Is there really such a thing as life partner ?

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    Dec 10, 2009 4:43 AM GMT
    I get real tired of hearing about guys screwing around all the time, showing to be committed to someone but cant keep their dick in their pants when some hot guy shows up. Are there any men out there that really want to commit to one special person. Is there such a thing as monogomy with bi or gay men, or are we all sex addictied pricks?

    I am searching for someone that will be there when I wake up in the morning, there when I get home to share my feelings with who will not judge me or crush my spirit. Maybe that sound corny, but I'm searching for it and I can't believe I'm the only one out there looking for that.

    Love to know how others feel about this. Thanks.
  • Little_Spoon

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    Dec 10, 2009 5:48 AM GMT
    I want a life partner.

    And a lot of people don't have enough corn.
  • rwt76

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    Dec 10, 2009 5:50 AM GMT
    The simple answer ... YES
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    Dec 10, 2009 5:55 AM GMT
    Sure, now get some real pictures. I've lost count at how many times I've seen that same guy in profile pics.
  • ja89

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    Dec 10, 2009 6:12 AM GMT
    Yes there are guys out there who love love. I happen to be one of those guys. I want the feeling of knowing that i'll always have someone waiting for me to share my day with. What I have learned was that there are great guys out there who are looking for love and strongly believe in it but there are more guys who like to hook up much more. So the people who fool around all the time are easier to find cause they make themselves noticeable to everyone and they always overshadow those who want something more than just meaningless sex. So the best advice I've gotten for this, is to wait it out and stay true to you. There is someone waiting for you around the corner.icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 10, 2009 6:16 AM GMT
    Jasonfrangilli saidI get real tired of hearing about guys screwing around all the time, showing to be committed to someone but cant keep their dick in their pants when some hot guy shows up. Are there any men out there that really want to commit to one special person. Is there such a thing as monogomy with bi or gay men, or are we all sex addictied pricks?

    I am searching for someone that will be there when I wake up in the morning, there when I get home to share my feelings with who will not judge me or crush my spirit. Maybe that sound corny, but I'm searching for it and I can't believe I'm the only one out there looking for that.

    Love to know how others feel about this. Thanks.


    stole the words right out of my mouth! you're not the only one :/
  • chgobuzz1

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    Dec 10, 2009 6:27 AM GMT
    I totally agree and I want exactly that too. It takes a long time for most guys to be ready to make that commitment and actually learn how to be a good partner. Basically look for saomeone who has had one or two long term relaionships becasue you can be more certain they have learned how to conduct themselves based on "practice". Whats interesting here is how few guys have responded to this post versus so many responses to the other post on less serious topics here.
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    Dec 10, 2009 6:33 AM GMT

    Yeah, your legs, arms, fingers, nose, eyes, and toes are partnered with you for life. Unless something awful happens wish I hope not.

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    Dec 10, 2009 6:37 AM GMT
    You're not the only one. I def feel weird cause I just moved into the "gayborhood" and I'm not hooking up with someone weekly. No interest. Much rather find someone who's always going to be there, not just take up half my bed 1 night out of the week. ugh. If I'm giving up space I'm going to like them. Would love someone to cook breakfast for, see after work, you get the picture. Then again theres lots of time to find someone, only 20.
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    Dec 10, 2009 6:50 AM GMT
    yes'um
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    Dec 10, 2009 7:02 AM GMT
    Floro saidSure, now get some real pictures. I've lost count at how many times I've seen that same guy in profile pics.


    Win.
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    Dec 10, 2009 7:15 AM GMT
    Jasonfrangilli saidI get real tired of hearing about guys screwing around all the time, showing to be committed to someone but cant keep their dick in their pants when some hot guy shows up. Are there any men out there that really want to commit to one special person. Is there such a thing as monogomy with bi or gay men, or are we all sex addictied pricks?

    I am searching for someone that will be there when I wake up in the morning, there when I get home to share my feelings with who will not judge me or crush my spirit. Maybe that sound corny, but I'm searching for it and I can't believe I'm the only one out there looking for that.

    Love to know how others feel about this. Thanks.







    If you really want a long relationship to happen, you have to forget about those things. A long term relationship is about arguing most of the time and most of all: Learning to TOLERATE your partner's imperfections.
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    Dec 10, 2009 7:24 AM GMT
    Like all things that are worthwhile, it requires work. My parents are an amazing example for me, and sometimes it ain't easy. Everyone wants a good life, the question is whether they're willing to work hard and make the right choices to build that life. For a lot of people the answer is no.
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    Dec 10, 2009 7:37 AM GMT

    Jason, It's your neighbours on the other side of the Rockies here on the coast.

    You bet there are corny guys like that! Lots. You're looking at two (OK we're older but there are lots of young guys your age that are like us) . Expand your circle of casual friends outside of what you're accustomed to, and they'll show up.

    There's been over ten thousand gay Canadian marriages in the last six years and only two divorces (lesbian), so things are actually not how they appear to you. Chin up! ( no not chin ups, although those are good, too) icon_wink.gif

    -us
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    Dec 10, 2009 8:22 AM GMT
    Jasonfrangilli saidAre there any men out there that really want to commit to one special person.


    Absolutely not.

    Jasonfrangilli said
    Is there such a thing as monogomy with bi or gay men,


    Absolutely not. Don't believe the hype. No straight man will commit to one person either. .

    Jasonfrangilli said
    or are we all sex addictied pricks?


    Yes we are. Ask any fundamentalist Xtian minister and they will tell you the same.

    Jasonfrangilli said
    I am searching for someone that will be there when I wake up in the morning, there when I get home to share my feelings with who will not judge me or crush my spirit.


    You probably fell for 'change you can believe in' as well.

    Jasonfrangilli said
    Maybe that sound corny,


    You misspelled 'delusional.'

    Jasonfrangilli said
    but I'm searching for it and I can't believe I'm the only one out there looking for that.


    Try A.A. I hear everyone there is trying to 'settle down.'
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    Dec 10, 2009 9:01 AM GMT
    I think there are some guys out there willing to commit to a relationship... to a person but let's face it we, Men, are predatory in nature. We might delude into thinking that we can be monogamous... NO, it will never be! There are exceptions of course.

    I believe that in/on a committed relationship there should be space for sexual escape if there's a need for that as long it's just sexual. I don't think I could handle a betrayal of the commitment itself of the feeling involved and need to be discussed at some early stage in the relationship.

    I believe not just in getting into bed but waking up next to the person I would like to share the "road" with...

    How many one night stands have we had? How many do we remember their name? :-))I have been involved in enough couples as the 3rd guy to know that the guy in a relationship rarely leaves his companion for another guy (or I wasnt The guy).

    Anyway... there should be a right guy out there, shouldn't it?RESIZED TEXT GOES HERE
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    Dec 10, 2009 10:13 AM GMT
    Ask yourself WHY you want monogamy.

    Are you selfish, insecure, jealous?
    These are not good reasons to take a prisoner.

    Eliminate those,
    Truly know yourself,
    Then grow into the man your desired partner would want,
    Maybe then you can have a life partner.

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    Dec 10, 2009 11:06 AM GMT
    Call me
    ;)


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    Dec 10, 2009 1:05 PM GMT
    Jasonfrangilli saidI get real tired of hearing about guys screwing around all the time, showing to be committed to someone but cant keep their dick in their pants when some hot guy shows up. Are there any men out there that really want to commit to one special person. Is there such a thing as monogomy with bi or gay men, or are we all sex addictied pricks?

    I am searching for someone that will be there when I wake up in the morning, there when I get home to share my feelings with who will not judge me or crush my spirit. Maybe that sound corny, but I'm searching for it and I can't believe I'm the only one out there looking for that.

    Love to know how others feel about this. Thanks.



    Yes it is possible to find a monogamous commited relationship with a Gay man.. but its not easy. You will not find that with any "Jocks"... gay men who are body-perfectionists will not be interested in commitment because they get a lot of attention and get depressed when they stop getting that attention or commit to one person. Those people value quantity over quality.. so if you really want a monogamous commited relationship then stop seeking guys who are perfect... or who have perfect bodies.... rather look for someone who is averagely cute... nice hearted and a decent person... they are out there... plenty of them... so find one and stick to him.

    And as for the ones telling you that its impossible to find what you are seeking - bullshit.. just because they are failures in life and gave in to the temptations of gay life..and easy sex.. doesnt mean you have to follow their way as well.
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    Dec 10, 2009 1:11 PM GMT
    I love anonymous hit and run posts that decry how hard it is to find monongamy among gay men almost as much as I love the gay men so eager to agree with them.
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    Dec 10, 2009 1:14 PM GMT
    Exnewyorker said "... gay men who are body-perfectionists will not be interested in commitment because they get a lot of attention and get depressed when they stop getting that attention or commit to one person... so if you really want a monogamous commited relationship then stop seeking guys who ... have perfect bodies... ..

    Not true. Scan the RJ profiles and you'll find lots of guys with great bodies who are in monogamous relationships.
    You can't make blanket judgments based on body type. Achieving and keeping a good body requires discipline and commitment. Those are the same qualities you need to achieve and keep a monogamous LTR.
  • Glorfindel

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    Dec 10, 2009 1:23 PM GMT
    I sure hope so icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 10, 2009 9:11 PM GMT
    Nope...
  • jarhead5536

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    Dec 10, 2009 9:15 PM GMT
    Absolutely.
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    Dec 10, 2009 9:35 PM GMT
    Most of the loudest guys are the single guys or guys that like screwing around so it seems like they're the majority. It's that volume that makes them seem so prevalent.

    The guys that are in solid, happy relationships tend to be less likely to be 'out there screaming' because they can scream happily at home. Just look at the number of guys on this site alone that are in stable happy relationships. Plus all the guys who aren't on any sites at all because there not looking for any thing more than they have at home.

    There are guys on this site that when they were single posted far more to the forums and once in relationships felt less of a need to, but they're still here. There are guys who are here who are single and incredible and will one day meet someone unexpectedly and out of the blue who will make their heart jump.

    Most of the guys who think that all guys screw around, are the ones who do screw around and think everyone's really like them. Then there are those few unfortunates who only had bad experiences and have given up.

    Lastly, there are those that are simply happy being single and determined to remain that way.

    Whatever really makes you happy is the center of it.