But if you smell a rat in your house...do you not look or if your car is sounding funny, do you not look under the hood?
I look under the bonnet yes, but a car is different..
I have to trust my partner to be honest with me, to be upfront and communicative, if he refuses to talk and I feel he's not being honest, I talk, if he refuses to, I push.
I don't tend to trust people and run a great deal off instinct, I'm also strangely good at spotting a lie and dragging information out of some one.
I never dated anyone until I met my ex, while all the guys I slept with where good people, they didn't inspire the sort of confidence that my ex did and i've met few who have, my trust doesn't go to someone because I'm smitten with them, I don't fall easily and I certainly get involved with someone on that level without a strong instinctual trust of them...
If i turn out to be wrong, so be it, but i'm not going to go snooping and putting my own morals behind because I've an "inkling somethings up" they don't get laid down for almost anything.