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  • SoDakGuy

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    Dec 27, 2007 11:22 PM GMT
    I spent some time w/ a guy I really liked in Provincetown. We were boyfriends on the trip. Toward the end, we got on each other's nerves. Booze and lack of sleep can do that to you.

    We both knew that.

    Anyway ... I went back to where I grew up and he came back to MN to see his family. Yesterday, he drove three hours to drop his rental, but before that, he had lunch to see me in Minneapolis. He could have taken a couple of earlier flights to go home, but decided to see me. I lied to my family and came home on Christmas night to say I had to work.

    However, it was great! I really missed him.

    So ... I don't know. We text each other a lot and call from time to time. I'm single, he's single.

    I'm confused, yet I'm happy.

    Anything similar ever happened to any of you?
  • Timbales

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    Dec 28, 2007 12:00 AM GMT
    Hell, my bf gets on my nerves all the time.

    Maybe you guys just need to get to know each other better before doing something like a vacation where you are together 24/7.

    My advice? If there's a spark there, go for it. Life is too damn short to let good chances go by. Take it slow and see where it goes.
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    Dec 28, 2007 2:21 AM GMT
    I agree, life is too short to play games. follow your happiness.
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    Dec 28, 2007 2:39 AM GMT
    hahahahaha...it's like timberoo says. BFs can get on your nerves. I know mine has traits that I just bite my tongue and wait for it to pass. And, now that I think of it, there was stuff he did when we first met really drove me batty. But I guess has stopped some of his stuff. Maybe cuz he didnt get any positive feedback for me so the habits just died out.

    All these guys that are expecting a BF to be perfect are gonna be sitting around for a long time.

    And I wouldnt take the world for Firecat. Him so sweet! ... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 28, 2007 3:24 AM GMT
    SoDakGuy saidI spent some time w/ a guy I really liked in Provincetown. We were boyfriends on the trip. Toward the end, we got on each other's nerves. Booze and lack of sleep can do that to you.

    We both knew that.

    Anyway ... I went back to where I grew up and he came back to MN to see his family. Yesterday, he drove three hours to drop his rental, but before that, he had lunch to see me in Minneapolis. He could have taken a couple of earlier flights to go home, but decided to see me. I lied to my family and came home on Christmas night to say I had to work.

    However, it was great! I really missed him.

    So ... I don't know. We text each other a lot and call from time to time. I'm single, he's single.

    I'm confused, yet I'm happy.

    Anything similar ever happened to any of you?


    I've been there. My partner and I used to get on each other's nerves almost daily because the stresses of his work in the military and constant out of state business trips, but that's something that I believe is to be expected as a 'give in' for any steady relationship. It's any miracle that people still want to commit at all. Anyways, you have to be realistic and realize that though you may have feelings for someone, and that you both like each other, you might not be compatable. Now for the real advice. Go for it, date some more, get to know each other slowly and thoroughly before commiting yourselves emotionally, mentally and... well physical intimacy is up in the air, since some men can handle casual encounters better than others. So get physical as much as you like without crossing any lines. But remember, take it slowly, don't make too much out of the small things, and enjoy every moment as it comes to you. You'll be the better for it.
  • GQjock

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    Dec 28, 2007 11:43 AM GMT
    Sounds like you guys connected on some level...
    hell...check it out
    worse case would be that it didn't work out, right?
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    Dec 28, 2007 2:11 PM GMT
    I'm with GQ on this one - isn't it worth investigating?

    Joey
  • SoDakGuy

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    Dec 28, 2007 3:58 PM GMT
    There's always been an attraction to us, but he had a boyfriend and I was seeing someone, so this Pride when we both found out we're both single, it was great!

    My friend says I'm falling in love and I'm trying really hard not to. I'm just seeing what happens next.



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    Dec 28, 2007 5:06 PM GMT
    Do you feel teary when you are apart from him? Do you have a lump in your throat after you have spoken with him or texted him? Do you spend a lot of time thinking about him? I believe if you answered YES to any of these questions then you just might be falling in love with him. It's okay to fall in love with him. It sounds like he is falling for you too? I would at least give it another try and see where it goes. Oh, is the sex really good? If YES, then absolutely go for it. icon_biggrin.gif
  • SoDakGuy

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    Dec 28, 2007 5:16 PM GMT
    I hate you, SkyTran. ;) LOL!

    Yes, to all of the above. Grr!! I use to be so good not letting that affect me. Damn me for turning 30! Damn me to Hell!! ;)