Want to date this guy I do business with but how not to ruin the business realtionship ?

  • chgobuzz1

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    Dec 01, 2009 5:30 AM GMT
    A couple months ago I was introduced to this very cool and hot guy I instantly liked in a business deal involving real estate. He was the agent involved and I played another role so I had to work with him. He asked me to drive him back to his office and we got to know each other a bit during the drive. I sent him a thank you card for helping me with the deal after that. Fast forward to 3 weeks ago when another deal happens and he asks me to help him. I do that and the deal finishes last week. A friend told me to be careful as you dont want to spoil the business he may help you get and vice versa. He was sort of aloof with me at his office that day but he was also very busy. So I sent him an email thanking him and telling him I wanted to thank him by taking him to dinner. That was 1 week ago and no contact.

    My impression is he may be thinking the same about me that the business aspects could be spoiled by becoming personal or too familiar with each other. Yet I also get the feeling he likes me as well.

    My plan is to do nothing further and wait to see what he does. It could be he is just so self-involved and self-centered he has no wish to date anyone. I seem to be attracted to guys who are successful and driven yet they are often self-absorbed as well. What to do ?
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    Dec 01, 2009 1:12 PM GMT
    jprichva saidYou do nothing. You made your move. He didn't respond. Next.


    Agreed.
  • GQjock

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    Dec 01, 2009 6:05 PM GMT
    My plan is to do nothing further and wait to see what he does. It could be he is just so self-involved and self-centered he has no wish to date anyone

    You see? .... You knew the answer before you even asked the question icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 01, 2009 6:15 PM GMT
    Are you sure he's even gay? You didn't mention anything regarding his sexuality, if you're not sure, it could very well be that he's straight and you might have alienated him a bit with the offer for dinner.

    Otherwise, you made your move, it didn't happen/work out (happens to me, it sucks, but you get over it), time to move on =)