To Goatee or Not To Goatee???

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    Dec 28, 2007 2:16 PM GMT
    In my pic on here I have a goatee and have grown one off and on for awhile. It fills in nice and I shape it pretty good...it looks nice and neat, but...

    When the hair grows on my upper lip it grows more straight out which makes it very prickley (sp?) when kissing and going down below. My bf has never made a big deal about it but it does affect how he kisses me somewhat and when we do other stuff because when I do shave it off I can tell a difference in how he kisses me.

    He said it does prick him but he thinks it looks nice and he doesn't want me to shave it just for that reason.

    I like the way it looks but like they way he kisses me when I dont have it and when I do "other things" to him when I dont have it I dont have to worry about causing him discomfort.

    What to do??? haha. I wish all of lifes decisions were this trivial...anyway, anyone have any thoughts on the matter?

    Also I have noticed alot of athletic, in shape guys dont have facial hair so maybe thats my answer...you think it makes you look older?
  • Timbales

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    Dec 28, 2007 2:40 PM GMT
    I think it really depends on the guy. I had one for years and when I first grew it, people said it made me look younger. When I shaved it off, people said it made me look younger. icon_confused.gif

    Does the length make a difference on whether it's prickly or not?
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    Dec 28, 2007 4:14 PM GMT
    I've had one for the last several years and I really like it a lot. No one seems to mind or care either, not that I would care, too. lol. But I say you gotta keep it....'tees ard good.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 28, 2007 4:21 PM GMT
    Well I think goatees are hot on the right guys. I've never had one. I had a mustache once for a little while, but I basically like how I look clean shaven.

    If you like the goatee and your bf does, is there anything you can use to soften it (as in hair softeners, conditioners, etc?) I really have no idea
    about those things, but if the only issue is the scratchy nature, I'd try and resolve it.
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    Dec 28, 2007 6:05 PM GMT
    I have never found facial hair attractive on men. Any Men! However, it does not matter what I think about your face. If you have a BF ask him. He is the one who has to kiss it.
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    Dec 28, 2007 6:09 PM GMT
    i like mine... i get carded when i don't have one, though... which is annoying!
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    Dec 28, 2007 6:12 PM GMT
    I have one and like it. I think I look younger but then I make sure it doesn't have any gray in it too icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 28, 2007 7:31 PM GMT
    I dislike goatees, really. Never met anyone who looked better with it(Same for moustaches). For me, it is an image "i wanna look different, i don't wanna adjust" Well if that is the only way you can distiction youreself from outers....Don't do it on my behalve
  • irishboxers

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    Dec 28, 2007 8:31 PM GMT
    Had one for many years. It always made me look older and, to some, more intimidating. Since I worked in the service industry, that wasn't always a good thing. Once it started going gray I shaved it off.

    Now that I'm corporate and don't have to worry about how much people are tipping/judging me, I've thought about growing it back. Hasn't happened yet, but every time I get lazy and don't shave for a couple of days I think about it.
  • irishboxers

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    Dec 28, 2007 8:34 PM GMT
    Oh, and about the comfort thing: I'm with the guys who say check with the bf. My experience has been positive and you'll attract those that like them, but since you're already hitched I'd listen to your other half. Not so much a "do whatever he wants", but you listed several reasons it might not be a good choice.

    Of course, if he knows you want it but you don't grow it to respect his preference, this can be used to your advantage in the future...

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  • GQjock

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    Dec 28, 2007 10:41 PM GMT
    Yup...depends on the guy and what look you wanna portray
    If you have a round face with an ill defined chin a goatee is going to look better than without
    ...and if you want to play the masculine rough top...lol
    even if you're not

    it's a look that'll work for you
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    Dec 28, 2007 11:07 PM GMT
    You just said it, most guys shave cause it makes em look younger. I keep a little hair on my face because I look very young without it and I like to look older. Thing is, I date older guys (guys in their 40's and 50's) and we get stared at less if i look somewhere in my thirties instead of in my early twenties, lol.

    You, on the other hand, have light colored hair and I think guys like you look a lot better clean shaven. LOL, but clearly, I ain't the black man who's preferences should concern you most.I think the deciding factor here should be how good it makes you feel making your partner feel good. I'm the same way when in a relationship: WHATEVER HE WANTS,HE GETS. You're like that, huh? So, do the rational thing and shave right away...if you haven't done so already.icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 28, 2007 11:55 PM GMT
    I tried growing some facial hair back in my 30s but everyone told me it made me look like a rabbinical student. Not the right look. Hello, Gillette.
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    Dec 29, 2007 12:37 AM GMT
    Thanks to the mixed blessing of genetics, facial/body hair and I don't coexist. If I let the face go more than a couple days, I look like someone slapped a threadbare, patchy, worn-out rug on my face. It's not hot. icon_neutral.gif

    Maybe that's why I like a guy who can sport a little scruff now and then.
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    Dec 29, 2007 2:31 AM GMT
    Having come out in the 70s, I have been imprinted with the preference of a beard or moustache on my men. My own mustache is 40 years old [older than most of you!], having only been shaved about 3-4 times over the years. I wouldn't feel like 'me' without it.

    And personally I love the feel of a beard between my thighs. Can't grow a decent beard myself tho.
  • BlackJock79

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    Dec 29, 2007 3:12 AM GMT
    When I was younger (teenager) I wanted to grow hair so badly on my face so I could get a goatee. Now that I have it I miss not having to shave. I get carded with the goatee and without but DEFINTELY without. I like it, I don't like shaping it up all that much but I think it looks nice on me. I don't care if my man (if I had one...) has facial hair or not, I usually talk to asians who generally are not hairy at all though...
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    Dec 29, 2007 3:14 AM GMT
    No goatee
  • buffyogi

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    Dec 29, 2007 3:26 AM GMT
    I wear a goatee to some venues in order to make myself look older.
    A bit pathetic, perhaps, but I often get the feeling that 22 year olds aren't taken seriously... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 29, 2007 4:36 AM GMT
    Receiving oral sex from a man with a goatee reminds me too much of the years I was married, if you understand what I mean.

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    Dec 29, 2007 4:38 AM GMT
    sctagntman saidI wear a goatee to some venues in order to make myself look older.
    A bit pathetic, perhaps, but I often get the feeling that 22 year olds aren't taken seriously... icon_rolleyes.gif

    Awwww, that's sweet. It makes me want to tickle you and kiss your little face. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 29, 2007 4:57 AM GMT
    Redbull...i think u look good with the goatee and should keep if...of course getting rid of it wont exactly be the end of the world.

    I had a goatee...kept it sometime last year...ended up shaving it off when i entered the pediatrics ward at my hospital amd this kid looked at me and began crying...thats when i figured i whould just stick with a clean shave
  • buffyogi

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    Dec 29, 2007 5:54 AM GMT
    OW-
    Now you, too, can hear my familiar refrain--
    "DON'T PATRONIZE ME!!"
    Argh. Sore subject. icon_redface.gif
  • zakariahzol

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    Dec 29, 2007 6:05 AM GMT
    "Receiving oral sex from a man with a goatee reminds me too much of the years I was married, if you understand what I mean. "


    OW,

    No I dont get what you mean. I know you was married to a Cuban women. But what is it is have to do with receiving oral with a man with goatee. I am really curious.

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    Dec 29, 2007 6:22 AM GMT
    sctagntman saidOW-
    Now you, too, can hear my familiar refrain--
    "DON'T PATRONIZE ME!!"
    Argh. Sore subject. icon_redface.gif

    Oh, it's so cute when you get hot under the collar. It makes me want to pinch your cheeks.

    Actually, when I was 21, my employer refused to hire me unless I grew a beard to make me look older, since I was gonna have people more than twice my age working for me.

    I woke up several decades later and realized it was STILL making me look older -- a lot older.

    Zak: A man with a goatee and a woman's vagina are both openings surrounded by hair. Get it now?
  • irishkcguy

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    Dec 29, 2007 7:53 AM GMT
    Mustaches are generally creepy.

    I grew out a goatee once and I thought it made me look satanic.

    I vote no.