Please tell me love is not fantastic!

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    Dec 02, 2009 9:01 AM GMT
    I am 23 and I ve never had a relationship. Not even with a girl. I had many crushes. One particularly when I was 15. I was so in love with him. So intensly. But I pushed myself away from him. Because he was so nice and flattering. I didnt understand my feelings, so I ignored him, stopped sitting next to him... fucking childish.

    Anywaaaaays, I just saw my colleague opening his lunch box. Inside was a little note from his girlfriend. And I saw him smile from ear to ear. And I just sighed.

    So I need you to help me get rid of my romantic view of love. Its all crap isnt it?
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    Dec 02, 2009 9:06 AM GMT
    What if you meet a person that you wanna be with all the time and any little compliment they give you makes your day and you wanna be with them forever and forever? icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 02, 2009 9:12 AM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidWhat if you meet a person that you wanna be with all the time and any little compliment they give you makes your day and you wanna be with them forever and forever? icon_eek.gif


    Not helping icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 02, 2009 3:00 PM GMT
    It's not all crap. It is the most exciting, frightening, and liberating experience that one can have. It means you give yourself totally over to someone and something bigger than yourself. Provided that it's the right person.

    I think it's tragic that someone as young as yourself have such a dim view of love. Perhaps when you finally experience the joy of it your mind and and your heart will change.

    Good Luck.
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    Dec 02, 2009 3:12 PM GMT
    It will crush you

    Make you do things no one should ever do.

    Better to be a sociopath.
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    Dec 02, 2009 3:35 PM GMT
    Love is crap
  • mcwclewis

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    Dec 02, 2009 3:39 PM GMT
    It blows until you're ready for it. So if you rushed with that kid, it would have sucked, you would have hated life, everything would have been terrible. Now you have a chance to start with some actual preparation, and when you find it again you'll dominate that shit and it will be awesome.icon_wink.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 02, 2009 3:43 PM GMT
    When you're not in love, love sucks. When you're in love, love is great, and you make your friends gag and throw up by just looking at that stupid smile on your face. Oh, I forgot about the glow after making love....yeah, you're friends hate that glow thing too.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Dec 02, 2009 3:44 PM GMT
    it is g-damn fantastic!
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    Dec 02, 2009 3:46 PM GMT
    Love is not fantastic.
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    Dec 02, 2009 4:01 PM GMT
    All you need is love
    "a girl has got to eat"
    All you need is love
    "she'll end up on the street!"
    All you need is lo-o-oove
    "love is just a game"


    That's my 2 cents.
  • JP85257

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    Dec 02, 2009 4:06 PM GMT
    After Sunday, Love no longer exists to me.
  • calibro

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    Dec 02, 2009 4:44 PM GMT
    love is many things, but it's mutually exclusive with happiness. you don't need someone else to lead a satisfying and fulfilling life.
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    Dec 02, 2009 4:48 PM GMT
    Hey monir Joni Mitchell once said this:

    "we got high on travel;
    we got drunk on alchohol,
    and on Love the strongest poison and medicine of all..."

    ....we'd be out and out liars if we said love is crap.
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 02, 2009 4:52 PM GMT
    Even though I just ended a relationship with a 21 year old.....Love is still the most wonderful experience there is.
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Dec 02, 2009 5:03 PM GMT
    Love is superrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
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    Dec 02, 2009 5:09 PM GMT
    Monir saidI am 23 and I ve never had a relationship. Not even with a girl. I had many crushes. One particularly when I was 15. I was so in love with him. So intensly. But I pushed myself away from him. Because he was so nice and flattering. I didnt understand my feelings, so I ignored him, stopped sitting next to him... fucking childish.

    Anywaaaaays, I just saw my colleague opening his lunch box. Inside was a little note from his girlfriend. And I saw him smile from ear to ear. And I just sighed.

    So I need you to help me get rid of my romantic view of love. Its all crap isnt it?


    Because I'm such a music fanatic, most things remind me of a song. This is no exception.

    Little Boots - "Love Kills" (Freddie Mercury Cover)

    http://indymusic.files.wordpress.com/2009/09/little_boots-love_kills_buffetlibre_vs_sidechains_remix_freddie_mercury_cover_bl_rewind_2.mp3
  • JP85257

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    Dec 02, 2009 5:12 PM GMT
    I suppose:

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
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    Dec 02, 2009 5:13 PM GMT
    They say that noone should fulfill your needs, or make you "complete". You need to be happy and complete without someone. And if you both are, then going into a loving relationship will be better, and not so hurtful if it fails.
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    Dec 02, 2009 5:25 PM GMT
    Perhaps your colleague's girlfriend left him that note because she feels guilty for a little fling she's been having while he's at work. It happens.

    Don't spend too much time torturing yourself with the fact that you have yet to be bitch-smacked by the highs and lows of romantic love. It'll find you sooner or later. icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 02, 2009 7:06 PM GMT
    If I'm dropping a Moulin Rouge reference it must be a day ending in 'y'!
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    Dec 02, 2009 7:42 PM GMT
    Well you can have love for someone, and be in love with someone.

    I've been with a guy for 20 years, but I'm not sure I've ever been in love with him, yet I have a love for him, and I will spend the rest of my life with him; yet I have been in love and how.

    Not sure I ever won't to be "in love" again.!!!!! Because love hurts.
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    Dec 02, 2009 8:29 PM GMT
    He who loves most has the least power, is the weakest.

    Love has taken me to my highest point, and down to my deepest deaths too.

    I think the next time I'll be in love, is walking alone (yes thats alone) on a white sandy beach of Hawai'i
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    Dec 02, 2009 8:38 PM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidWhat if you meet a person that you wanna be with all the time and any little compliment they give you makes your day and you wanna be with them forever and forever? icon_eek.gif


    But there is no guarantee, they will feel the same, or it will last forever, or they have to go home to Russia, and you spend the rest of your life with an empty bed, this can be love too.
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    Dec 02, 2009 8:40 PM GMT
    Love is like life... it is what you make it.
    At it's best "Love is Life", at it's worst, it feels like death.
    You have to risk big to win big and being open to the possibility is a gift.
    Letting yourself be vulnerable to another is beautifully human, even when love knocks the wind out of you... it reminds you that you do need to breathe.
    Are you going to live your life and risk losing or watch and wish you had the courage to?