Where did you meet some of your best boyfriends/current boyfriends?

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    Dec 07, 2009 6:49 AM GMT
    Basically just wondering where did you meet some of your best partners: Websites, Locations, Groups etc...

    *I find it difficult to meet other gay guys who are looking to date. At clubs/bars guys usually have one thing on their mind. So maybe just list a few places where you met a good guy you've dated it can also give you a moment of nostalgia icon_smile.gif
  • jeffreyr

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    Dec 07, 2009 2:15 PM GMT
    I know it's stereotypical, but . . . at the gym.
  • a303guy

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    Dec 07, 2009 2:19 PM GMT
    I've made several good freinds here on RJ, and my last BF and nearly all of my current freinds i met on Connexion.org
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    Dec 07, 2009 3:12 PM GMT
    Right here in Forums. One of us posted something good, and the other one wrote a complimentary note. A few months later, it happened again. Then, we took it a step further and began talking by phone - every day. Finally, we met - although we lived 2600 miles apart. Other good places for me have been through business connections, or alumni gatherings - Rotary Club friends, or once by running during lunch hours - right in the street. Just be ready - you never know what good things might come your way in life.
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 07, 2009 3:15 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidRight here in Forums. One of us posted something good, and the other one wrote a complimentary note. A few months later, it happened again. Then, we took it a step further and began talking by phone - every day. Finally, we met - although we lived 2600 miles apart. All is well now! So - my answer is Forums. Other good places for me have been through business connections, or alumni gatherings - Rotary Club friends, or once by running during lunch hours - right in the street. Just be open and in a good place mentally!



    Wow.....totally awesome! I think RJ should have a link on their homepage to "Success Stories" just so we are reminded that it can happen!
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    Dec 07, 2009 3:37 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidRight here in Forums. One of us posted something good, and the other one wrote a complimentary note. A few months later, it happened again. Then, we took it a step further and began talking by phone - every day. Finally, we met - although we lived 2600 miles apart. All is well now! So - my answer is Forums. Other good places for me have been through business connections, or alumni gatherings - Rotary Club friends, or once by running during lunch hours - right in the street. Just be open and in a good place mentally!


    aww...that's cute. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 07, 2009 3:41 PM GMT
    At a funeral.
    (I'm always fighting the stereotypes.)
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    Dec 07, 2009 3:48 PM GMT
    how many boyfriends should one have?
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    Dec 07, 2009 5:28 PM GMT
    Haha great answers so far. Thanks icon_smile.gif "insane asylum" Good luck with that one row buddy.
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    Dec 07, 2009 6:06 PM GMT
    I've never not met someone online. Oh today's kids!
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    Dec 07, 2009 6:16 PM GMT
    Celticmusl said
    Jockbod48 saidRight here in Forums. One of us posted something good, and the other one wrote a complimentary note. A few months later, it happened again. Then, we took it a step further and began talking by phone - every day. Finally, we met - although we lived 2600 miles apart. All is well now! So - my answer is Forums. Other good places for me have been through business connections, or alumni gatherings - Rotary Club friends, or once by running during lunch hours - right in the street. Just be open and in a good place mentally!



    Wow.....totally awesome! I think RJ should have a link on their homepage to "Success Stories" just so we are reminded that it can happen!


    I agree !

    collegestuddaww....that's cute. icon_biggrin.gif


    yeah..ain't it ! icon_biggrin.gif

  • 1234Fight

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    Dec 07, 2009 6:31 PM GMT
    craigslist.



    hahahaha, just kidding

  • Dec 07, 2009 6:38 PM GMT
    I say just concentrate on you. I find the most dateable guys come when you're not really looking. And that way, you'll have spent time making the best you you can make, and you'll be that much more ready when a good guy comes along.

    onstagebuffnaked saidhow many boyfriends should one have?


    I think as long as everyone's honest and okay with what's going on, have as many people with as many titles as you want!
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    Dec 07, 2009 6:52 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]TheBlackoutBlog said[/cite]I say just concentrate on you. I find the most dateable guys come when you're not really looking. And that way, you'll have spent time making the best you you can make, and you'll be that much more ready when a good guy comes along.

    I completely agree ! I'd like to add that sometimes guys unknowingly
    project that look of desperation when seeking a mate. That look ain't
    cute and won't help but will hinder your chances of finding a guy.
    Feeling secure in yourself will make you more desirable.
    Be what you want to attract.
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    Dec 07, 2009 6:56 PM GMT
    In a box of cereal
  • owen19832006

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    Dec 07, 2009 7:00 PM GMT
    surprisingly as it may sound i met mine online! Fitlads.net
    never expected it to happen but it did!
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    Dec 07, 2009 7:12 PM GMT
    Met my current BF in a gay bar.

    Met my ex's online, at gay social groups, or through friends.

    I was looking but just for hook ups. Take it a minute at a time, don't plan out anything long-term before things progress to that point. If a hook up doesn't work out a LTR will not happen. If a face to face meeting doesn't feel right then a hook up will not happen. One thing leads to another, or to nowhere. Accept all these possibilities and keep working at it, be open to adjusting your approach if you don't find the right kind of guys.
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    Dec 07, 2009 9:33 PM GMT
    Met my current b/f through a personal ad...he lived a thousand miles away, was a smoker (I thought it was going to be a deal breaker) but we talked, he came to visit and never left
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 07, 2009 10:12 PM GMT
    at Church....or at the University (UNLV).....never ever met one online, although I suppose there is a first time for everything. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 07, 2009 10:19 PM GMT
    oh crap!!! Am I supposed to be looking??!?!!!!
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    Dec 08, 2009 2:58 PM GMT
    ManMachine23 said[quote][cite]TheBlackoutBlog said[/cite]I say just concentrate on you. I find the most dateable guys come when you're not really looking. And that way, you'll have spent time making the best you you can make, and you'll be that much more ready when a good guy comes along.

    I completely agree ! I'd like to add that sometimes guys unknowingly
    project that look of desperation when seeking a mate. That look ain't
    cute and won't help but will hinder your chances of finding a guy.
    Feeling secure in yourself will make you more desirable.
    Be what you want to attract.


    This is really good advice. Thanks ;)
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 08, 2009 3:03 PM GMT
    So far it's been college or a gay bar for the most part. The online thing has helped me cultivate some great friendships, and I have had a few dates from online(laughs modestly). I did date a guy for 3 months from online about 4 years ago. We broke up after about the third month....but now he is one of my best friends! So I do think the online connections have something going for it.
  • adidas0783

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    Dec 08, 2009 3:12 PM GMT
    I have met some great guys via RJ and will continue to be friends. I will not knock connexion.org, because it is a good social network for gays and lesbians. So is gay.com. I always welcome making new friends.

    I met my boyfriend in an "organic" way...through a mutual friend (that I met through RJ). After meeting him the first time, we hung out at a concert (we went to the Indigo Girls concert AKA The Annual Lesbian Convention) with a close friend of mine and her girlfriend since they had two free tickets and had a blast. A week later we had an actual dinner date, had a great time and it has been wonderful since. This is my first actual relationship with a guy since coming out and it keeps getting better. We enjoy spending time with one another and he makes me one happy guy. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 08, 2009 3:13 PM GMT
    MtndudeSF saidMet my current BF in a gay bar.

    Met my ex's online, at gay social groups, or through friends.

    I was looking but just for hook ups. Take it a minute at a time, don't plan out anything long-term before things progress to that point. If a hook up doesn't work out a LTR will not happen. If a face to face meeting doesn't feel right then a hook up will not happen. One thing leads to another, or to nowhere. Accept all these possibilities and keep working at it, be open to adjusting your approach if you don't find the right kind of guys.


    Do you really think a hookup should be the first thing you do? Idk I feel like I'd rather have sex after getting to know the person. I was told by a few people I should hook up, but I don't know it doesn't feel right to me. Also surprisingly a gay pastor/consular told me about specific clubs and how it wouldn't be a bad idea to have experiences/explore what I like sexually. He also asked what kind of underwear I wear. He said he wanted to see the brand I wore, because it could tell him what I thought about myself or materialism idk. He's strange at times I hope there's a method to his madness icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 08, 2009 6:15 PM GMT
    Chase21 said
    Do you really think a hookup should be the first thing you do? Idk I feel like I'd rather have sex after getting to know the person. I was told by a few people I should hook up, but I don't know it doesn't feel right to me. Also surprisingly a gay pastor/consular told me about specific clubs and how it wouldn't be a bad idea to have experiences/explore what I like sexually. He also asked what kind of underwear I wear. He said he wanted to see the brand I wore, because it could tell him what I thought about myself or materialism idk. He's strange at times I hope there's a method to his madness icon_rolleyes.gif


    This gay pastor/counselor has a fetish about you. He's wacking off fantasizing about you sometimes.

    I think you should hook up to the point you feel comfortable with, based on how much you know about the guy. Don't go all the way on the first few dates, but do explore physically. Start with mutual J/O. Of course, never hook up based on looks alone. If I cannot have a meaningful conversation with a guy, I'm not interested in hooking up.