intimidation

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    Dec 02, 2009 6:49 AM GMT
    Over the last few years I've had a number of people tell me they found me "intimidating" more people then I'm comfortable with.

    My question isn't about me, but about being intimidated by people, personally there are few people I find intimidating, I've found a firefighter intimidating once, a police officer (when I was a child) and a teacher, however, as an adult I've never met anyone yet who I felt "intimidated by"

    So, my question is, why? why are people intimidated by others? personally when most guys tell me they have found me to be intimidating it's made me uncomfortable, there are exceptions however and I can find it endearing from the right people (they know who they are, or will)

    anyway, who gets intimidated by others? and for what reason? is it a lack of confidence in them self and what they offer? or more simple say a perceived pecking order of some sort? I'm genuinely curious about this..
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    Dec 02, 2009 6:55 AM GMT

    They are intimidated by you because where you are from folks walk around backward and upside down.

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    Dec 02, 2009 6:56 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidWelp...for what it's worth I don't find you intimidating.


    GuiltyGear said
    They are intimidated by you because where you are from folks walk around backward and upside down.


    hahaha good, however, my question wasn't to talk about me, but to find out about why people are intimidated what prompts these feels and ideas..
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    Dec 02, 2009 7:07 AM GMT

    I am convinced that intimidation is not really a word. It's a substitute for what it really is, "Sexual frustration." Most of the time, when you feel "intimidated" by someone, sex is at the root : you desire something physical about them, you covet something physical about them, or either for something beyond the physical. You can't live your life saying..."My boss's booming sultry voice and cocky personality sexually frustrates me," or "that guy at the gym's urine scent sexually frustrates me." It's much more suitable to say that those people INTIMIDATE you. It's not a picnic, I get a tickle at the amount of intimidation directed at me. I always gotta hover near the complainants and when the moment is right get in close and breath it in, a big dose of sexual frustration. I like the way it fucking smells.

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    Dec 02, 2009 11:31 AM GMT
    I think you can be intimidated by other things besides physical presence. I get intimidated by someones extensive knowledge or even lack there of. I've been told I'm intimidating before and I think it has to do w/my outgoing personality. I'm not afraid to say hullo to a stranger that I may bump into or meet.
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    Dec 02, 2009 3:13 PM GMT
    Its the person who is intimidated rather than the one perceived to be intimidating that needs to do some soul searching.

    I'm referring to harmless social situations here...not serious work/family or physical safety situations.

    If you tell me that for so long I intimidated you, but after talking with me you discovered I wasn't, what am I supposed to do? Feel flattered? Grateful? Its not my problem that you may walk around with stuff in your head that quickly puts labels and definitions on people without talking to them. If you get intimidated easily for no apparent reason, then you are projecting your own insecurities out into the world and limiting yourself.

    And just because you thought I was intimidating but then decided you would get over your fears and get in my face, and discover I wasn't intimidating doesn't mean that I should want to talk to you.

    Being intimidated can be very endearing. Shy guys can be very sexy. But please don't expect a gold medal by loudly telling me that after talking to me, I'm not the monster you thought I was.

    There's not much you can do to correct the impression by others that you are intimidating. Assuming you are bascially happy, maybe be a little more outgoing......smile more.....change your body language (uncross your arms) etc. But other than that, just be yourself.

    So there. That's show business folks!
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 02, 2009 3:18 PM GMT
    I dunno, but for me being intimidated has to do with a certain amount of fear. I've felt intimidated by my boss before. Many times, I have been intimidated by my own father who was a violent alcoholic. I think a person's individual background and history have a lot to do with it.
  • Timbales

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    Dec 02, 2009 3:23 PM GMT
    I put the 'Tim' in intimidate! raahhhhhhrrrrrrr

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  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 02, 2009 3:23 PM GMT
    It's not intimidation at all. In your own words, you said it about yourself in a thread, it's more about your personality and mental state that drives people away.icon_idea.gif Your question is actually about you.
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 02, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    I get that too, some guys say I intimidate them. I think it is somewhat like a "pecking order" state of mind. Intimidation is related to fear. I've known people with a very "aggressive" parent growing up. They seem to be intimidated by more people than normal.