Anxiety

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    Dec 09, 2009 3:53 PM GMT
    I have found myself worrying alot about my health lately, I'm the type that if i find a lump on my balls or my chest i go to the doctor immediately only to be told im fine (i have seen my doctor about 5 times for this reason)

    and I also freak out alot about HIV. I was tested last month, came out negative, and before the test it was 6 months since i had sex, i always use protection and im safe. but i find myself always wanted to go get checked "just to make sure"

    i'm always washing my hands and disinfecting everything now that the H1N1 virus is making alot of news. I like to tell myself that its not crippling my life but i dont know if im lying to myself or what. Honestly i cant have sex without worrying afterwards, and in a way its preventing me from making the next big steps in my life. I dont really want to go to the doctor for it cuz im not a big fan of medicine but i hate worrying so much.

    Is there anyone else who is like this and if so is there anything ur doing/did that helped u out?

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    Dec 09, 2009 4:15 PM GMT
    Yes.. you are a Chronic worrier and I am the same way.. I touch something and wash my hands... I kiss a guy and freak out if my lips were chapped or had a little cut. The only thing you can do to ease your anxiety is to stop doing the things that make you worry - dont have sex unless u are dating a guy and both get tested and even then use protection... it works. Dont do anything to compromise your health and safety... its not worth it.. to hell with the people who say "enjoy life" and dont worry about anything.. those are the ones who end up either dead at 40 or dealing with illnesses for the rest of their life.

    At the end of the day there is only so much you can do to protect yourself... so do your best and stop worrying unneccessarily... the odds of catching HIV are still very very low.... most guys who catch it.. know they have it.. and know the risks they are taking... stay away from drugs, excessive alcohol and bad company and you will be just fine.
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    Dec 09, 2009 4:28 PM GMT
    I think educating yourself better about the things that scare you, and asking lots of questions, no matter how silly they may see is also a good idea. Not knowing is bad, but the fear born of not knowing is more your enemy than the contagion itself.
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    Dec 09, 2009 4:31 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 saidI think educating yourself better about the things that scare you, and asking lots of questions, no matter how silly they may see is also a good idea. Not knowing is bad, but the fear born of not knowing is more your enemy than the contagion itself.


    i know almost everything about HIV ive studies it from top to bottom, thats one of the reasons why i dont know why i freak out about getting it.
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    Dec 09, 2009 4:39 PM GMT
    waxon said
    SAHEM62896 saidI think educating yourself better about the things that scare you, and asking lots of questions, no matter how silly they may see is also a good idea. Not knowing is bad, but the fear born of not knowing is more your enemy than the contagion itself.


    i know almost everything about HIV ive studies it from top to bottom, thats one of the reasons why i dont know why i freak out about getting it.


    That was more meant for the H1N1 stuff.
    As for HIV, all I can say is that you really only need to freak out about getting it if you are passing around the needle when you do IV drugs, in a really sick relationship where you and your partner are cutting each other and guzzling each other's blood, or having unprotected sex with people who don't know their status or are positive themselves and could care less about yours. Otherwise, you're golden, I would think.
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    Dec 09, 2009 4:41 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 said
    waxon said
    SAHEM62896 saidI think educating yourself better about the things that scare you, and asking lots of questions, no matter how silly they may see is also a good idea. Not knowing is bad, but the fear born of not knowing is more your enemy than the contagion itself.


    i know almost everything about HIV ive studies it from top to bottom, thats one of the reasons why i dont know why i freak out about getting it.


    That was more meant for the H1N1 stuff.
    As for HIV, all I can say is that you really only need to freak out about getting it if you are passing around the needle when you do IV drugs, in a really sick relationship where you and your partner are cutting each other and guzzling each other's blood, or having unprotected sex with people who don't know their status or are positive themselves and could care less about yours. Otherwise, you're golden, I would think.


    ur golden rjbff ;)
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    Dec 09, 2009 5:49 PM GMT
    Hello, I hope this finds you well.

    You are displaying classic symptoms and behaviors for obsessive-compulsive disorder. This, compounded by the anxiety you're experiencing means that something needs to change.

    I highly recommend that you go see a counselor who specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy techniques.

    The only real question that remains is how long do you want to keep feeling this way? And what are you going to do about it?

    I wish you peace!
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    Dec 09, 2009 7:44 PM GMT
    OSUfootball069 said

    You are displaying classic symptoms and behaviors for obsessive-compulsive disorder. This, compounded by the anxiety you're experiencing means that something needs to change.

    I highly recommend that you go see a counselor who specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy techniques.



    The symptoms are fairly similar to OCD, but not necessarily indicative of a full-blown case. Personally, I'm reluctant to label anything as a disorder. (Sometimes it becomes an excuse rather than a reason.)

    That said, I agree with OSUfootball069 in that it probably wouldn't hurt to go talk to a professional counselor--even if there is no real cause for concern!! Counselors and psychologists are trained to help us deal with confusing aspects of ourselves. And I think most of us are confused about ourselves at one time or another... Sadly, many are reluctant to see counselors because it means something is "wrong." Really, I think it just means you're "human."

    As an aside, I was diagnosed with OCD when I was 16. While I still have some strange habits, I've more or less done away with it. At the very least, it no longer interferes with my quality of life. Thus, if you did have something like it (OCD, GAD, etc.), it can be overcome.

    For the time being, maybe taking a few deep breaths and focusing on the source of the problem rather than the symptoms could help? Just a thought. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 09, 2009 11:57 PM GMT
    You're showing all the signs of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).
    The good news is that you can see that there is a problem.
    Go to a doctor who can treat OCD, otherwise it will rule (and ruin) your life.