Maturity for a relationship

  • tbeaux

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    Dec 09, 2009 3:16 PM GMT
    When do you know that you are mature enough for a relationship or have a grip on yourself that you can handle one and make it last?
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    Dec 09, 2009 3:35 PM GMT
    I don't think that you do know until you are in the relationship and a couple of years have passed.

    At that point, I would assume that you are capable of making a relationship last for a time and that you must be doing something to keep it going.
  • jrs1

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    Dec 09, 2009 3:36 PM GMT
    great question: when you can put the other person first?
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    Dec 09, 2009 4:33 PM GMT

    Great question and great answer, jrs1!icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 09, 2009 4:59 PM GMT

    When you can sit through dinner without getting teretz of the neck joint.

    When you can get him off without getting off yourself and not get peeved over it.

    When you stop thinking leather furniture is "cool".

    When you go to the store and can't help but buy him roses for no reason at all.

    When you stop wanting to screw everything that moves and start wanting to sleep with one person.

    When you read bs like what I just wrote and not LOL. icon_lol.gif


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    Dec 09, 2009 5:20 PM GMT
    Your question already suggests that you are ready to be in a relationship! :-)
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 09, 2009 5:22 PM GMT
    Ok, Ok..so I need to grow up..icon_wink.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 09, 2009 5:28 PM GMT
    shake_n_bake saidWhen do you know that you are mature enough for a relationship or have a grip on yourself that you can handle one and make it last?


    I don't think you ever really know this. It all depends on the connection you have with the other person and how much you are willing and/or able to make the relationship a priority in your life. If the chemistry is right and you have that connection, it should just happen naturally if both partners are in a place in their life where a relationship makes sense.
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    Dec 09, 2009 6:32 PM GMT
    There is NOTHING wrong w/leather furniture...

    GuiltyGear said
    When you stop thinking leather furniture is "cool".
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    Dec 09, 2009 6:48 PM GMT

    steltom saidThere is NOTHING wrong w/leather furniture...

    GuiltyGear said
    When you stop thinking leather furniture is "cool".
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    Oh brother. Stop proving my point. icon_lol.gif

  • tbeaux

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    Dec 09, 2009 7:12 PM GMT
    DrEric saidYour question already suggests that you are ready to be in a relationship! :-)


    Thanks, but I am no where near mature enough for a relationship. I have many of my own dealings I have before I can actually donate my time to someone else. It completely sucks admitting that, but I guess that's step 1.
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    Dec 09, 2009 8:58 PM GMT
    when the little things don't seem so big anymore and you one day look at the guy your with and you get this weird creepy feeling and everything just seems right..

    You'll know it when you feel it because it's like none you've felt before, it's not manufactured, it's no forced, it's nothing, it just is.
  • nv7_

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    Dec 09, 2009 9:05 PM GMT
    Sign #25.

    You notice his imperfections, and you keep silent about them. icon_biggrin.gif
  • LifeByTheHorn

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    Dec 09, 2009 9:15 PM GMT
    nv7_ saidSign #25.

    You notice his imperfections, and you keep silent about them. icon_biggrin.gif


    That's part of it definately,...............but as long as those imperfections are NOT BIG enough to hinder the " healthy harmony " of the relationship!
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    Dec 09, 2009 9:29 PM GMT
    There's a lot of good responses here. For me it's a time/connection thing. The relationship doesn't feel forced or desperate or crazy... but is still intense, and exciting. You want to see the other person be the best person they can be, and you want to honestly help facilitate that process - and help them be happy and comfortable with themselves as well as you. That's honest love to me and a sign you are ready to have them share in your life. icon_razz.gif
  • nv7_

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    Dec 09, 2009 9:34 PM GMT
    LifeByTheHorn said
    nv7_ saidSign #25.

    You notice his imperfections, and you keep silent about them. icon_biggrin.gif


    That's part of it definately,...............but as long as those imperfections are NOT BIG enough to hinder the " healthy harmony " of the relationship!


    Agreed, if one his imperfections is constantly pointing out what he perceives to be yours, perhaps it's time to scoot. icon_biggrin.gif