"love" happens when you least expect it...

  • rnch

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    Dec 09, 2009 7:26 PM GMT
    for too many years i tried to find a member of the opposite sex to fall in love with and be happy with. icon_confused.gif

    never happened, obviously... icon_rolleyes.gif

    when i "figured things out" and realized i perferred guys to girls; i thought i would find a Great Guy to fall for and be happy with. this also didn't happen nearly as quickly as i hoped it would. icon_cry.gif

    i had given up on the concept of "love"; was resigned to spending what time i have left on this earth alone. icon_neutral.gif

    when i least expected it; when i had given up on the concept, when i was just looking for a fucky buddy, i/we fell in love with each other.

    his pic is on my profile page. icon_cool.gif

    whowuddathunkit! icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 09, 2009 7:57 PM GMT
    as they always say when u look for love u wont find it
    u have to wait for love to find u

    it it sounds like youv,e been found
    congrats
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    Dec 09, 2009 8:09 PM GMT
    I'd really like for someone to elaborate on why that (supposedly) is. Coz for the life of me, I can't see the logic behind such an assertion!
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    Dec 09, 2009 8:46 PM GMT
    I could never understand the concept behind this assertion, but it's true. My partner and I were not looking for love, but one day, we found each other - again. We're still happily together after several years.
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    Dec 09, 2009 8:49 PM GMT
    I would say he must have been desperate- there's no other reason icon_razz.gif
  • rnch

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    Dec 09, 2009 8:57 PM GMT
    Blondizgd saidI would say he must have been desperate- there's no other reason icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 09, 2009 9:19 PM GMT
    Awwwwwe! I LOVE that!
    I'm so happy for you.... really truly!

    I fall in love ALL the time... usually with ice cream, cookies and donuts though.
    It's true love everytime... "ahhhhh!"

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    Dec 09, 2009 9:19 PM GMT
    Supposedly, it is because you are no longer looking, concentrating more on yourself, enjoying the life you have made for yourself. You drop your guard and all your silly check list; then either by coincident or accident you meet someone who also has come to the same self actualization.
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    Dec 09, 2009 9:21 PM GMT
    I don't know why this is - but more often than not it seems to be true. I certainly had no plans on meeting my last partner at 3:50am in a random bar in the E. Village 5 minutes after I entered the joint! And yet, I knew when we walked out that door and exchanged numbers that there was something markedly different about him. Just a "feeling". His being into Led Zeppelin and King Crimson didn't hurt. icon_twisted.gif

    I am SOOOO happy for you! You seem like a very sweet guy. Take things one day at a time... you deserve some good lovin'! (well hey... we all do!!)

    xo, ant.
  • JP85257

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    Dec 09, 2009 9:32 PM GMT
    "Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again?"
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    Dec 09, 2009 9:38 PM GMT
    JP85257 said"Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again?"

    No need thank you, it sunk in the first time... when are you moving in?
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    Dec 09, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
    Is there a difference between "no longer looking" and "can't be bothered?" Hahaha
  • owen19832006

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    Dec 09, 2009 10:45 PM GMT
    i agree it finds you...
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    Dec 09, 2009 10:48 PM GMT
    jimbobthedevil saidIs there a difference between "no longer looking" and "can't be bothered?" Hahaha

    One is hot, the other, is not...

    can you guess which ;)

    Those who tell me "they aren't looking" are usually bullshitting me and trying to bullshit them self.. (and that aint hot)
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    Dec 09, 2009 10:49 PM GMT
    jimbobthedevil saidIs there a difference between "no longer looking" and "can't be bothered?" Hahaha

    That's a good question, but I'm no longer looking for the answer so, I can't be bothered to think about it... icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 09, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
    What about all those people who found love while actually searching for it on Match.com? lol
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    Dec 09, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
    Well...
    As the wedding singer once put it:


    Congrats.
    You're not single anymore, so update your profile. ..unless you're hoping something better comes along.icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 09, 2009 11:01 PM GMT
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    lilTanker saidThose who tell me "they aren't looking" are usually bullshitting me and trying to bullshit them self.. (and that aint hot)
    Now, Tanky...some of us actually mean it.

    there are always exceptions to every rule, but on the whole, the rule remains icon_razz.gif
  • J450N

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    Dec 09, 2009 11:04 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidAwwwwwe! I LOVE that!
    I'm so happy for you.... really truly!

    I fall in love ALL the time... usually with ice cream, cookies and donuts though.
    It's true love everytime... "ahhhhh!"



    Waaaaaaaaaaaahahahaha! I'm the exact same way! Mmm Ben and Jerry's Chunky Monkey I love you! <3
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 09, 2009 11:10 PM GMT
    Handsome couple..I wish you guys the best! icon_smile.gif
  • Thirdbeach

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    Dec 10, 2009 2:56 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    on the whole


    haha he said on the whole... haha
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    Dec 10, 2009 3:08 AM GMT
    So glad for you. I do believe in that, because I definitely was not looking for it when love struck.

    Congratulations!
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    Dec 10, 2009 3:20 AM GMT
    It's kinda like 'shit happens' eh? Interesting...
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    Dec 10, 2009 3:34 AM GMT
    jprichva saidI think this is delusional hogwash.


    Love is delusional hogwash? If you can feel love for a dog, why not a man?

    Even the most cynical must admit that there's potentially someone out there for everyone, even the most curmudgeonly. All you have to do is open yourself up to those random collisions that the universe keeps providing.

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    Dec 10, 2009 3:42 AM GMT
    jprichva said
    I thought lawyers were supposed to use language precisely.
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    You're thinking of corporate counsel. Trial lawyers have to improvise and paint with a broad brush. It's sort of like impressionism.