AntiHer017 saidOver the past few months I have sent out messages to guys with a basic "hey whats going on?" because I thought I should just make it short and sweet, however, a lot of guys do not respond. I am not sure if they are not interested in me or if they just don't think i've made enough of an effort to dignify me with a response. So my question is when you write or recieve a message what do you aim or look for that will elicit a response?
Okay, a good looking total stranger has asked me, "What's going on ?"
My first thought for a response is, "Nothing."
Messages like, "What's going on ?", "What's up ?", "How are you ?", or "Hi," don't go far enough to invite a response, much less a thoughtful one.
Think about why you are sending a message to a particular person.
Just to say, "Hi" isn't worth your time, nor his time to read it.
Compliment the guy on his face or his body or his dog.
Comment on something he posted in a thread.
Comment on something that stood out from his profile page.
Comment on something that you have in common.
Ask a question about his workout routine, his dog, the city where he lives, his occupation, what he's studying in school...
In other words, if you want a response, say something thoughtful.