buddy list v. hot list

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    Dec 30, 2007 4:41 PM GMT
    Wasn't sure where to post this, so sorry if it would've been better somewhere else.

    Anyway, just joined up a few days ago, great site, still figuring out how to really use it. What's the difference between the buddy list and the hot list?

    If I add someone as a buddy, but don't put them on the hot list, am I gonna have an angry group of online buddies? Or is redundancy polite?

    Just trying to get a hold on the etiquette, I can be pretty dense and I find it's easier to ask straight out.

    While I'm yapping, any other potential goofs I oughta know about?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 30, 2007 7:58 PM GMT
    Hey there, welcome to the RJ site!

    I think the Buddy list is for those that you enjoy conversing with and you approach as a friend strictly
    (you can have someone on both lists).

    The hotlist is for those you find attractive and hot.
    It doesn't have to be a sexual thing, but rather just a complementary thing in many cases.

    I enjoy being on a hotlist or as a buddy. It is odd to have someone "buddy list" you if you've never talked to them before.

    Well I think you will have to find your way on the other "dos" and don'ts" of this site, but one thing I know I don't like and that is...to send a notice that you have unlocked your private pic to someone you've never talked to. Thats pretty irritating or the "cam" thing either. Have fun!
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    Dec 30, 2007 7:59 PM GMT
    Generally, I've used the buddy list for people I actually talk to on a regular basis while the hot list just has guys I particularly admire. There can certainly be overlap!

    PS Good on ya for getting verified right away!
  • SkyMiles

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    Dec 30, 2007 9:55 PM GMT
    Same as what Gigaram said. There's definitely overlap too. For me, and probably a lot of guys here, smart and friendly can equal sexy / hotlist material icon_idea.gif
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    Dec 30, 2007 11:34 PM GMT
    ok... i'l get this ... thanks =)
  • paperpete

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    Dec 30, 2007 11:36 PM GMT
    Same as Gigaram!
  • fryblock

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    Dec 30, 2007 11:47 PM GMT
    I'm kinda shy in that I don't really know what to say to someone at first, so I buddy list people as a way of letting them know I'd like to converse with them.
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    Dec 31, 2007 4:29 AM GMT
    I do the opposite. I typically use the hotlist to let people know I want to get to know them; it works about 50% of the time. Quite a few guys actually say "thanks for the hotlist". I'm really impressed with that!

    It's a little annoying when some guys have a bunch of rules & requirements for being their buddy. Agreed, you should talk to someone first, but I hate rejection and that goes for buddy listing too. Why shouldn't somebody be my buddy; it's a website!
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    Dec 31, 2007 5:05 AM GMT
    The buddylist is for guys you talk to and enjoy talking to while the hotlist )in my opinion) is for the guys you find hot/nice to look at...of course they may overlap
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    Dec 31, 2007 5:08 AM GMT
    You talk to buddies.

    You do not, of course, talk to guys you want to fuck. That ruins everything.
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    Dec 31, 2007 5:25 AM GMT
    OW...OMG! Does that mean I need to rework my entire list then and put everyone on BOTH lists!!!?????icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 31, 2007 5:37 AM GMT
    I wouldn't do that unless you want to become a eunuch.
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    Dec 31, 2007 11:15 AM GMT
    buddy list is for guys you have a chance of fucking, the hot list is for those you haven't got a hope in hell of fucking.
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    Dec 31, 2007 12:30 PM GMT
    Tone down the sunshine, dakuk, I gota get shades on, geez.


    obscenewish saidYou talk to buddies.

    You do not, of course, talk to guys you want to fuck. That ruins everything.

    Well, duh. Just didn't know that flew on the internet is all =)
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    Dec 31, 2007 1:25 PM GMT
    The folks on my buddy list are the guys i've talked with a bit online or know in real-life. It seems weird to me to call someone your buddy whom you've never even said hi to... As for whether I want to fuck them, I don't usually sleep with my friends, but there may be one ;)

    I don't keep a hot list. It's a habit I carried over from another site that has an "I Like" system. So many guys take it too seriously, and develop some animosity if you don't return the compliment - it becomes divisive in a way (categorizing the hots and the nots of the site) - and if you do just reciprocate out of niceties, then what's the point of keeping the list in the first place if it isn't actually indicative of your tastes?

    If I'm interested in you or something you said, I'll send you a note letting you know just that. I would hope to expect the same behavior in return.
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    Dec 31, 2007 1:52 PM GMT
    It would be cool of RJ to add a Shit List section.

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    Dec 31, 2007 2:07 PM GMT
    Wow, McGay, I've had the very same thought; a certain Stud comes to mind... =x
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    Dec 31, 2007 2:10 PM GMT
    Now, now. (teehee) I meant Shit as in "dat guy is da shit!". Or is that shiznit? S to the hiznit?

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  • RSportsguy

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    Dec 31, 2007 2:55 PM GMT
    I typically add people to my buddy list that I have chatted or emailed with. I ask them first. My hot list is a collection of guys that I think are physically hot (and there are a ton here) or if their profile says something that I really think is awesome. There is no rules for which list to use. USMmmm is right about guys writing you after you hotlist them. It is usually around 50% but I think it would be higher if you got notification that you were hotlisted.
  • Silent_Angel

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    Jan 01, 2008 5:33 AM GMT
    idk. personally if you are on my buddy list that put s you in a better position then on my hot list .i am the type that believes that beauty is skin deep.but it dosen't hurt to look good either.
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    Jan 01, 2008 2:07 PM GMT
    I just joined today. This is my interpretation:

    Buddy list- people you know/chatted with, and well, feel you can call them your bud

    Hot list - guys you think look great/sexy/handsome, have the kind of bod you'd like to achieve
  • PRDGUY

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    Jan 02, 2008 9:39 AM GMT
    USMmmm saidI do the opposite. I typically use the hotlist to let people know I want to get to know them; it works about 50% of the time. Quite a few guys actually say "thanks for the hotlist". I'm really impressed with that!

    It's a little annoying when some guys have a bunch of rules & requirements for being their buddy. Agreed, you should talk to someone first, but I hate rejection and that goes for buddy listing too. Why shouldn't somebody be my buddy; it's a website!


    GR8 POST, ALTHOUGH I RARELY WILL LIST SOME1 BEFORE CHATTIN OR EMAILING, I WILL [ bout10 percent] add if they have major similar interests...but ask by saying ' hope ya don't mind'

    COMMON COURTESY GOES A LONG WAY
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    Jan 02, 2008 7:44 PM GMT
    man, the a shit list would be genius...
  • in773guy

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    Jan 02, 2008 8:09 PM GMT
    Hey,
    Can we start a list for the Jackasses posting profiles who can't be bothered to post a pic, public or private and have the nerve to ask you to unlock yours for them....
    It's so an online version of a blind date....
    Not Gonna Happen...lol
  • PRDGUY

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    Jan 03, 2008 5:33 AM GMT
    in773guy saidHey,
    Can we start a list for the Jackasses posting profiles who can't be bothered to post a pic, public or private and have the nerve to ask you to unlock yours for them....
    It's so an online version of a blind date....
    Not Gonna Happen...lol


    AWESUM IDEA.... BUT CAN WE ADD OTHERS THAT GO OFF ON U THINKING THEY'RE BETTER JUST BECAUSE 'ONE MAY HAVE REDNECK' IN THEIR TITLE HEADER... AMOUNG OTHER PEOPLE WHO DON'T REALIZE THIS IS A SOCIAL NETWORKING SITE!!!!!!