Am I making a bigger deal out of this???

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    Dec 04, 2009 5:26 AM GMT
    Ok so a couple of months ago I seeked advice from you guys about a break up I went thru back in May. I really appreciated the feedback and have been dating and meeting some pretty cool guys. I have had no problem getting sex and to be honest am getting worn out with the guys I have been with (I am being safe). Heres the thing, I met a guy at a gay bar and was not really into him at first. He introduced himself and was trying to start a conversation w/me. I was actually interested in someone else. Towards the end of the night, I started talking with him and he ended up asking me out to a movie. I said I couldnt at first then said sure. Anywho, its been a month and out of all the guys I am seeing I REALLY like him. He is so cute and great personality, I told him a week ago that I enjoy spending time with him and like him. Thats all I mentioned. He said he enjoys spending time with me as well, but is not sure of his feelings yet...did I make a mistake? He sends text to me first and I respond and have made plans w/him. He told me he wants me to meet his Best Friend and that was last weekend. This week he hasnt sent too many texts as he says he has been really busy. Should I be concerned or am I making a bigger deal out of this?? Look forward to your advice!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 04, 2009 5:48 AM GMT
    keep calm dear... see how it goes
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    Dec 04, 2009 9:23 AM GMT
    LOL...Why do I feel like a hormonal woman?? Time to switch supplements! LOL
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    Dec 04, 2009 2:08 PM GMT
    You need to play it cool and just let things happen naturally. What you said to him was perfect. You let him know you are interested and now the ball is in his court. If you guys really have a connection then it will happen. Some people just move a little slower, especially if they have been in a crazy relationship before.

    Make sure you show that you are interested, but don't go overboard. It could scare him away if you are too pushy.

    It's kinda like fishing. You dangle the bait in front of them for a bit and then slowly pull it away so they feel if the don't grab it now, it will be gone. Then let them have a nibble and give them some line so then feel comfortable, set your hook, then reel them in.

    Just leave out the part were you gut them and pull out their spine.
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    Dec 04, 2009 2:15 PM GMT
    He wanted you to meet his best friend—a good sign.

    Did you meet the best friend?
    If you did and he has stopped texting you then maybe the best friend didn’t like you.

    Best friends can be very jealous and a complication to any relationship, depending on their motives.
    If this is not the case then take it slow, go with your gut; not the butterflies that are in it.
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    Dec 04, 2009 2:28 PM GMT
    He said he enjoys spending time with me as well, but is not sure of his feelings yet...did I make a mistake?

    The impulse to be concerned is a very normal one..it seems that you are chunking two things together..his statement and a change in behavior. They two may or may not be mutually exclusive.

    I am confused, what is the mistake you think you might have made?
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    Dec 04, 2009 6:05 PM GMT
    Thanks for the replies guys. I have not met his Best Friend yet. He has told me that he talks to his best friend a lot about me. I know it is my insecurities in my head that are over exaggerating whats really happening. I have met his friends already and roommates. His roommates are gay and when I go to kiss him in front of his roommates he doesnt respond, but is affectionate when we are together. I feel like I made a mistake because I said "I like you" too soon. I am very black and white in terms of my feelings for someone, I either like someone or I dont, no in betweens.
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    Dec 04, 2009 6:09 PM GMT
    It's only been a month. Take it slow.