Married Men

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    Dec 10, 2009 11:47 PM GMT
    Am I the only one who feels insulted when a married man hits on him?
    I know to a certain degree it's meant as a compliment but I can't help but feel grossed out and insulted no matter how smooth the offer or how hot the guy.
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    Dec 11, 2009 2:22 AM GMT
    Yeah, I'm with you on that one. All I can think is what if my sister's husband did something like that to her? I'd want to punch his face in.
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    Dec 11, 2009 2:36 AM GMT
    cheating is still cheating. even if its a random boy toy on the side.

    to the best of my ability i'd make sure i wasnt involved with someone who is married.

    and if someone is married them unfortunately i view them as sick devo's if they are trying to experiment with their gay inclinations. its still cheating on your partner !

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    Dec 11, 2009 2:39 AM GMT
    Married Men...takes one to know one. I am one and know several...in the Biblical sense.icon_redface.gif
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    Dec 11, 2009 2:45 AM GMT
    BiGymGuy saidMarried Men...takes one to know one. I am one and know several...in the Biblical sense.icon_redface.gif


    haha.. if a married guy cheats its his choice
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    Dec 11, 2009 2:49 AM GMT
    Not interested is the first thing that comes to my mind when somebody married approaches me. Not just married somebody who is in a stable relationship as well.
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    Dec 11, 2009 4:11 AM GMT
    Married or partnered = trouble to me... I learned my lesson the hard way which is probably why I feel so gross about it now. I don't think it's my responsibility to maintain the integrity of anyone elses relationship but for me there is nothing exciting, fun or ok about being someone's "beckon call boy". I'll worry about my own dignity and let everyone else worry about theirs.
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    Dec 11, 2009 4:40 AM GMT
    I'll say once again, no need to feel insulted!

    You treat them like shit, fuck them and get lots of gifts and goodies.

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    Dec 11, 2009 6:14 AM GMT
    If it's just sex - I don't care. He is still going to cheat with or without me, so I might as well enjoy the sex. And I have - once. It was great.

    However if he wants to have something more serious with me, it can't happen if he's married (or has boyfriend/girlfriend)

    And btw I don't get the whole bisexual thing, it's so messed up. I mean - pick a side and stay there icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:53 AM GMT
    fulldelight saidIf it's just sex - I don't care. He is still going to cheat with or without me, so I might as well enjoy the sex. And I have - once. It was great.

    However if he wants to have something more serious with me, it can't happen if he's married (or has boyfriend/girlfriend)

    And btw I don't get the whole bisexual thing, it's so messed up. I mean - pick a side and stay there icon_rolleyes.gif


    Why not just fuck freely? and safely?
  • drypin

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    Dec 11, 2009 11:19 AM GMT
    Insulted? No, I can't say I would have ever understood that as an insult, unless I'd just finished telling him I'm not into married guys and/or I'm looking for someone emotionally available.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Dec 11, 2009 12:22 PM GMT
    Being hit on by anyone is a compliment.
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    Dec 11, 2009 1:21 PM GMT
    Are we talking about str8 married men or married men in general?
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    Dec 11, 2009 1:24 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidAm I the only one who feels insulted when a married man hits on him?
    I know to a certain degree it's meant as a compliment but I can't help but feel grossed out and insulted no matter how smooth the offer or how hot the guy.


    Dont' worry...I would never hit on you!
  • bijockmuscle

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    Dec 11, 2009 1:24 PM GMT
    jimbobthedevil saidYeah, I'm with you on that one. All I can think is what if my sister's husband did something like that to her? I'd want to punch his face in.


    YOu either!
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    Dec 11, 2009 1:26 PM GMT
    LOL! Ain't this fun?!icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 11, 2009 2:01 PM GMT
    fulldelight saidIf it's just sex - I don't care. He is still going to cheat with or without me, so I might as well enjoy the sex. And I have - once. It was great.

    However if he wants to have something more serious with me, it can't happen if he's married (or has boyfriend/girlfriend)

    And btw I don't get the whole bisexual thing, it's so messed up. I mean - pick a side and stay there icon_rolleyes.gif


    I agree with you! If it´s just sex, I don´t see the problem. Their wife/girlfriend/boyfriend is their drama. I don´t go seeking these types out persey, but it won't rule out a hook up, but there won´t be a long-term relationship obviously once a cheater always a cheater!
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    Dec 11, 2009 5:59 PM GMT
    bijockmuscle said Dont' worry...I would never hit on you!
    Thank god for small favors... small being the operative word.
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:05 PM GMT
    FreeThinker2010 said
    fulldelight saidIf it's just sex - I don't care. He is still going to cheat with or without me, so I might as well enjoy the sex. And I have - once. It was great.

    However if he wants to have something more serious with me, it can't happen if he's married (or has boyfriend/girlfriend)

    And btw I don't get the whole bisexual thing, it's so messed up. I mean - pick a side and stay there icon_rolleyes.gif


    Why not just fuck freely? and safely?

    Well, darling, I do fuck freely and safely icon_smile.gif Just because the guy is married does not make the sex any less free or safe.
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:07 PM GMT
    MadeNUSA saidI'll say once again, no need to feel insulted!
    You treat them like shit, fuck them and get lots of gifts and goodies.
    You have said it before, and I followed this vein of thought a year or so ago and I ended up with great gifts, nice trips and a compost bin that was perpetually full of dying flowers... I also ended up with a stalker for over a year and served him three restraining orders, endured three hearings, four police reports, one home break-in, multiple visits and gifts to my work, two physical attacks, two attorneys and 15K in legal fees.

    ...the gifts and goodies... "not really worth it".
  • GQjock

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    Dec 11, 2009 6:16 PM GMT
    When a Married guy or a partnered guy hits on me

    ..... The Universe gives me permission to let loose


    WHO DA HELL ....... ? icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:18 PM GMT
    jlly_rnchr saidBeing hit on by anyone is a compliment.
    Verbalizing an appreciation for some aspect of my person is a compliment, I don't care where those come from, their flattering and welcome.

    Flippantly asking me to make available my time, space, body and screaming orgasms to someone who expects me to jump through hoops of fire because of HIS time restrictions, marital hindrances, social shame and need to stick his dick in a hole IS insulting.

    God forbid there's actual talking because then I would get to hear about either marital bliss or marital woes. This isn't my first time around the block, I like my sex partners unattached.
    If I wanted to have a secret sex life I would have stayed in the closet.
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:19 PM GMT
    Damn. I have never considered being hit on by the married or attached to be insulting, but after reading the post above this one, I am reconsidering.

    I don't mess with the married or attached regardless.
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:23 PM GMT
    KepaArg said
    fulldelight saidIf it's just sex - I don't care. He is still going to cheat with or without me, so I might as well enjoy the sex. And I have - once. It was great.
    I agree with you! If it´s just sex, I don´t see the problem. Their wife/girlfriend/boyfriend is their drama. I don´t go seeking these types out persey, but it won't rule out a hook up, but there won´t be a long-term relationship obviously once a cheater always a cheater!
    Yeah, Yeah, Yeah... I feel bad for the significant other being fucked around on, "B.O.O.H.O.O.".
    Not my relationship to manage.

    My beef is some guy thinking he is SO great of a lay that I need to compromise a myriad of aspects of my life and time to accommodate him. I know I'm a great lay, I can get sex from many, many places I don't need to jump on every train that pulls into the station.

    I have yet to experience a fuck that glorious. I'm no one's dirty secret... keep your shame and your dick in your pants and find somewhere else to unload both.
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    Dec 12, 2009 1:44 AM GMT
    We love EasilyDistracted, who, as it turns out isn't. Nope. Not at all.

    Up here 'married man' no longer means 'straight' automatically.icon_wink.gif

    We flirt strictly in fun on RJ, and to fit in, and any that think otherwise are silly silly men. icon_rolleyes.gif

    ...oh, and everything EasilyDistracted said is bang on, and spoken as only a Unicorn can.

    -Unicorns