hooking up with gods who are actually mortals after all...

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    Nov 28, 2009 6:32 AM GMT
    oh.
    my.
    god.
    becky.
    what?

    okay, way back at the beginning of february i was completely bulldozed over by a guy named allen. well, after a few months i finally healed, and then a few months later he started contacting me again; however, i didn't have to actually SEE him in person until wednesday night.

    i was part of a fundraiser for an aids charity, and i had to choreograph a simple duet with me and allen, because he was the other male dancer for the evening. i'd not laid eyes on him since we'd last had lunch way back in february...

    and there he was... in all his glory... wtf?

    he drinks too much, so his muscle definition was gone. but i was like, "hey, it happens. lemme just stop being nervous." but i had to dance VERY close to him, and then it happened... he said something in my face... and his breath almost kicked my teeth in.

    i meditated on these imperfections for the 4 hours we were rehearsing for the performance, because i'd been feeling for 9 months as if i'd been struck down by a god. but does divine perfection need breath mints??

    anyway, when we decided to hook up for old time's sake... um. what? this is the passionate lover over whom i cried for 3 or 4 months? really? because he's got boogers in his nose, the sex is BORING, his breath stinks, and he's gained at least 15 pounds. i was just like, "i hope he doesn't want to stay afterward." but he did.

    god!

    so then... the next morning... we're at opposite ends of the king sized bed at my hotel room... and do you know what wakes me up from 4 feet away away out of a deep sleep??? HIS BREATH! it got WORSE. omg?! i sat there mortified that he'd want to go at it again once he was awake... "please, sweet baby jesus, i will go to church if you'll just make him go away!"

    he wakes up. and thankfully he just wants to go. great! we spent 20 minutes getting our stuff together and packing to leave, and the conversation was not comfortable for me at all. i just wanted to be away from him as soon as possible...

    how awkward... he really was a human being all this time.
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    Nov 28, 2009 7:01 AM GMT
    It seems the fixation is finally over. Welcome back to earth!! icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 28, 2009 2:02 PM GMT
    Reality can only break trances if you let them...congrats!
  • dannyboy1101

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    Nov 28, 2009 2:49 PM GMT
    Everyone has imperfections. The ones who seem like they don't usually have the most, it's just they're hidden well or they're all internal.
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    Nov 28, 2009 2:58 PM GMT
    That's a perfect description of a coyote morning.

    You know - when one has too much to drink the night before and as a result wakes up next to someone less than desireable. Like a trapped coyote one would rather gnaw off their own arm than risk waking the creature next to them.

    Live and Learn!
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    Nov 28, 2009 3:07 PM GMT
    So you are no longer smitten by this man, woo hoo, the spell is over.
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    Nov 28, 2009 3:09 PM GMT
    It is the “holy crap, what was I thinking” moment we all need to grow as a person.
  • Timbales

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    Nov 28, 2009 3:10 PM GMT
    After seeing him, I'm surprised you went as far as you did. I don't think I would have.
  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 28, 2009 3:13 PM GMT
    I hate to be the Debbie Downer but there are medical conditions that would make one lose muscle mass, gain weight, and have bad breath. If someone changed that drastically in a matter of months that's where my mind would go.
  • Neon_Dreams

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    Nov 28, 2009 3:17 PM GMT
    Listen to Infatuation by Maroon 5. icon_biggrin.gif It happens to the best of us...

    How we are blinded by love...or infatuation...is a matter to be studied.


    Joe
  • Timbales

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    Nov 28, 2009 3:19 PM GMT
    Celticmusl saidI hate to be the Debbie Downer but there are medical conditions that would make one lose muscle mass, gain weight, and have bad breath. If someone changed that drastically in a matter of months that's where my mind would go.


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  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 28, 2009 3:26 PM GMT
    Timberoo said
    Celticmusl saidI hate to be the Debbie Downer but there are medical conditions that would make one lose muscle mass, gain weight, and have bad breath. If someone changed that drastically in a matter of months that's where my mind would go.


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    Lol, I love her! Who else could I be? A vegetarian at Thanksgiving dinner is the perfect Debbie Downer. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 28, 2009 3:31 PM GMT
    ROFL Timberoo, that is one priceless pic!
  • nv7_

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    Nov 28, 2009 3:59 PM GMT
    So the fact that most men are "human" would then explain why most are single? I'm all confused and stuff. icon_eek.gif

    Human = bad.
    God = good.

    God is good!!

    The right wing Christians were right after all. icon_cool.gif

    Can I get an amen up in here? icon_biggrin.gif
  • GQjock

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    Nov 28, 2009 4:04 PM GMT
    S'why I never wanna meet guys I drool over in the movies

    Because they never live up to what you dream them to be
    Right Dylan McDermott? icon_cool.gif

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    Nobody could be that perfect
  • wellwell

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    Nov 28, 2009 4:11 PM GMT
    the fart-breath & flab should have tipped-you-off earlier icon_idea.gif
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    Nov 28, 2009 4:15 PM GMT
    Isn't this what fixations and lust is all about? The reality often is a let down. That's why I am always amused by how so many guys fall apart when someone doesn't respond to them or how so many guys fall apart over some guy simply because of his 4 6 or 8 pack

    Men are stupid, I swear.....
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 28, 2009 4:18 PM GMT
    So what church are you attending Jack? Since you came to profound "realization" and he went away.... I was just curious.

    The God becomes Man.... in one hookup....

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    Nov 28, 2009 4:18 PM GMT
    yeah, i get that i "shouldn't" have hooked up with him given his unhygienic imperfections... but i NEEDED to... i needed to bask in his ordinary-ness. for me. for my sole benefit. it's selfish, but (unlike other people) i admit to being a selfish person. he hurt me, and this was my way of completing the healing process: wanting him away from me almost as powerfully as i wanted him near me.
  • rdberg1957

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    Nov 28, 2009 4:26 PM GMT
    I met someone recently who was EXACTLY my type. The sex was wonderful and so was he. He was sweet, kind, clearly very bright, had a huge cock, gorgeous body and a great smile and knew what he was doing in bed. I had a great time; I'm not exactly sure about him. I've left him a message, no call back. Maybe we won't connect again even as friends. But I will remember him as one of the best encounters I've ever had. Of course, no one is perfect forever, but maybe for a moment or two and in my memory.
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    Nov 28, 2009 6:54 PM GMT
    Yeah, it seems like you were into him before, and now that he isn't in top form, you claim he isn't good enough for you because of physical flaws. The mind does play tricks, I guess.
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    Nov 28, 2009 6:58 PM GMT
    Kind of reminded ya to keep your values a little lower, eh? Well I guess we all may put our past experiences a bit on a pedestal. As time goes by things can take on a mystical quality. I really liked reading this DJ. I do know it was a bit of a let down for you though buddy.

    dancerjack saidyeah, i get that i "shouldn't" have hooked up with him given his unhygienic imperfections... but i NEEDED to... i needed to bask in his ordinary-ness. for me. for my sole benefit. it's selfish, but (unlike other people) i admit to being a selfish person. he hurt me, and this was my way of completing the healing process: wanting him away from me almost as powerfully as i wanted him near me.
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    Nov 28, 2009 7:11 PM GMT
    Maybe he was drinking too much because of the hidden pain from your split.

    Who knows, maybe he was thinking the same things about you?

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  • camfer

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    Nov 28, 2009 7:25 PM GMT
    If you take a guy back to your hotel who's got bad breath and boogers hanging out his nose, fer gawd's sake don't suffer through it, just *tell* the guy. Anyone would appreciate being told like this:

    "Your breath is a little strong right now. Here's some gum/mints/a toothbrush." Or since you're taking him back to your hotel, grab an extra toothbrush at the front desk and when you get to your room say, "Let's clean up after a long day," and you both brush your teeth together in the bathroom.

    For dangling boogers:
    "You might want to head to the bathroom and fix your nose."

    For visible food stuck in teeth:
    "You might want to head to the bathroom and fix your smile."

    For zippers left down:
    "Hey you might want to fix your zipper."

    You both win when you say these things. Of course, maybe you wanted him to have bad breath and boogers hanging out his nose, just to break the spell...

    But anyway, yeah, it always feels good to have your power back. Infatuation can be a powerful force.


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    Nov 28, 2009 9:48 PM GMT
    All I'm going to say is this: