I Was A Nice Guy Once...

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    Dec 09, 2009 12:49 AM GMT
    Until I started driving in traffic.

    Until I realized that smiling and letting someone go ahead of you only means that they'll get there first and take what you wanted.

    Until I got tired of hearing..."You're nice, but..."

    Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with being a nice guy...and I can be nice when the situation calls for it....however, I'd much rather sit around and drink beer, and do GUY things with handsome guys and put those handcuffs and ankle cuffs....to a good use. icon_twisted.gif







  • SolidRanger

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    Dec 09, 2009 8:56 AM GMT
    LOL I credit driving in traffic as what gave me my backbone. Just a few years ago I wouldn't have the balls to throw a full cop of coffee at some asshole who ran me off the road because he was too busy talking on his cell phone to signal or even check his blind spot. Its funny how people react when you call them cuntface to their face.

    I also made a girl driver cry once by calling her cunt and saying I was gonna eat her babies, but in my defense she DID rearend me because she was driving too fast on icy roads.
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    Dec 09, 2009 9:55 AM GMT
    I am actually a very nice guy.....I just look like a complete asshole....oh well life goes onicon_rolleyes.gif
  • drypin

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    Dec 09, 2009 10:03 AM GMT
    So you're like, what, SinnernSaint, my alter ego in this world? icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 09, 2009 10:49 AM GMT
    I'm glad I'm not as nice as I used to be, now the trick is how to hit the mark somewhere between that and asshole. Former nice guys make the assholiest assholes.
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    Dec 09, 2009 12:54 PM GMT
    I used to be a nice guy. Always giving in to others, putting the other person's needs first, giving people the benefit of the doubt, etc.

    Until I began to realise that everyone treated me like a doormat. And despite being 'nice' so that people would like me, I didn't have many friends.

    The turning point came at a friend's birthday party, where the birthday girl was making a speech and thanking everyone who attended. "Sarah, thanks for coming, you're so caring... Anna I love your sense of humour you always make me laugh...etc"

    When she got to me it was, "... and you're... you're... nice."

    How generic. That's when I finally realised that as the nice guy, you get taken for granted. Only then did I realise most people don't appreciate 'nice'. Nice people are seen as boring and not worth much attention.

    These days I make it a point only to be nice to people who respond in kind. People who are rude or nasty to me soon find out that I don't tolerate their behaviour.
  • NyRuinz

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    Dec 09, 2009 1:00 PM GMT
    I am a nice guy and I am really proud of that, but I don't take shit either. I am as friendly as you want me to be, just don't try and take advantage.
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    Dec 09, 2009 1:12 PM GMT
    I used to be a nice guy and then I woke up
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    Dec 09, 2009 1:19 PM GMT
    I'm a BITCH! (RAWR!) icon_twisted.gif I learned early on how many snakes there are out there.



    But I'm not the type that will come after someone for no reason.

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    Dec 09, 2009 1:19 PM GMT
    Being nice is a choice, which at times gets lost in your obsticle. The reward is yours granted in your ability to make rashional decisions. The flip side might be something that can't be undone.
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    Dec 09, 2009 1:28 PM GMT
    I'm actually a hell of lot nicer today than I used to be.
    Once upon a time, if I was nice to you, it was because you had something I wanted... and once I got it from you, I was done with you. I'm happy to report that that has changed.
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    Dec 09, 2009 1:29 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 saidI'm actually a hell of lot nicer today than I used to be.
    Once upon a time, if I was nice to you, it was because you had something I wanted... and once I got it from you, I was done with you. I'm happy to report that that has changed.


    omg lol
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    Dec 09, 2009 2:32 PM GMT
    For years, the doctors have diagnosed me as being mentally deficient in developing the nasty mean part of my brain. I had an underdeveloped sense of envy, hatred and unconcern for other people.

    I actually believed that I should treat people the way I wanted to be treated by them, and that most people would recognize that and return the feeling in kind.

    But NO!. Most people can't or won't. They are blind and uncaring.

    So a few years ago I did everything I could to learn how NOT to be a doormat. I was giving assholes and hypocrites too much respect and niceness.

    Me? The nice guy? With enemies? That's when it hit me. Being too nice to everyone was simply a way to want people to like me and live in a fantasy world of peace and brotherhood. In that quest, I put myself second. It was time to loose the utopian naivety.

    I learned to fight the good fight. Its not worth my energy to argue or fight with idiots, lyers, douchbags, the clueless, selfish ones. Who cares if they like me or not. I don't like THEM, so bye bye. I've developed a fair share of enemies in the process.

    Each situation or person is unique. I can sincerely be polite and humble with people I sense will appreciate it but I learned to step in front of, ignore, snarl or smack the assholes who don't deserve kindness or repsect.

    So I have more enemies and anger other riff-raff. I've also discovered true friends who connect with me. I'm the same person with my "niceness" intact but "fortified" with better self esteem and the backbone to nock or pass over the passive aggressive, miserable unhappy jerks out there who demand respect but give none to others.

    And that's power. Some peope call it being a bitch...LOL. Some people call it being a man with integrity. You say tomatoe, I say tomahtoe,icon_lol.gif



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    Dec 09, 2009 2:43 PM GMT
    I'd consider myself nice. I think people are surprised when they hear me speak because I can have a badass look.

    Grew up with that "walk all over me" niceness, but slowly and surely learning to stick up for myself =)
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    Dec 09, 2009 2:45 PM GMT
    KissingPro saidFor years, the doctors have diagnosed me as being mentally deficient in developing the nasty mean part of my brain. I had an underdeveloped sense of envy, hatred and unconcern for other people.

    I actually believed that I should treat people the way I wanted to be treated by them, and that most people would recognize that and return the feeling in kind.

    But NO!. Most people can't or won't. They are blind and uncaring.

    So a few years ago I did everything I could to learn how NOT to be a doormat. I was giving assholes and hypocrites too much respect and niceness.

    Me? The nice guy? With enemies? That's when it hit me. Being too nice to everyone was simply a way to get people to like me and live in a fantasy world of peace and brotherhood. In that quest, I put myself second.

    I learned to fight the good fight. Its not worth my energy to argue or fight with idiots, lyers, douchbags, the clueless, selfish ones. Who cares if they like me or not. I don't like THEM, so bye bye. I've developed a fair share of enemies in the process.

    Each situation or person is unique. I can sincerely be polite and humble with people I sense will appreciate it but I learned to step in front of, ignore, snarl or smack the assholes who don't deserve kindness or repsect.

    So I have more enemies and anger other riff-raff. I've also discovered true friends who connect with me. I'm the same person with my "niceness" intact but "fortified" with better self esteem and the backbone to nock over the passive aggressive, miserable unhappy jerks out there who demand respect but give none to others.

    And that's power. Some peope call it being a bitch...LOL. Some people call it being a man with integrity. You say tomatoe, I say tomahtoe,icon_lol.gif






    Word for word, that was me years ago. Now, I'm still nice, to a point, but have become more discerning about people's character.

    A coward will stab you in the back, but it takes a real man to look you in the eye while he's twisting the knife in your stomach.

    And don't get me started on my subway rage.icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 09, 2009 2:47 PM GMT
    I would never intentionally hurt anyone, but if they get in my way or try to hurt me in any way, I can't just sit and wait to get fucked up. I'm sorry, but my interests come before everything. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 09, 2009 2:55 PM GMT
    lenoxx said
    SAHEM62896 saidI'm actually a hell of lot nicer today than I used to be.
    Once upon a time, if I was nice to you, it was because you had something I wanted... and once I got it from you, I was done with you. I'm happy to report that that has changed.


    omg lol


    Why is that funny? I'm serious....
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    Dec 09, 2009 2:56 PM GMT


    We follow these- which are called 'commandments, but there's nothing religious going on here, but more a kill'em with kindness attitude. That said, there are times we've stood up to those that persecute others for 'fun'..

    http://www.paradoxicalcommandments.com


    -Unicorns

    PS there are gay men on RJ that hate RJ and its membership and do their best to bring down the site. Some posts & pics could easily cause advertisers to pull their ads and without revenue the site can't run.
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    Dec 09, 2009 3:05 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 said
    lenoxx said
    SAHEM62896 saidI'm actually a hell of lot nicer today than I used to be.
    Once upon a time, if I was nice to you, it was because you had something I wanted... and once I got it from you, I was done with you. I'm happy to report that that has changed.


    omg lol


    Why is that funny? I'm serious....


    It was a omg you were such an asshole lol.
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    Dec 09, 2009 3:40 PM GMT
    I actually think that I am a nice guy... Up until I realize that someone I am not interested in has a crush on me.

    At that point, everything is fair game. I use them for drinks, money, and companionship, but hang whatever it is they want from me just out of reach. It's become an art.
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    Dec 10, 2009 12:48 AM GMT
    There is a huge difference between being nice and being a doormat.

    Nice and backbone are not mutually exclusive.
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    Dec 10, 2009 12:53 AM GMT
    At some point, I realized that letting the guy in front of me on my drive to work has accounted for a difference of about one- to two minutes in my commute. I get up early enough, arrive on time, and maintain my nice-guy status.

    Do I have a backbone? Yes. And I understand that the little people who have no control over their lives really do value that opportunity to get in front of me without asking. Their gain. Mine too. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 10, 2009 1:04 AM GMT
    I give people the benefit of the doubt; but I have learned,if you dont dont value yourself highly, people will treat you like a doormat.
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    Dec 10, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    I don't mess around in traffic, I'm out there in front, foot off the clutch as soon as the light goes green. Yet I still always have time too use my indicator.

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    Dec 10, 2009 1:08 AM GMT
    ... and then I regained consciousness