ever been in love with someone you cant have?

  • fernando_9999

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    Dec 10, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
    this happened to me once, he was a good friend, I amired him alot and we had so much in common, he was nice, noble, very caring, optimistic, unique, always thought that he would one day change the world, everything anyone would look for in a person, he understood me like no other person did, like he would always know how I was feeling without me conveying it with words, but there was only one problem, he was straight.

    it was complete torture, it was so hard to see him everyday knowing that nothing can ever happen, obviously I never told him since I knew there was no point, he had a girlfriend whom he loved so much, and I was always the person he would go to when he had problems with her, which was so hard for me to hear, so I did what every person would do in that situation, try to cut him off from my life, because I just couldnt keep seeing him everyday,
    but even when I tried I couldnt since we had the same circle of friends, until he finally moved away one day, and to this day, I cant tell my friends about what happened since they are also his friends, that is part of what made it so hard, I couldnt confide what I was feeling, and I always felt it was so sad that he not only did feel the same way, but he didnt even realize it.

    has this ever happened to some of you?

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    Dec 10, 2009 11:42 PM GMT
    Yes,...but TO me WITH girls, and I've moved away and never realized it too.

    I'd still braid their hair for them and do their nails; talk about boys, etc.

    If I have a crush on another guy and he's with a girl, I let it go.
  • jrs1

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    Dec 11, 2009 1:42 AM GMT

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    ... * pounds bed * why you gotta be straight?!
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    Dec 11, 2009 1:53 AM GMT
    jrs1 said
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    ... * pounds bed * why you gotta be straight?!


    but we can still "imagine"

    "Oh Good Morning!"
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    Dec 11, 2009 1:54 AM GMT
    MeOhMy said
    jrs1 said
    duh-duh1233387823.jpg

    5975_112548692203_653852203_2797670_5190

    ... * pounds bed * why you gotta be straight?!


    but we can still "imagine"

    "Oh Good Morning!"


    Holy shit! and he can work his way around some tools vry niceicon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 11, 2009 2:00 AM GMT
    yeah reminiscing.

    IF ONLY MEMORIES WERE MADE OF GLASS !!!!
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    Dec 11, 2009 2:57 AM GMT
    YES. At least that a while back. thank god. He just emailed me and told me that his new bf was moving in and he was worried about it.
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 11, 2009 2:58 AM GMT
    ...not until I joined this site icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 11, 2009 3:00 AM GMT
    yes. We did have bit attraction until 2 ghetto queens went after him. He married with nice lady
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    Dec 11, 2009 3:01 AM GMT
    Yup and still am...
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    Dec 11, 2009 3:06 AM GMT
    Calvin said
    MeOhMy said
    jrs1 said
    duh-duh1233387823.jpg

    5975_112548692203_653852203_2797670_5190

    ... * pounds bed * why you gotta be straight?!


    but we can still "imagine"

    "Oh Good Morning!"


    Holy shit! and he can work his way around some tools vry niceicon_biggrin.gif


    Yeah, he can pound his hammer into my frame, any day.
    he can:
    -- clean my gutters
    -- build me a bench and bend me over it
    -- shingle me somethin' awful
    -- power drill me anytime
    -- jackhammer my back porch



    ... in case i was being too subtle...




    HE CAN EFF ME UP THE ARSE
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    Dec 11, 2009 3:08 AM GMT
    MeOhMy said
    Calvin said
    MeOhMy said
    jrs1 said
    duh-duh1233387823.jpg

    5975_112548692203_653852203_2797670_5190

    ... * pounds bed * why you gotta be straight?!


    but we can still "imagine"

    "Oh Good Morning!"


    Holy shit! and he can work his way around some tools vry niceicon_biggrin.gif


    Yeah, he can pound his hammer into my frame, any day.
    he can:
    -- clean my gutters
    -- build me a bench and bend me over it
    -- shingle me somethin' awful
    -- power drill me anytime
    -- jackhammer my back porch



    ... in case i was being too subtle...




    HE CAN EFF ME UP THE ARSE



    Wow i think your verbiage is more sexy than the guy.
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    Dec 11, 2009 3:41 AM GMT
    Yeah it happened to me and it was exactly the same situation. Except It happened like a year ago during college when I was still coming to terms with my homosexuality.

    To start off I'm the type of guy who doesn't fall in love easily but this friend of mine really had me head over heels. It was crazy because we complimented each other in every way and shared so much things in common. We had this bromance thing going on all the time because we would always hang out and do things together all the time. Our classmates thought that we were dating when we weren't and would always get poked fun off because of this fact. For all they know was that we were both straight guys hanging out with each other.

    However, things got awkward down the road because it was also the time when I was still coming out to myself and coming to terms that I was gay. Since this guy was a close friend I wanted to tell him so bad but found out he was homophobic. Realizing this and discovering that he hooked up with one of the girls in our class and is dating her broke my heart. All i can say is that I never ever cried so hard in my life. Eventually we grew apart because of my fear that he would deny me as his friend and in addition he changed during the school year. After we graduated from school we never saw each other again.

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    Dec 11, 2009 3:54 AM GMT
    the people you can't have are the safest ones to fall in love with.
  • bryjeepguy

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    Dec 11, 2009 4:02 AM GMT
    Unfornately yes, and not just the crushes I have on nice guys I find on here all the time, lol because they live far away and/or already in a relationship lol. But I have fallen in love with my best friend but he didn't feel same way because we were just friends too long and I apparently was put in permanent friends-zone, which wouldn't have been so bad but then things got akward between us so he we stopped hanging out even though I kept trying he kept forgetting about me and plans we make and calling me a lier and eventually I just had to cut him out of my life because he was being a jerk to me.
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    Dec 11, 2009 4:12 AM GMT
    fernando_9999 saidthis happened to me once, he was a good friend, I amired him alot and we had so much in common, he was nice, noble, very caring, optimistic, unique, always thought that he would one day change the world, everything anyone would look for in a person, he understood me like no other person did, like he would always know how I was feeling without me conveying it with words, but there was only one problem, he was straight.

    it was complete torture, it was so hard to see him everyday knowing that nothing can ever happen, obviously I never told him since I knew there was no point, he had a girlfriend whom he loved so much, and I was always the person he would go to when he had problems with her, which was so hard for me to hear, so I did what every person would do in that situation, try to cut him off from my life, because I just couldnt keep seeing him everyday,
    but even when I tried I couldnt since we had the same circle of friends, until he finally moved away one day, and to this day, I cant tell my friends about what happened since they are also his friends, that is part of what made it so hard, I couldnt confide what I was feeling, and I always felt it was so sad that he not only did feel the same way, but he didnt even realize it.

    has this ever happened to some of you?



    exact same thing.
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    Dec 11, 2009 4:21 AM GMT
    You cannot have

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  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 11, 2009 4:29 AM GMT
    Yes I have. The weird thing is that every time that has ever happened to me, at some point later down the road that person reappeared in my life and was suddenly interested in me. Of course, by then I couldn't have been less interested. Sucks how we want what we can't have, and don't always want what we can.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 11, 2009 4:37 AM GMT
    jprichva said
    CuriousJockAZ saidYes I have. The weird thing is that every time that has ever happened to me, at some point later down the road that person reappeared in my life and was suddenly interested in me.

    Not to break the streak, sweetheart, but I'll always think of you as just a friend. No offense.



    Oh no offense taken... just relief icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Dec 11, 2009 4:57 AM GMT
    Yes I Have.

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    Dec 11, 2009 4:58 AM GMT
    usually
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    Dec 11, 2009 5:03 AM GMT
    Yes, spent 3 years faking a friendship and looking at his two girlfriends he had during that time. All that time I behaved like we were not friends, but like we were together. He never said anything. It was when I tried to make the second girlfriend cool off of him that he said we can't be friends anymore. Dumped a BFF for a bitch. I must have been really horrible.

    It was a terrible summer after that. I think I would still love him if I didn't know what a bad person he is.
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:30 AM GMT
    Always
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:39 AM GMT
    No.
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:45 AM GMT
    He was someone on my H20-polo team in college. A God in so many ways.....but straight. I even hoped to "turn" him but it was not going to happen. Also - it was not love..........just deep admiration - it paled big time in comparison to what I have now.....which is real love.