as part of an open mic night. I come alone, but meet people I know there. I used to hook-up at bars and clubs, mostly in the 1980's, but very rarely now. Most nights, if I am alone, I prefer being at home, reading, cooking, writing, doing music. I go to potlucks, sometimes with others, sometimes by myself on a regular basis. I find it very difficult to talk with strangers in a bar or club even when I am confident. The conversations are pretty stilted because I don't know what we have in common and it is difficult to find out. The club is not a relaxed setting conducive to getting to know others. It is more fun when you know people and dance.