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    Dec 01, 2009 10:36 PM GMT
    Why do people come on here, expect you to talk to them, and treat them like everyone else.... when they have no pictures? I don't get it?

    I just had an interesting convo with a member on here who IMed me.
    I was teasing and said "why no pics on your profile"
    to which I got a completely valid answer... " I'm a teacher"
    I completely understand why someone would want privacy given that title, especially in homophobic areas. BUT, this is where it gets me.... I asked him to attach a photo in a message, to which I got the response "no can do"
    That I do not understand! He said things like "I don't know what your going to do with them"... REALLY? your profile not only has no pictures, but no information, so I don't know your city, let alone state, or country, or even continent for that matter. Whats his deal? Is this a fair thing for me to say or I'm just a "jerk" - as he would say, because I wasn't interested in talking to him. I want a face to talk to... which btw is not incriminating in anyway... I was asking for a face shot, not a body or cock shot, which if in the wrong hands, I could see being awkward - to say the least. I just think these people are overly paranoid - like I said, I get the whole 'not publicly displaying your pics', but if you want me to be interested you, you gotta give me more than, well, nothing. lol I don't see the harm in sending a picture privately. Am I crazy rude and don't see it? Or do other people feel this way too?

    * I think if you don't have any posted pictures, viewing other profile pictures should become restricted... even that playing field a little and encourage people to show their faces. What are they hiding?


    Adding -

    So I just received a message from him... with a picture in it....
    He is GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Given that it is him.... (of course, it was a modeling picture)
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    Dec 01, 2009 11:06 PM GMT
    There is a Manhunt-esq program for the iPhone. Some dude without a picture will message me. When I ask why they don't have a photo they say they don't have one. Um, dude, turn the phone around. It is that lens thing.
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    Dec 01, 2009 11:16 PM GMT
    What makes you think we are 'real' at all?
    What if I am an AI?
    An artificially intelligent data anomaly?

    We are all ghosts on the net.
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  • Acorns

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    Dec 01, 2009 11:18 PM GMT
    Because it leaves you wanting more.
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    Dec 02, 2009 12:05 AM GMT
    Depends on what your and his intentions are on this site.

    I'm not here for hook-ups, so I could care less what people look like. However, I do like to talk about fitness. So I would much prefer to see a headless body pic at the very least.
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    Dec 02, 2009 12:08 AM GMT
    xrichx saidDepends on what your and his intentions are on this site.

    I'm not here for hook-ups, so I could care less what people look like. However, I do like to talk about fitness. So I would much prefer to see a headless body pic at the very least.



    You're insinuating that I am here for hook-ups because I want a face pic?
    If that were the case I'd most certainly want a body pic as well...
    When I converse with people, I prefer it to be personal, sincere and genuine. Which I find difficult to do when they don't have any pictures
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    Dec 02, 2009 12:17 AM GMT
    andrew_Tr said
    You're insinuating that I am here for hook-ups because I want a face pic?
    If that were the case I'd most certainly want a body pic as well...
    When I converse with people, I prefer it to be personal, sincere and genuine. Which I find difficult to do when they don't have any pictures

    Not insinuating anything. I probably should have added that guys are here to make friends too. In that situation, yeah face pics would be nice.

    When a guy with no pic sends me messages, I really don't have any expectations. Just random verbal exchange, idle conversation, time killing. I'll end the conversation after 2 or 3 emails.

    If he wants to be friends or goes into a deeper conversation, then that's fine.. upload at least a body pic and fill out the profile. Otherwise, I'm not going to invest a lot of time with someone that could be a spammer or otherwise.
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    Dec 02, 2009 12:24 AM GMT
    xrichx saidDepends on what your and his intentions are on this site.

    I'm not here for hook-ups, so I could care less what people look like. However, I do like to talk about fitness. So I would much prefer to see a headless body pic at the very least.


    so by using your own logic you seem to be here to hook up with a beheaded person
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    Dec 02, 2009 12:29 AM GMT
    One______Mean______Goat saidThe title of this thread makes me want to punch little babies with the caps and ZOMGPUNCTUAZIONMARX!!!!111




    WHY?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!??!?!!?!? are you here?
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    Dec 02, 2009 1:28 AM GMT
    charlitos said so by using your own logic you seem to be here to hook up with a beheaded person


    A date with Marie Antoinette? I don't think she's available.
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    Dec 02, 2009 3:02 AM GMT
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  • Webster666

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    Dec 02, 2009 6:25 AM GMT
    A lot of closeted gay men are hungry to be a part of gay life, but, sometimes, belonging to a gay web site is as far as they dare to go.

    I'll bet you any amount of money that the picture he sent to you is not a picture of him. Of course, I could be wrong. Never the less, you're wasting your time with someone who is that deathly afraid of having anyone find out that he is gay.
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    Dec 02, 2009 3:25 PM GMT
    some may have legitimate reasons- careers for instance

    however, over the last 6 months or so, i've noticed that 99% of these type contacts have been from married men.

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    Dec 05, 2009 3:11 AM GMT
    extreme example here but lets say ur obama...
    chuck liddell
    tiger woods


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    Dec 05, 2009 3:18 AM GMT

    If one of your friends had an accident and became horribly disfigured, some would call it NO FACE AT ALL, would you then not talk to him again? Are you face-ist?

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    Dec 05, 2009 5:11 PM GMT
    No, I don't think you are rude for wanting to see a face pic. Yes, I think the pic he sent you was of someone else.
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    Feb 13, 2010 6:51 PM GMT
    I have to take Andrew's side on this. I hate it when people send me an i.m. or email and they have no photos of themselves. I get that they are maybe closeted or they don't want people to know they are on here, but you could at least just have a normal pic! Also when i.m.ing these "Pics Coming Soon" people they get all pissed off and start verbally assaulting me for asking if they have a pic! They are just a bunch of asswipes that shouldn't be on the site!
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    Feb 13, 2010 7:03 PM GMT
    I agree with you as well. Anyway, just a heads up, that picture he sent you might not be him lol. If he is gorgeous like you said and it was a modeling picture, highly unlikely.
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    Feb 14, 2010 7:55 PM GMT
    wreckd saidI agree with you as well. Anyway, just a heads up, that picture he sent you might not be him lol. If he is gorgeous like you said and it was a modeling picture, highly unlikely.




    wreckd is exactly right. Look on Models.com or Ford/ Elite and you"ll probably find him, haha>
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    Feb 14, 2010 8:02 PM GMT
    i used to not have a pic for like a couple months and when noone wanted to ever talk i got the hint... i added some pics and now... "like magic" people talk to you ha! but anyways what that guy said about us all being strangers on the net is halfway true bcuz yeah we could be lieing about our pics but when you have a cam2cam then you will see that that person is real...
  • Iluros

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    Feb 14, 2010 9:00 PM GMT
    I encountered this the other day. The guy was even talking about meeting me, which was totally out of the question. icon_rolleyes.gif

    I became increasingly blunt and he eventually ragequit. icon_biggrin.gif