How do YOU quantify Love?

  • pav1

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    Dec 11, 2009 4:52 PM GMT
    Do you measure it as 10 hugs a day or do you measure it as someone saying to you "I Love you". Do you measure it as a act of reaching out to someone in need?. How does someone quanity Love? How do YOU quantify Love?
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    Dec 11, 2009 4:56 PM GMT
    I don't quantify love, but I do qualify it. Whether 10 hugs or 1, I know when a man loves me, and when he doesn't. And likewise, I know the same about myself regarding him.

    How do I know? My heart tells me, in ways I cannot list or quantify. But I trust to my feelings, that rarely let me down. When a man loves me, and I love him, I simply know it. Like gaydar, a sense I suppose you either have, or you don't, and nothing that can be taught.
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    Dec 11, 2009 5:28 PM GMT
    In 525,600 minutes ;)

    I agree with Vespa.
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:25 PM GMT
    If you're looking to quantify it, then you're not in love.

    I could wax poetic here, but I'm afraid the deficit of my writing skills would come across as cloying or worse, saccharine.
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:32 PM GMT
    I suppose I qualify love with a quantity. It’s tied into how often he touches, snuggles, kisses me. If he tells me he loves me on the spur of the moment, instead of at the end of every call. It doesn’t have to be a set amount, but if there is not quantity, there is no quality…if that makes sense.

    I suppose Red is right. You can tell when the love is gone. It shows in lack of quantity. For me anyway.
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:33 PM GMT
    I quantify mine in inches... 9 preferably.

    Moi? A size queen?
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    Dec 11, 2009 6:37 PM GMT
    manjet09 saidI quantify mine in inches... 9 preferably.

    Moi? A size queen?


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    Dec 11, 2009 6:39 PM GMT
    n8698u said
    manjet09 saidI quantify mine in inches... 9 preferably.

    Moi? A size queen?


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  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 11, 2009 7:32 PM GMT
    The Bod Pod, it calculates your BMI and Love Quotient. Interestingly, there is a relationship between your BMI and Love Quotient.

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    Dec 11, 2009 7:41 PM GMT
    i've always wanted to do the bod pod.. we have one.. but instead i've used and do the DEXA.. its more accurate.. but doesn't tell me anything about love icon_sad.gif

    But the love of my life is coming down for my birthday (today), so i'm eagerly awaiting his arrival, and can't wait!

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    Dec 11, 2009 7:47 PM GMT
    zsocerstar saidi've always wanted to do the bod pod.. we have one.. but instead i've used and do the DEXA.. its more accurate.. but doesn't tell me anything about love icon_sad.gif

    But the love of my life is coming down for my birthday (today), so i'm eagerly awaiting his arrival, and can't wait!



    Hey....happy birthday Zsocerstar! Sounds like a great birthday present!
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    Dec 11, 2009 8:04 PM GMT
    I had to look that word up to understand it's usage here...

    If you're meaning, "number of times love is expressed determines depth of sincerity of love" then no, neither of us measure it that way because in our pasts some of the shallowest and insincere men have said, "I love you" constantly while they cheated behind our backs.

    We express our love for each other constantly but with a huge difference : it's obviously sincere, and we take great pains to demonstrate that sincerity, here on RJ and to the world, to each other, and to our friends and family.

    So really, for us it's a mixture.

    Sure we get roasted snarkily from time to time on here by a few, which has about as much impact on us as a squirrel scolding us in the backyard, lol.
    -Doug

  • GQjock

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    Dec 11, 2009 8:06 PM GMT
    Love is never having to take out your calculator icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 11, 2009 8:20 PM GMT
    meninlove said I had to look that word up to understand it's usage here...

    If you're meaning, "number of times love is expressed determines depth of sincerity of love" then no, neither of us measure it that way because in our pasts some of the shallowest and insincere men have said, "I love you" constantly while they cheated behind our backs.

    We express our love for each other constantly but with a huge difference : it's obviously sincere, and we take great pains to demonstrate that sincerity, here on RJ and to the world, to each other, and to our friends and family.

    So really, for us it's a mixture.

    Sure we get roasted snarkily from time to time on here by a few, which has about as much impact on us as a squirrel scolding us in the backyard, lol.
    -Doug



    So do you squirrels bark at you too? I get that a lot from the squirrels in the back yard....they think they own the nut tree.
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    Dec 11, 2009 8:27 PM GMT
    lol, ours are likely scandalized by our, er, salacious behaviour. lol!

    (imagine squirrels clutching their hazelnuts dramatically to their chests in moral outrage)


    -Doug
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    Dec 11, 2009 8:29 PM GMT
    pav1 saidDo you measure it as 10 hugs a day or do you measure it as someone saying to you "I Love you". Do you measure it as a act of reaching out to someone in need?. How does someone quanity Love? How do YOU quantify Love?


    finite slope vs infinite slope.

    I don't.
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    Dec 11, 2009 10:32 PM GMT
    The Wild Reed, Song of Songs, Solomon, Bible
    I hear my love, see how he comes
    leaping on the mountains,
    bounding over the hills.
    My love is like a gazelle,
    like a young stag.

    How delightful you are Caleh,
    My lover-man, my other half.
    Your pleasing masculine love is better than wine.
    The smell of your body is better than perfume.
    Your moustache waxed with honeycomb.
    Honey and milk are under your tongue.
    The scent of your clothing is like the smell of Lebanon wood.
    Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth,
    for your love-making is sweeter than wine.
    In his delightful shade I sit,
    and his fruit is sweet to my taste.
    My love is mine and I am his.

    Just Be.
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    Dec 11, 2009 11:00 PM GMT
    Hmmm.....this is a subject that has been on my mind a lot as of late.

    How would I quantify love...

    I would do something nice for that person just because I felt like doing it...their smile would be all I would need to see.

    I would not mind doing those things that others might consider gross...trimming back hair, manicures, pedicures, and it would not bother me because I am doing it to the one I love.

    Text them and tell them "I'm not sure if anyone has told you lately...but I love you, or you're the greatest".

    Knowing that the person that I love is not perfect (who is), but loving them unconditionally none the same.

    I could go on and on here. Maybe I'm just a big gushy romantic...but I know there are others out there who feel the same way. If I am in love, there is nothing that I would not do for the one that I love...simple as that!
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    Dec 11, 2009 11:40 PM GMT
    I think it's important to quantify everything. I only use highly scientific methods to tell me what to do in every aspect of my life. I find it can answer all the popular RJ questions:

    * Hairy or smooth?
    * How old is too old?
    * Boxers or briefs?
    * Does bisexuality exist?
    * Is he gay?
    * Can I be a devout [Catholic| Protestant | Jew | Muslim | Republican] and still be gay?
    * How masculine am I?
    * I'm 20 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Should I end it all now?
    * Where are all the "good" guys?
    * What should I do if someone looks at me in the [locker room | shower | bar | Home Depot]?

    For example, the following scientific tool can help the OP quantify love very simply:








    Just remember what Mr. Science Bear says, kids: it isn't real until you can assign a number to it!

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  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 11, 2009 11:43 PM GMT
    1+1
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    Dec 12, 2009 12:01 AM GMT
    The only thing about love that I will quantify, is the amount of time spent away from the person that I love... because, to a point, it's unbearable.

    agree?
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    Dec 12, 2009 2:01 AM GMT
    The only way to quantify love is through the created system of time. But, I don't believe that can accurately depict a true picture of love. Love is trust, hope, understanding the past, looking towards the future with someone who just drives you wild each time you think about them. It's tenderly caring for someone, it's the bliss brought whenever you get that phone call, the unexpected visit, a tender kiss, being able to cry, or laughing uncontrollably at something stupid.

    Call me stupid or crazy, but I think love changes and is different for each individual. There is nothing that I desire more than to love another man with every ounce of my being, but it takes time to develop the relationship to point when I'll say "I love you" (for the 1st time in any relationship) to another man.
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    Dec 13, 2009 9:08 AM GMT
    This song sums it up quite beautifully. (Pun intended.)



    The book of love is long and boring; no one can lift the damn thing. It's full of charts, and facts and figures, and instructions for dancing.

    But I love it when you read to me. And you can read me anything.

    The book of love has music in it; in fact, that's where music comes from. Some of it is just transcendental, some of it is just really dumb.

    But I love it when you sing to me. And you can sing me anything.

    The book of love is long and boring, and written very long ago. It's full of flowers, and heart-shaped boxes, and things we're all too young to know.

    But I love it when you give me things. And you ought to give me wedding rings.