Creepy lurkers....

  • Kellzor

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    Dec 28, 2007 10:38 AM GMT
    So I got two messages from this one guy on the site, both saying i like/love UUUUUUU.

    Ahaha... he asked me to add him on MSN Messenger so I figured I would humor him.

    He got on a litle bit ago, eith horrible english and asking me to cam to cam with him.

    Told him no.

    He kept persisting.

    I didn't think something liek that would actually happen...ever.

    Ahahaha! I'm hoping this hasn't happened to anyone else...
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 28, 2007 12:44 PM GMT
    Well I think if you are on a site like this one, but especially others, there is certain etiquette one must follow...and that is not to give out specific personal information (like yahoo or other identification) until you know and are comfortable with the individual.

    Whether or not you "cam" is your own decision. I'm not on here for "camming" and find it irritating when someone asks me that the first thing when I'm contacted. The point is, you can block "lurkers" before they start "lurking" by keeping your conversations with them confined to a site like this one.
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    Dec 28, 2007 5:52 PM GMT
    Some lurkers have gotten really offended and pissed at me because I don't own a webcam. Really don't need one for the most part.

    There are lurkers and others out there that will badger you to death. I guess rule of thumb, until you get a feel so to speak of who and what they are don't give out personal information. Even if you are curious.

    Or...set up an account that you don't care that they go to (I use gmail for that for spam email.)

    Just be careful. I think you'll find most guys and gals (if any) here to be respectful and a good crowd.

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    Dec 28, 2007 7:20 PM GMT

    I have observed what I will call "cultural" differences while on RealJock. It apears to be the nature of some folks to use terms of endearment in their initial conversation with you.

    Perhaps I'm old fashioned, but there is a big difference between love and lust. Therefore I find it a turn off for someone to come on to me on this site with the first thing out of their mouth being "I love you."

    I'm going to be plastered for what I am about to say, but I'll elaborate on my observation in regards to cultural differences. Many societies puposely build the sterotype of being male specifically to root out, if you will, what they see as a man choosing to be homosexual. Muslim countries in particular do this. Women in most Muslim countries also live in a very defined role. My first hand experience has been that gay Muslim men almost always treat a potential sexual partner to some degree as they would be expected to treat a woman. They might actually brag about having topped someone but would never admit to being topped.

    If there is a strong conservative religious streak in the culture -- here again just my opinion of what I have observed -- you'll see the behavior you describe more often.
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    Dec 28, 2007 11:10 PM GMT
    So far my experience here has been great. Other sites seem to get more fuckups and freaks.

    Actually, on another site I had a guy who's first message to me was, "You're hot! I rubbed one out to your pics, thanks man". I took it lightly and said "thanks, but it makes me a bit uncomfortable knowing a stranger is jerking off to my photos".

    He then went on to insult every inch of my character, calling me a homophobic prig who needs therapy, and an asshole, because after all what should I expect, I'm on a website?

    Some guys are just pathetic losers with no goals, personality, or even looks to keep them happy and fulfilled. They're just pure Zeros, and decent guys who are on the net have the unfortunate issue of being in direct contact with these losers; who, in real life wouldn't have the nerve to confront us at all, let alone badger us.

    Welcome to cyberspace Kellzor!
  • Kohaku

    Posts: 87

    Dec 28, 2007 11:18 PM GMT
    uh wow I think the exact same guy messaged me. his profile said he weighed 80lbs. i wonder if he meant kilos. but yeah, all he wanted to do was cam, and after telling him no, he went away, thankfully
  • Deano963

    Posts: 55

    Dec 28, 2007 11:50 PM GMT
    I've literally had two different guys message me on this site with just the word "cam". First one went like this:

    Douche #1:

    Me: Um......what?

    Douche #1: cam

    Me: Uh...I HAVE a webcam, if that's what you're asking, but I don't cam with people who just introduced themselves to me literally five seconds ago, and who seem to have the sentence structure skills of a caveman.

    ( Did I mention this guys's profile was completely blank? - no info, no pictures)

    Douche #1: cam

    Me: What are you a fucking neanderthal!?!? Why would I talk to someone who's profile is completely blank, let alone cam with him? Fuck off!

    Douchebag #2's approach was almost exactly the same, but it was a different username.
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    Dec 28, 2007 11:56 PM GMT
    It's enough to make you want to scream at them to go back to or their playground of choice and leave us to our discussions of puppies, bench presses, and favorite things about the posters above us, eh?
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    Dec 29, 2007 12:02 AM GMT

    I just have one word for you.

  • Deano963

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    Dec 29, 2007 12:08 AM GMT
    jprichva saidDeano--

    I just have one word for you.


    Haha.......well at least you used a question mark. These two guys couldn't be bothered with punctuation. Mouth-breating, knuckle-draggers they were.

    I should note though that my overall experience on this site has been very positive, and that the vast majority of guys who message me do so b/c of a shared interest in sports/another hobby or just to talk and become friends.
  • jarhead5536

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    Dec 29, 2007 12:31 AM GMT
    I especially love the IM's or emails describing in technicolor detail what the writer would like to do to me, how often, how hard, and how much I will enjoy the experience. I don't even bother anymore to point out that my profile clearly says "Monogamous relationship."

    Delete. Block.

    These tools are your friends!
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    Dec 29, 2007 1:34 AM GMT
    Um, Kevin?

    Your profile actually clearly states "Single"....
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    Dec 29, 2007 2:22 AM GMT
    DevilDog I just folded laundry to your pics while having a beer. Does that make me a perv?! lolol!
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    Dec 29, 2007 3:01 AM GMT
    Why you sick bastard! icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 29, 2007 5:03 AM GMT
    Not perverted enough ;) Tell me how you'd fold them...what kinda laundry are you into?
  • Deano963

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    Dec 29, 2007 5:11 AM GMT this very second I am being accosted by yet another perv....except it's hilarious now b/c the guy is forom South America somewhere and his english is very broken:

    Him: put cam......and i put cam


    Him: please put an i put

    Him: hev msn?

    Him: i'm nude

    Me: wow.....that's fantastic.....i'm gonna go now

    Him: talk

    Him: CAM

    I'm not gonna block this one b/c his comedic value is just too damn high.

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    Dec 29, 2007 5:16 AM GMT
    how come I never get pervs calling me icon_sad.gif LOL
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    Dec 29, 2007 5:38 AM GMT
    All you lucky bastards!
    I always seem to get the illiterate and dyslexic fucks that use an alphabet of broken english!
    Just once I'd like to know if I should be amused or offended before I cut them off!
    BTW...Devildog and Deano....I am taking down x-mas decorations, headbanging to some Metallica and wondering the house in my underarmour as I look at your pics. LOL!!!! WOW! I may have to get a beer and do some laundry too! The kids are visiting their mom this weekend, so I can be as outrageous as I want to be!icon_lol.gif