GROCERY STORE ETIQUETTE...... What do you see while there?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 29, 2009 7:50 PM GMT
    My trips to the grocery store are usually fairly pleasant. I generally shop at whats called a "Dillons Marketplace" here in Kansas. Dillons is a Kansas based chain owned by Kroger and the Marketplace is a large store that carries extras, including lots of fresh meat, fish... even things like furniture.

    Always interesting to watch people and how engrossed they are with shopping, how polite or bluntly rude they can be.... and how many notice others and those who are lucky they don't wreck their carts because of how
    blind they seem.

    Today I heard a woman tell the Salvation Army Representative ringing his bell that "he was out of luck", she didn't have any change and she wasnt' going back to car to get any. I felt like telling her to be "big" and give him a dollar bill.... LOL

    But you also see people who are very curteous of other people. I actually had a woman who moved over at the deli counter while in a conversation with another person so I could place an order. That was nice.

    LOL

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  • theONLYallan

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    Nov 29, 2009 10:42 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said

    Today I heard a woman tell the Salvation Army Representative ringing his bell that "he was out of luck", she didn't have any change and she wasnt' going back to car to get any. I felt like telling her to be "big" and give him a dollar bill.... LOL

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    can you really judge someone? maybe she had a really bad day.. unfortunately she took it out on that poor volunteer.
  • Timbales

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    Nov 30, 2009 12:58 AM GMT
    People are generally surly and avoid eye contact where I live. I just stay polite and say "excuse me" when appropriate - passing someone who is stopped to look at an item, reaching to get something off a shelf near someone, etc.
  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 30, 2009 1:04 AM GMT
    theantijock said
    theONLYallan said
    HndsmKansan said

    Today I heard a woman tell the Salvation Army Representative ringing his bell that "he was out of luck", she didn't have any change and she wasnt' going back to car to get any. I felt like telling her to be "big" and give him a dollar bill.... LOL

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    can you really judge someone? maybe she had a really bad day.. unfortunately she took it out on that poor volunteer.


    I guess the bulldyke in front of me at the cashier at Publix last night was also having a bad day because she couldn't take her fucking phone out of her fucking ear for long enough to count her fucking change and move the fuck on. Not that I'd ever think of judging someone, mind you.

    (but generally I find people driving shopping carts less hostile than when they drive their cars.)


    Although you have used the word "bulldyke" in a correct context, which I applaud, you have also used up your limit of using the "f" word for the next week.
  • Webster666

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    Nov 30, 2009 1:17 AM GMT
    It took me years to figure out that the problem is the shopping cart. If I run in and get only what will fit into one of those hand carried baskets, all the inconsiderate ass holes who park their carts in the middle of the aisles are never in my way.

    Never the less, the grocery store is still a necessary evil.
    There are still the people who stand there and wait for everything to be rung up, then look up in surprise when the checker asks for payment.

    And, why are the "Express" checkout lines slower than the regular checkout lines ?
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    Nov 30, 2009 1:27 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidMy trips to the grocery store are usually fairly pleasant. I generally shop at whats called a "Dillons Marketplace" here in Kansas. Dillons is a Kansas based chain owned by Kroger and the Marketplace is a large store that carries extras, including lots of fresh meat, fish... even things like furniture.

    Always interesting to watch people and how engrossed they are with shopping, how polite or bluntly rude they can be.... and how many notice others and those who are lucky they don't wreck their carts because of how
    blind they seem.

    Today I heard a woman tell the Salvation Army Representative ringing his bell that "he was out of luck", she didn't have any change and she wasnt' going back to car to get any. I felt like telling her to be "big" and give him a dollar bill.... LOL

    But you also see people who are very curteous of other people. I actually had a woman who moved over at the deli counter while in a conversation with another person so I could place an order. That was nice.

    LOL

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    Years ago The Salvation Army attempted to strike a deal with the Bush Administration to allow discrimination against gays while receiving federal funds through faith-based initiative programs. For this reason I have stopped giving any money to the Salvation Army years ago. There are several other charities one can give to which don't seek to discrimination against gays.
    http://www.americablog.com/2004/11/details-of-salvation-armys-rabidly.html
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    Nov 30, 2009 1:33 AM GMT
    The Jewel/Osco at Broadway and Addison in Chicago is an experience unto itself. Let me preface this by saying I love my Jewel enough that 4 years ago I dubbed it "The Damned Jewel" and all of my friends know of which store I speak.

    Shopping at this store can be an almost mind-numbing experience because you have a clash of cultures. You have a large gay-male customer base who shops there, senior citizens and then some of the trixie girls and young Mom's who reside in the hood. The store is entirely too small, with aisles that are far too close together and too much stuff crammed in. That is where the fun begins.

    The other day, while picking up a few things (I am loathe to use a shopping cart in this store - that becomes a suicide mission) and saw what appeared to be Walter Matthau's groucher, older brother from Grumpy Old Men actually shove this brainless girl's shopping cart out of his way. She had her iPod on and thought she was the only person in the store I guess. When she glared at this guy, who shoved the cart halfway down the aisle - he let her have it about learning how to shop, common courtesy and "If she'd take those goddamned things out of her ears, maybe she'd realize she's not alone in the store or the world".

    I also saw a woman throw a hissy fit because she "hid" three jars of poultry seasoning and someone had found them and taken one. This woman was frantic to the point of practically being in tears, so she gives her cell phone to her daughter and tells her to call every grocery store in the area to see if they have poultry seasoning. My questions were this. (a) Does someone this stupid really belong in the kitchen around sharp objects and fire? (b) Why did said crazy-lady (I have seen her numerous times before in the store and she is always spastic/rude) hide the damn seasoning when she HAD a shopping cart and the daughter had a basket?

    It's fun to stop in there on a Friday after work to buy a bottle of happy and to see all the sprites and fairies from the neighborhood all dressed up, running around doing last minute shopping before the weekend. It's just sort of a cool vibe that reminds you that you live in a one of a kind place. Plus the store staff is super nice and helpful there.
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    Nov 30, 2009 1:38 AM GMT
    Haha, i live right near your Damned Jewel, and have yet to go in. Fresh & New to chicago and that's the closest store near me.

    I really have to stop going to subway or getting chinese from China Star... heh

    I look forward to the craziness at Jewel!
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    Nov 30, 2009 1:44 AM GMT
    ChicagoBriGuy saidThe Jewel/Osco at Broadway and Addison in Chicago is an experience unto itself. Let me preface this by saying I love my Jewel enough that 4 years ago I dubbed it "The Damned Jewel" and all of my friends know of which store I speak.

    Shopping at this store can be an almost mind-numbing experience because you have a clash of cultures. You have a large gay-male customer base who shops there, senior citizens and then some of the trixie girls and young Mom's who reside in the hood. The store is entirely too small, with aisles that are far too close together and too much stuff crammed in. That is where the fun begins.

    The other day, while picking up a few things (I am loathe to use a shopping cart in this store - that becomes a suicide mission) and saw what appeared to be Walter Matthau's groucher, older brother from Grumpy Old Men actually shove this brainless girl's shopping cart out of his way. She had her iPod on and thought she was the only person in the store I guess. When she glared at this guy, who shoved the cart halfway down the aisle - he let her have it about learning how to shop, common courtesy and "If she'd take those goddamned things out of her ears, maybe she'd realize she's not alone in the store or the world".

    I also saw a woman throw a hissy fit because she "hid" three jars of poultry seasoning and someone had found them and taken one. This woman was frantic to the point of practically being in tears, so she gives her cell phone to her daughter and tells her to call every grocery store in the area to see if they have poultry seasoning. My questions were this. (a) Does someone this stupid really belong in the kitchen around sharp objects and fire? (b) Why did said crazy-lady (I have seen her numerous times before in the store and she is always spastic/rude) hide the damn seasoning when she HAD a shopping cart and the daughter had a basket?

    It's fun to stop in there on a Friday after work to buy a bottle of happy and to see all the sprites and fairies from the neighborhood all dressed up, running around doing last minute shopping before the weekend. It's just sort of a cool vibe that reminds you that you live in a one of a kind place. Plus the store staff is super nice and helpful there.


    Also how about the people not knowing how to stand in line for the self-checkout! It is one line! I don't know how many times I've seen someone cut in front of a whole line of people. Yeah we all just wanting for the right side checkout. Such people must think the left side is being saved for line cutting jerks and bitches like themselves. If you been to the Jewel in question I am sure you know what I am talking about.
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    Nov 30, 2009 2:12 AM GMT
    people on a cellphone at the counter
    that gets me
    show some respect when dealing with a real person
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 30, 2009 2:46 AM GMT
    theONLYallan said
    HndsmKansan said

    Today I heard a woman tell the Salvation Army Representative ringing his bell that "he was out of luck", she didn't have any change and she wasnt' going back to car to get any. I felt like telling her to be "big" and give him a dollar bill.... LOL

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    can you really judge someone? maybe she had a really bad day.. unfortunately she took it out on that poor volunteer.



    Sure I can and you can too... you made a judgement based on a paragraph in a RJ thread.

    She was nasty to the volunteer, thats why I said what I did.
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    Nov 30, 2009 3:29 AM GMT
    Ani DiFranco - Pixie

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FDPDdsC5vFA

    "the man behind the counter looks like he's got
    a half a dozen places he'd rather be
    and furthermore it looks like he's prepared
    to take it all out on me
    buddy, i don't really care what your problem is
    just don't make it mine
    come on kids, let's all hold hands
    and pretend we're having a good time
    maybe you don't like your job
    maybe you didn't get enough sleep
    well, nobody likes their job
    nobody got enough sleep
    maybe you just had
    the worst day of your life
    but, you know, there's no escape
    and there's no excuse
    so just suck up and be nice"
  • coolarmydude

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    Nov 30, 2009 3:38 AM GMT
    At the beginning of the year I was on crutches and found out that the commissary opens a half hour early for handicap and those needing assistance. So of course, I used the powered carts to drive around getting my groceries and I started going during the early opening every Sunday morning, which is at 0830.

    Since I've been able to walk, I still go at 0830 because there's hardly anyone, the shelves are stocked full, the store is clean and quiet and I don't wait in line to check out. This has been my best discovery of 2009. I'm sticking with it.
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    Nov 30, 2009 3:55 AM GMT
    how people act at the grocery store is just an extension of how they drive on the streets and freeways.

    many are as oblivious driving a cart as they are driving a car... and have you seen cart rage? oh, my, god.. saw a fat middle age chick and 20 something marine yelling at each other over whose fault it was for knocking over a huge ass store display.

    most people exist without common sense and situational awareness
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    Nov 30, 2009 4:02 AM GMT
    I have to say - - - I don't have any sort of problems with people in my grocery store. It is a family run place - - not a big box store. The people seem fine - truly considerate and pleasant. After reading what some of you have gone through, I guess I'm more grateful for my store.

    Now if I go to a Costco - - don't get me started. What a big, fat mess of too many people. I try to stay out of places like that. The little bit of savings is just not worth it.
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    Nov 30, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    ChicagoBriGuy saidThe Jewel/Osco at Broadway and Addison in Chicago is an experience unto itself. Let me preface this by saying I love my Jewel enough that 4 years ago I dubbed it "The Damned Jewel" and all of my friends know of which store I speak.

    Shopping at this store can be an almost mind-numbing experience because you have a clash of cultures. You have a large gay-male customer base who shops there, senior citizens and then some of the trixie girls and young Mom's who reside in the hood. The store is entirely too small, with aisles that are far too close together and too much stuff crammed in. That is where the fun begins.

    The other day, while picking up a few things (I am loathe to use a shopping cart in this store - that becomes a suicide mission) and saw what appeared to be Walter Matthau's groucher, older brother from Grumpy Old Men actually shove this brainless girl's shopping cart out of his way. She had her iPod on and thought she was the only person in the store I guess. When she glared at this guy, who shoved the cart halfway down the aisle - he let her have it about learning how to shop, common courtesy and "If she'd take those goddamned things out of her ears, maybe she'd realize she's not alone in the store or the world".

    I also saw a woman throw a hissy fit because she "hid" three jars of poultry seasoning and someone had found them and taken one. This woman was frantic to the point of practically being in tears, so she gives her cell phone to her daughter and tells her to call every grocery store in the area to see if they have poultry seasoning. My questions were this. (a) Does someone this stupid really belong in the kitchen around sharp objects and fire? (b) Why did said crazy-lady (I have seen her numerous times before in the store and she is always spastic/rude) hide the damn seasoning when she HAD a shopping cart and the daughter had a basket?

    It's fun to stop in there on a Friday after work to buy a bottle of happy and to see all the sprites and fairies from the neighborhood all dressed up, running around doing last minute shopping before the weekend. It's just sort of a cool vibe that reminds you that you live in a one of a kind place. Plus the store staff is super nice and helpful there.



    I was just there tonight and was thinking about how much of a hassle this one was compared to the one I used to go to on clark and division. It doesn't seem to matter when I go there because it is always busy. But it's about a half a block away so convenience wins.
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    Nov 30, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    It was a dark and stormy night.

    There was a shortage of cashiers (meaning there was one) and this woman held up the line for 10 minutes so her idiot daughter who had a cell phone stuck to her head could go out to her car to get her wallet. By the time she came back, there were probably at least 15 people in line and most of them were pretty pissed off. So pissed off that the miserly manager who had been thunking change the entire time finally opened up a register. icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Nov 30, 2009 4:08 AM GMT
    I have one rule. If you can't operate the self check-out machine in a quick and efficient manner, DON'T FUCKING USE IT! Seriously, these people need to be gutted with a broken liquor bottle and have their innards tap danced in.
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    Nov 30, 2009 4:09 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidI have one rule. If you can't operate the self check-out machine in a quick and efficient manner, DON"T FUCKING USE IT! Seriously, these people need to be gutted with a broken liquor bottle and have their innards tap danced in.


    LOL, down boy
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    Nov 30, 2009 4:11 AM GMT
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    GuerrillaSodomite saidI have one rule. If you can't operate the self check-out machine in a quick and efficient manner, DON"T FUCKING USE IT! Seriously, these people need to be gutted with a broken liquor bottle and have their innards tap danced in.


    LOL, down boy


    Hey, it's the rudest most offensive thing you can do in a grocery store.icon_mad.gif
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    Nov 30, 2009 4:12 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidI have one rule. If you can't operate the self check-out machine in a quick and efficient manner, DON"T FUCKING USE IT! Seriously, these people need to be gutted with a broken liquor bottle and have their innards tap danced in.


    I can't stand it when it repeatedly says, "the weight is not correct...." or "please remove the unscanned item from the bagging area" after actually scanning it.
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    Nov 30, 2009 4:18 AM GMT
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    GuerrillaSodomite saidI have one rule. If you can't operate the self check-out machine in a quick and efficient manner, DON"T FUCKING USE IT! Seriously, these people need to be gutted with a broken liquor bottle and have their innards tap danced in.


    I can't stand it when it repeatedly says, "the weight is not correct...." or "please remove the unscanned item from the bagging area" after actually scanning it.


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    GuerrillaSodomite saidI have one rule. If you can't operate the self check-out machine in a quick and efficient manner, DON"T FUCKING USE IT! Seriously, these people need to be gutted with a broken liquor bottle and have their innards tap danced in.


    I can't stand it when it repeatedly says, "the weight is not correct...." or "please remove the unscanned item from the bagging area" after actually scanning it.


    The scanners at the commissary are extremely sensitive, the bastard child of ones at Wal-Mart, Home Depot, or wherever else.
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    Nov 30, 2009 4:28 AM GMT
    We most often go to a local Publix supermarket here in South Florida, near an intersection known as "Five Points" that jprichva would know. Here's what we encounter:

    - Meeting lots of our gay friends in the aisles, since a great many, if not the majority of the customers there are gay.
    - Rude gay men who knock into me and my partner, though both of us have canes, who don't apologize but elbow us out of their way in their eagerness to buy a can of soup or something. I expect better of gay men, but apparently not in a supermarket.
    - Women who block the aisles with their carts, oblivious to anyone but themselves, total air-heads. I expect nothing better of women so I ignore it.
    - Immigrants from the Caribbean islands, where apparently manners are not taught. They bump into you, force their way past you, block the aisles as they wish, never saying an "Excuse me" or anything remotely resembling politeness.
    - Grossly overweight people who take the electric courtesy carts that Publix provides. Which means my recuperating partner doesn't have one to use, despite us both being disabled, with permanent handicapped parking permits, and him barely able to walk after his recent medical crisis. Yet when the fat-asses leave the store, I note they don't have handicapped parking permits themselves.
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    ChicagoBriGuy saidThe Jewel/Osco at Broadway and Addison in Chicago is an experience unto itself. Let me preface this by saying I love my Jewel enough that 4 years ago I dubbed it "The Damned Jewel" and all of my friends know of which store I speak.

    Shopping at this store can be an almost mind-numbing experience because you have a clash of cultures. You have a large gay-male customer base who shops there, senior citizens and then some of the trixie girls and young Mom's who reside in the hood. The store is entirely too small, with aisles that are far too close together and too much stuff crammed in. That is where the fun begins.

    The other day, while picking up a few things (I am loathe to use a shopping cart in this store - that becomes a suicide mission) and saw what appeared to be Walter Matthau's groucher, older brother from Grumpy Old Men actually shove this brainless girl's shopping cart out of his way. She had her iPod on and thought she was the only person in the store I guess. When she glared at this guy, who shoved the cart halfway down the aisle - he let her have it about learning how to shop, common courtesy and "If she'd take those goddamned things out of her ears, maybe she'd realize she's not alone in the store or the world".

    I also saw a woman throw a hissy fit because she "hid" three jars of poultry seasoning and someone had found them and taken one. This woman was frantic to the point of practically being in tears, so she gives her cell phone to her daughter and tells her to call every grocery store in the area to see if they have poultry seasoning. My questions were this. (a) Does someone this stupid really belong in the kitchen around sharp objects and fire? (b) Why did said crazy-lady (I have seen her numerous times before in the store and she is always spastic/rude) hide the damn seasoning when she HAD a shopping cart and the daughter had a basket?

    It's fun to stop in there on a Friday after work to buy a bottle of happy and to see all the sprites and fairies from the neighborhood all dressed up, running around doing last minute shopping before the weekend. It's just sort of a cool vibe that reminds you that you live in a one of a kind place. Plus the store staff is super nice and helpful there.


    Also how about the people not knowing how to stand in line for the self-checkout! It is one line! I don't know how many times I've seen someone cut in front of a whole line of people. Yeah we all just wanting for the right side checkout. Such people must think the left side is being saved for line cutting jerks and bitches like themselves. If you been to the Jewel in question I am sure you know what I am talking about.


    I know exactly what you're talking about. The checkout lanes there are dreadful. Usually those who cut in line are ones who are so busy talking on their cellphones or texting that they are oblivious to the rest of us who have stood there for 10 minutes or more, mustering as much patience as we can.

    I've told people that my ex-Wife's name is "Jewel"... she's a colossal pain in the ass, costs me money every time I see her and leaves me almost mind numbed when I leave, yet I just can't seem to tear myself away from the old girl. Since I can't have an ex-wife, I guess an overstuffed, dysfunctional supermarket will have to do.